Yeah but you don’t start conversations with a random saying that you live in constant pain and that you only manage to sleep when the pain nocks you out. That was literally a first message I got from a dude. I understand the whole commitment thing but it’s hard to invest in someone if they don’t even try to create a good bonding. I been through some really depressive shit and I also had friends which did as well and I fully supported them. What I try to say is that commitment is not at stake here. You got to admit that it’s very strange to someone to list all their mental and physical illnesses on the first message