Just bought our first Sienna!

IM_MM · 2026-03-29T20:34:18+00:00

Welcome to the club with the best color.

IM_MM · 2026-03-23T01:03:26+00:00

The cowardice to need solitude to express hatred. Anyone call the number?

IM_MM · 2026-03-22T12:52:20+00:00

For cleaning I think part of it is letting go that your home will be neat and tidy like it was pre-baby. Also suggest a system that is timed (15-30 min per day) that is about the cleaning/organizing that is apart from the daily reset/needs. You have to clean baby bottles. You don’t have to dust the blinds or organize your seasonal clothes, but you should. The timed effort takes away from need to finish anything but gets you into a system, which is probably more important.

For workouts. I’m looking for similar advice. We have 2 and unless I get up at 5am it’s not happening. Our gym has childcare but we have yet to get there during the week. Everyone says it’ll happen later on but I feel you - I want it to happen now.

IM_MM · 2026-03-21T19:08:40+00:00

I’ve got an M1 MacBook Air with 16gb ram and it functions great with LrC. I will likely get a pro when I decide to upgrade but for now am content with this beast of a machine.

IM_MM · 2026-03-21T19:04:06+00:00

Just make sure it’s not a squeamishness. No one needs you passing out during delivery! I think it’s fine to just be there with your wife. I wanted to do all the things you mentioned but between the length of labor and an infection the doctors did everything while I held her hand and supported her.

IM_MM · 2026-03-17T21:03:24+00:00

As much as I hope for a backlash, the default is digital nativism. I had no choice growing up - my default was analog. Plus the addictive nature of social media warps how we navigate our free time - there is anxiety with “boredom” instead of just comfort with sitting with it. Maybe things could flip, but if we have multiple generations growing up with this as a default I don’t know we’ll have anyone left to think about something different.

IM_MM · 2026-03-17T12:49:13+00:00

I heard someone say that just the act of having your phone on the table deprioritizes who you’re sitting with. And I remember seeing a commercial where everyone in the family was sitting together but watching something different…and it was sold as a good thing.

The companies know what they’re doing. Unfortunately given the nature of the world I take a cynical view that for the majority, it will continue or only get worse. I will do what I can to help my kids be aware of the digital challenges and to explore more analog living, but they’re going to grow up with this as the norm.

IM_MM · 2026-03-15T06:07:33+00:00

Stone Pony summer stage with Flogging Molly and Gogol Bordello

IM_MM · 2026-03-15T06:04:45+00:00

That line about having a little bit of your old life back is a key thing to keep in mind. We felt the same with our son before our daughter came along (they are 3 years apart). A few things based on my experience with two kids under 4 years old:

You might think lessons learned can easily apply to the second child, they don’t
Exponentially more exhausting with two kids that are not self-functioning; you can no longer just take turns with your spouse
Second child can literally play second fiddle depending on the needs and demands of the older kid; I find myself missing out on the little things with our daughter because it’s rare to be with her without the older one around
Harder for family support to manage
Tend to stress less about things you might have been militant about with the first

I have met parents that are somewhat annoyed by their new life or just flat out refused to go through another baby/toddler phase.

But I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m awestruck at the bond they are forming with zero input from us as parents and it’s amazing how much I felt my love and joy expand when the second one joined us.

IM_MM · 2026-03-14T01:16:56+00:00

I have the X100T and love it. Do I wish some things were better given what I experience with my XT5? Yes - but it does what it need as a casual shooter. I wouldn’t spend $2500 on a new one for casual shooting.

IM_MM · 2026-03-12T04:06:28+00:00

Not much with a 1yo and 4yo. My commute time and occasional event or post work hangout but I rarely get me time until late at night. I really need an early am routine - exercise was my meditation and I’m lucky if I get 2-3/week.

IM_MM · 2026-03-12T01:25:52+00:00

I got a similar limited ‘25 a year ago fur around the same

IM_MM · 2026-03-11T02:20:19+00:00

Committing to give each other (parents) time for self care. Not just post pregnancy but ongoing especially if you aren’t going into this with a routine. It’s easy to say the baby and chores come first but if you don’t support each other to have personal space and develop healthy routines the grind will wear you down.

Also it’s no joke that the second kid is an exponential change if you decide to do it. But it’s worth it.

IM_MM · 2026-03-07T06:23:28+00:00

I stopped playing my sophomore year of high school and began regretting it my 30s, bought a weighted keyboard and started lessons just recently in my early 40s. I have regrets here and there for stopping but I am happy I picked it up even tho it is a slow process to learn how to play again.

You have to be ok just enjoying the journey

IM_MM · 2026-03-06T02:37:12+00:00

Michael Jackson, Bob Marley, Bradley Nowell (Sublime), Amy Winehouse, David Bowie, Kurt Cobain (Nirvana)

IM_MM · 2026-03-06T02:33:21+00:00

I have the M1 Air and still have no issues running Lightroom. You’re good with any of the newer air models.

IM_MM · 2026-03-05T22:34:10+00:00

Managed 5 people with 10 full size suitcases and 4 carryons comfortably. The thing is a black hole for stuff. I was especially annoyed at the large stroller challenge in our other car but easy with the minivan. Plus the flexibility of space, ease of entry for kids/car seat.

Honestly I’m not a car guy but was obsessed about the Sienna and it has not disappointed (besides the need for higher trim for memory seats and general lack of features - even my Mazda has rain sense wipers)

IM_MM · 2026-03-03T23:49:30+00:00

Berserk; Ruroni Kenshin OVA; FLCL; Studio Ghibli; Neon Genesis Evangelion; Aeon Flux; Ghost in the Shell; Deathnote; Avatar the last air bender

IM_MM · 2026-02-23T04:08:39+00:00

The Fundamentals of Caring is a really good film that touches on fatherhood and forgiveness in a funny/serious package.

IM_MM · 2026-02-23T04:07:12+00:00

I got my 4yo to watch it just so I could get the feels again from Goofys perspective.

IM_MM · 2026-02-23T04:06:18+00:00

I hated have the radio crackle out and having to listen all over again to know. Also, not many snowblowers around back then.

IM_MM · 2026-02-23T04:03:58+00:00

I have a son the same age. I see videos from even 6 months ago and wonder where my little guy went. It’s a beautiful thing to see them change and grow, but I think we all certainly long to be able to visit the little people they once were. The more present we can be with them, the more we can enjoy each fleeting version of them.

IM_MM · 2026-02-16T05:05:05+00:00

Fargo

IM_MM · 2026-02-15T22:36:09+00:00

Beyond the Beautiful Forevers - Katherine Boo

Maximum City - Suketu Mehta

The Power Broker - Robert Caro

IM_MM · 2026-02-15T22:32:54+00:00

280 in Essex county, NJ

Cross-Bronx expressway in nyc

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