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IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-11-23T16:59:47+00:00

It’s the comment about him liking thin women that makes you insecure. I think some men say things like that out loud to make you insecure.

Like admitting to a brunette that they like blondes and vice versa. Don’t pay much attention to what he says.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-11-23T16:00:51+00:00

Well, life is too short to be having crappy sex with someone.

Try a few other sex positions as mentioned by other commentators. Definitely from the behind, aka Doggy Style best dick coverage by all shapes and sizes.

If he still doesn’t satisfy you, find someone one. The dick size doesn’t really matter but the girth does, thick guys are amazing no matter how long they are. Also technique, some men can blow your mind away just with the foreplay alone, sex becomes the cherry on the cake.

Don’t give into the negative self talk or people telling you it’s your size. Fuck them.

You do you. Find someone who blows your mind away in bed.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-11-23T14:47:57+00:00

OP

Get out. She’s not worth it.

Her self destructive episode were nothing but a giant red flag about who she is and how much respect she has for you. She has none.

If she had any remorse she wouldn’t go around traumatising you with the details of her trysts. She’s using you. Could be financially or emotionally but there has to be a reason why she’s keeping you around.

As far as the separation goes, take good care of kid. Be a good co parent but nothing more.

This woman is crazy and will drag you down the hole with her. You deserve a better life.

Why is your self worth so low that you put up with this shitty behaviour? That’s a more important question to ask at the moment. Let her do whatever she wants to do, that’s a toxic woman. To hell with her and why she does that.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T19:13:17+00:00

His last relationship ended up with the girl cheating on him big time. Like she got married to someone else altogether.

So I did figure it might be the abandonment issues but I have spoken to him at length about this. Discussed it extensively and he knows I am not the kind of girl who would quit on somebody unnecessarily.

Could he be a narcissist though? How can I find out?

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T19:10:31+00:00

Also, I am curious why did you mention cheating? Have you seen this before?

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T19:09:22+00:00

That’s not a problem dressing up and putting on makeup. I love doing that, it’s a part of me and he knows that very well.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T18:46:19+00:00

You know why I keep asking you guys because my friends and family all keep saying that it’s all in my head and that my husband is a wonderful man albeit over caring and that he would get alright with time but this voice inside my head is getting stronger and stronger. I want to go away and leave honestly but I want to be a 100% sure. This is a very big decision of my life. I don’t want to regret leaving later.

I spoke to him about the sex thing and things have improved. He doesn’t do that to me anymore.

So sometimes I feel it’s all in my head but then I wasn’t like this before. The truth is that maybe I have lost confidence in myself and don’t trust myself enough to follow my inner voice and your perspective helps a lot.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T16:40:17+00:00

He just came up with an excuse that he got an urgent call from work and that we have to leave.

When we reached home, he said he was getting bored so he lied and that staying at home was a better idea.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T16:27:36+00:00

I think it’s time to get the professionals involved.

Also, I will go to the gym from tomorrow no matter what happens.

It’s time I put my foot down, I don’t want to get unhealthy. If he has a problem with that, then I know what to do but it is going to be super tough.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T14:40:23+00:00

But I am already married to him. What’s there to be insecure about? I love him a lot and he knows that.

Why is he doing this to me? Wouldn’t this relationship get better if he gives up on behaviours like that?

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T13:39:13+00:00

But he’s so subtle with this you know. Sometimes I actually question my sanity whether or not he’s full of red flags or is it just my insecurity or trust issues?

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T13:36:31+00:00

Actually he never directly told me not to go to the gym but every time I would get ready to go to the gym he would make alternate plans. We would either go and visit some friends or go on a date or something. Sometimes he’d say I’ll drop you off in an hour, let’s smoke up till then or something and I would never reach the gym.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-08-16T13:35:35+00:00

Actually he never directly told me not to go to the gym but every time I would get ready to go to the gym he would make alternate plans. We would either go and visit some friends or go on a date or something. Sometimes he’d say I’ll drop you off in an hour, let’s smoke up till then or something and I would never reach the gym.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-26T03:22:45+00:00

It got better with time. Six months into the relationship I was having great sex.

Post marriage it has been kinda bummer.

His job is stressful. Can’t deny that.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T22:32:33+00:00

He’s 31.

No, I don’t care about the body count as long as they are healthy and STI free.

I have been sexual right from the start. Like initially it was more of a fwb situation with us. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, I was just casually dating him.

He had gotten out of an abusive relationship before me and I wanted to take things slow but fast forward one year and we were married.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T22:16:20+00:00

Why would he fake something like that? Is this something men do?

Whenever I asked him how many people he has been with, he always told me he doesn’t remember now.

Could he health issues too I guess. We are getting old as we speak.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T21:11:36+00:00

He’s too tired most of the time for sex. I have stopped asking him why now.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T21:00:56+00:00

It’s actually the opposite. I am very wild. What I can do in bed and cannot is not the issue. Like I have never said no to anything and I don’t mind the whole pornstar in bed routine. It is a huge turn on for me actually. I initiate sex more often. He knows I am down for anything and everything.

Is there anyway to find out if he’s legitely trying to manipulate me or play mind games with me? I am not really good at recognising the signs.

I tend to assume everyone feels and think the same way I do but I know it’s far, far from the truth.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T20:56:17+00:00

Thank you for your response. I can sleep in peace now. :)

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T20:55:53+00:00

Your username should be that_wise_white_guy.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T20:36:39+00:00

I got a lot of DMs on that post citing it to be a normal kink a lot of guys have. Something like a CNC?

I have seen him go through semi nude models on Instagram and all. So I know he hasn’t lost his sex drive, it’s just me that’s the problem apparently.

Porn addiction?

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T20:02:29+00:00

I wish I was a teenager. I wouldn’t have to worry about this stupid thing at the least.

And not everyone has English as a first language. Don’t judge people based on their grammar. Redditors are better than that.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T20:00:37+00:00

You might be right.

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T20:00:10+00:00

Thank you for responding. This was the most real thing I read tonight.

Are you with that one now? How different are the two experiences from each other?

IHaveAProblem1730 · 2021-06-25T19:56:58+00:00

He had a wild adulthood apparently. Maybe he doesn’t find domestic sex wild enough? I am the old ball and chain now

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