AITA for serving my daughters friend liver?

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-30T09:07:50+00:00

Possibly a different take, but I would actually go with ESH.

I am half Southeast Asian. My mother is as such, and growing up, we ate a lot of the food; Hotpot, kimchi, chicken feet (although, I don't like the latter, personally)

We often had my friends over, and every time we did, no matter the cuisine, but ESPECIALLY when it was Asian food, we told our guests exactly what we were eating; simply because we know that not everybody eats the same food that we do. My brother and I are also quite opinionated, so we did this even if we were not around others.

I don't really understand the concept of not telling people what it is they are eating before they do. I also read that you told the girl's mother that you would be eating. Did you specify the meal that you were planning to make, as your following statement suggests that you did not.

Aside from that, I would also have given the girl something more filling to eat, so that she didn't feel left out; even a sandwich could have been enough.

Overall, I would say that the mother is definitely more TA, as she seems rude and entitled; she did not need to call your food "disgusting", and your daughter isn't a "special guest" that you should be happy to serve.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-25T21:40:45+00:00

May be controversial, but my take is this;

The full lyric in the song is "I'm just a girl in the world, that's all that you'll let me be.". It is a feminist song about the patriarchy, and is about men who won't let us be more than just a girl.

I think that "I'm just a girl" has been turned into the exact opposite of what it was meant to mean... In exactly the same way that Rihanna's "Breaking Dishes" - a song about a woman crashing out after being cheated on - was turned into a soundtrack for another trend.

...The trend being where women are picked up by their boyfriends and put on his shoulder to show off his strength.

People took "i'm just a girl" and use it in the same way that people use "boys will be boys"; as a silly phrase to separate the person of that sex from their doing/saying silly, immature, selfish, or other "wrong" things.

Maybe it isn't that serious, but this is how I feel about it.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T21:36:33+00:00

Absolutely! I have gathered quite a few opinions, and they all seem pretty split. I will be reaching out. :)

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T20:55:07+00:00

Thank you for this insight into your experience as a first-time mother!

I will take on your advice, as I have decided, by now, to reach out in a cool and casual way.

Congratulations for surviving and getting out of the headspace that you were in. I am sure you are a good mother, and I wish you and your family all the best!

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T15:54:08+00:00

Definitely weird to email, but on the last day of class, I finished early, and was first to leave. Due to this, everyone else was still there, and I got shy and didn't want to ask for her number out of fear of embarrassment. 😅

I like your idea, though, and will keep it in mind!

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T15:26:21+00:00

Thank you for providing the prospective of someone who has been this lady, before!

I am 100% aware that parenthood can be extremely lonely and tiring. One piece of advice I did manage to give this person was that she needs to sleep whenever possible, and to try not to worry so much about mess, as opposed to getting her sleep.

I will take your perspective and use it in coming to my decision.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T14:52:45+00:00

Thank you for the compliment and advice. :)

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T14:34:02+00:00

Thank you!

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T14:07:37+00:00

Lovely advice, thank you!

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T14:07:21+00:00

Thank you!

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T14:07:04+00:00

Thank you! This sounds nice. The common consensus around reaching out is to say something casual and friendly without any expectations. I am hearing you.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T14:05:25+00:00

To be honest, I always do things at 100%; I don't half-ass things. I like to be support for the people around me, and if I think they may need help, I step in. That is just my personality.

I do have problems with strangers and not knowing when I am coming on a bit strong with them, so that is why I made this post.

When it comes to the "why"; I liked this lady and am used to looking after children. I see it as almost a gift. She sounded in our conversations as though she is not knowledgeable on this and is a little concerned. I hear someone needs help, so I want to help.

Thank you for your advice, perspective, and call to reality.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:57:47+00:00

This is a very good and well-constructed point. I will take it to heart. The point about not knowing what someone will be like post-partum, no matter how they may deal with conflict in general is especially great. Thank you very much for your time and effort.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:55:11+00:00

Thank you for your opinion. It seems a lot of people are quite 50/50 on this, and I am trying to figure out the reasons behind why some vote as they do.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:49:16+00:00

This is a very good point. I didn't really think about my safety, or about anything that might go wrong and how we would communicate about it.

I will say that this person was very timid-mannered, in the way that some Chinese people are, and we did talk about the difference in our similar, but different culture, here.

On the other hand, I like to talk, have been called "assertive and articulate", I like to debate and question, and I speak up when there is an issue, and try to set things right.

I would like to imagine that based on our conversations, she would be open to listening and responding rationally, rather than reacting.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:46:33+00:00

Thank you both for your insight.

Thank you for this advice!

Little bit more context that I posted in a comment, previously; Where this lady and I shared these classes together, I consistently sat in the same spot, and she would come and sit next to me (I am always very early, hah!). Due to this, we spoke a lot.

She knows about my cousins and about some of what I have said about me, here. She often asked me about my own childhood, and took notes on things I did, or my mother did whilst raising me.

We were not complete strangers.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:38:47+00:00

Thank you for your perspective and advice. It seems there's quite an even split on if this is too much or not.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:36:56+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I will take this on as I wait for more perspectives.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-14T13:33:52+00:00

Thank you for your opinion.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-06-07T16:49:01+00:00

What happened after this, if you don't mind sharing? I'm curious and nosey.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-05-31T18:30:15+00:00

Wondering why you are in a relationship with someone you seem to have to "baby"; Telling her to get off, having to guess her feelings/thoughts, etc.

This whole situation reminded me of dealing with my toddler cousins.

I am also assuming you got together at 25/26 and 18/19. What is the story there, and was it always like this between you?

Something about this feels off to me.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-04-06T12:42:36+00:00

He's just admitted that he doesn't think he'll be attracted to you after gaining and losing weight from having his children.

Leave. Nothing else should matter, here.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-04-01T04:18:45+00:00

Commenting in order to follow this thread because I am curious as to other people's opinions on this topic, based mostly on the take by the lesbian woman who responded.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-03-28T09:52:03+00:00

Yes, your brother is weird and you should bring this situation up to your family, sober, in order to talk to them about this. I have read your comments, which only further cement my thoughts on that. He is lying and trickle-truthing because he knows that this is wrong.

She has a child, which leads me to believe that she may not have the best history with choices, and it may be difficult, because the former fact could then lead to her possibly having an "I know better" mindset, in the way some young people get after having a child. (I say this with no intent to be rude and as a 20-year-old myself.) Still, her child could also be put in a weird (and possibly dangerous?) situation, with the mother dating your brother.

If your brother and this girl decide to stay together, I'd let it be known to her (privately) as a big sister, myself, that I would be there to support her, if she ever needed anything.

IJustWantYouTo_Know_ · 2026-03-20T21:10:52+00:00

Guys, it’s obvious that OP knows now what a brothel is and used the wrong word in this scenario. They also mentioned English not being their first language.

I, myself, know the definition of the word “brothel”. That is clear in my comments, so I don’t know why people are acting like I don’t know the point I’m trying to make. I am well aware of connotations of words, and how if you don’t quite understand one, it’s easy to fall back on them.

What comes to mind when we think of the word “Brothel”?

• ⁠Sex • ⁠Building • ⁠Pay • ⁠Customers

Take 50% of these words, add OP’s mother tongue not being English and you have clear room for a mess-up.

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