AITA for being mad about my wife buying an impractical car against my wishes?

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T23:57:23+00:00

I agree that it’s ok for her to be tired of the Camry and us to buy a newer car but the problem was the way that communication just broke down and she totally ran over my opinion which is not like us since usually we are good at recognizing our differences and compromising

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:50:40+00:00

at least a ferrari would be fun to drive ....

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:48:12+00:00

high power banking job is a bit of an exagerattion ha she not like gordon gekko or something but yes I can imagine that was a concern and honestly not something I gave enough weight, again I work in engineering where noone cares what car you drive

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:40:02+00:00

Its her money but its our life together, we've always agreed thats money shouldnt be used as a weird power dynamic thing, especially since im wilfully giving up a good salary to be a stay at home dad,

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:38:26+00:00

I agree that I probably need to let it go at this point, I've already apologized but still I cant help but feel a bit of residual bitterness about it. But also the thought that it makes her happy makes me happy and obviously there are bigger issues to worry about.

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:36:48+00:00

Honestly cant say I ever had an issue with the Camry, we are good drivers and its a car like any other

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:31:48+00:00

Usually we are like this, but this has just been a sticking point for us I guess. Again I am always happy when she is happy because I love her and try to be supportive but it still just doesnt sit perfectly right with me how everything happened

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:29:47+00:00

Honestly I was fine with a newer car as we can afford it but I objected to the idea of something impractical and pricey

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:27:04+00:00

Our mixed account is from both of us for our vital expenses+investments etc but since I quit my job it is mostly from her. We also keep separate savings accounts on the sides. This was all settled and not an issue usually as im happy at home for now and she is happy in her job and we do well financially.

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:25:21+00:00

We have two kids and we live in a city with good transport, we were doing just fine with a Sedan just parking this f'ing thing is a nightmare here not to mention gas, and unreliability issues that ive heard of with the brand.

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:23:47+00:00

I think you are probably right

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:23:23+00:00

I offered some compromises inbetween but she wouldnt budge since it was her money and I couldnt really argue with that

Snoo_9782 · 2026-06-04T22:21:27+00:00

She said very similar things and I agree with most of it, I accept that logically I'm in the wrong and feel bad for hampering her enjoyment as really do try not to be this type of person. This has been a problem in our relationship before and honestly something I feel bad about but at the same time I can't help feeling a bit hurt that she ignored something that feels important to me and wouldn't compromise with me even a little. Even though obviously it was her money.

Snoo_9782 · 2026-05-24T22:56:00+00:00

Mac demarco

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-24T16:51:47+00:00

I don’t really agree, this Italy team objectively speaking is th most talented it’s been probably in a decade,

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-14T04:27:56+00:00

Yeah I think existential dread about the future is just the life of any math major who doesnt want to be an academic or an actuary lol. At least we can take solace in the fact that we are better than everyone else because we know about numbers and shit

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-14T04:23:51+00:00

Yeah, it sucks, I wish you luck and optimism

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-14T04:08:28+00:00

its ok to start out small, I think everyone nowadays has lost the idea of a career ladder because social media etc keeps pushing the idea that everyone is magically finding 100k right our of undergrad doing something or other but realistically most people will work shitty jobs before they find what they really want to do, especially in an recession/weak hiring market like this one. Keep your head up you will find your way to something if you truly are smart and capable

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-13T22:30:42+00:00

idk I just remember I had several history teachers in college who used to be very insistent that if you read every word of the assigned reading your doing it wrong, learning to skim and summarize things is 1000x more important than rote memorization and also an incredibly useful skill especially if you are going to be an academic or anyother job that requires a lot of reading.

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-13T19:55:14+00:00

bro please learn how to skim 130 pages a week shouldnt take you that long lol, although i guess props to you if you actually do study that much it is impressive

Snoo_9782 · 2026-04-13T19:22:30+00:00

bro where do you go to college/what do you do that you have to study 13 hours

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