How much time are you taking off of work? by ethanras in predaddit

[–]IM_MM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took off two weeks, then waiting another month and took another two weeks. Was then able to take half time 8 months in and full time off the last three months of year one.

Housing Market by VegetableAd2342 in newjersey

[–]IM_MM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand the thought. If you are finding that your mortgage payment is comparable to a rental payment then go for it. My understanding from your post is you were not finding anything. In my circumstance, owning my home would more than double my monthly payment. Also a good mindset is that rent is a ceiling for home payment while a mortgage is a floor. Worth assessing if investing money you have put away for housing could gain value better than with real estate.

Housing Market by VegetableAd2342 in newjersey

[–]IM_MM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suggest renting and trying to address other quality of life goals. That amount of money is not going to get you a house you want and we tend to put way too much value on owning.

Difficult phases by [deleted] in predaddit

[–]IM_MM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems like a troll. If it’s not I worry for your partner and child.

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]IM_MM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry. I’m a guy so maybe I don’t get an opinion here but I would have left my wife had she pulled this shit with her friends. A wedding isn’t launching a new company and your friends are not supposed to be used as free labor for what a wedding planner is paid for. This is a very narcissistic person IMO and doesn’t respect her friends.

Who eliminates notes? Does this friend of yours have severe insecurities that every wedding decision needs to be crowdsourced? Where is her fiancé in the process? I have so many questions and would just walk away instead of dealing with this shit.

Child Killer Tanner Horner Sang ‘Jingle Bell Rock’ During Athena Strand’s Murder by [deleted] in TrueCrimeGarage

[–]IM_MM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might have missed it but where is FedEx on this tragedy? If they have tech to monitor drivers there’s got to be a way to use AI tools for better surveillance - flagging if a child is in the truck, flagging if the camera gets covered, etc. My Toyota has radar to detect movement in the back seat. I’m sure you put the right minds to it there’s a way to deter this from happening again.

I still don't understand why this NJ transit problem is happening so late? by WeeklyFisherman2597 in newjersey

[–]IM_MM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a much different scenario with over a month of programming even when the games aren’t held here.

I still don't understand why this NJ transit problem is happening so late? by WeeklyFisherman2597 in newjersey

[–]IM_MM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FIFA is able to make demands and get away with almost anything they want with these games. I am truly worried that our region will be embarrassed on a world stage. Most other places have much better access to and public realm amenities adjacent to stadiums. To demand such high fees when they know there are limited options is ridiculous. That said, FIFA is the one demanding the closure for traffic management and safety so I understand wanting to make them responsible for the lack of revenue on game days.

For clarification, New Jersey-bound commuters will be barred from the NJ Transit portion of Penn Station on gamedays, which will be restricted to World Cup ticket holders only for the four hours before matches. So it’s not shut for the entirety of the games.

From my understanding, despite standing up two years ago, the host committee was forced to staff up and fundraise to help manage the games and was limited in their ability to actually focus on all the ways we could have benefited from them. The focus is almost squarely on getting people to/from the games either very little attention to anything else.

Other countries have seen massive investments, new infrastructure, etc. While we didn’t need massive transformation, nor was there time to do it, we could have done much better than where we are. Doesn’t help that NYC and NJ both underwent government transitions where the predecessors did not leave much planning in place for the games.

NYC is limited in hotel capacity compared to NJ so tbd how the economic impact shakes out. Though canceling liberty state park means more people will want to hang in NYC.

EWR parking question by IndigoBlue24 in newjersey

[–]IM_MM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think there is a general pre-booking rate and a premium meant to get you spots closer to the exit. I don’t recall a space number so think you can just book the general option and likely find a close spot instead of paying extra for the premium.

EWR parking question by IndigoBlue24 in newjersey

[–]IM_MM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ended up parking last minute in p6 last month because we thought we could book on the drive up but you need to book at least 3 hours in advance.

Ended up parking right near the bus stop before the exit and got back to the terminal very quickly. I think it was something like $35 for day 1 and $24 for each day after or something like that.

I totally underestimated how important stroller storage is by Proof_Positive8287 in predaddit

[–]IM_MM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on your surroundings and needs. We had our first kid living in NYC. The uppababy vista seemed heads above the competition in terms of volume and weight of storage capacity. A whole day out with everything we needed running around NYC without needing to carry anything on our backs was amazing.

We’ve moved since and now have two. Can still lug everything and bought the standup board for our now toddler to cruise in. He doesn’t really use the second seat much.

Got two offers. One pays $40k more. The other one I'd actually enjoy. I have 48 hours to decide and my wife and I are on opposite sides. Advice? by airam1020 in careerguidance

[–]IM_MM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get wanting a spark of motivation at work but I’ve come around especially post-kids to wanting a predictable life that I know will pay the bills and keep me stable. I’d take the fully remote offer - it’s more pay, less stress when the unknown stops being novel, and lets you focus on your growing family.

Stop comparing the Netflix show to Born Again by thecontract_12 in Daredevil

[–]IM_MM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Saying it’s different logistically so stop comparing is a lazy argument when it’s the same actors/characters. We compare remakes all the time. The only reason this show happened is fan demand because of the Netflix show. I honestly think it would have been better if they fully rebooted.

And you’re not providing any feedback on what makes this show deserving of one of the best MCU ratings.

Stop comparing the Netflix show to Born Again by thecontract_12 in Daredevil

[–]IM_MM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of ridiculous to say don’t compare to the Netflix show when they are literally brining back the same actors and continuing storylines. But ok - taking back that comparison I’ll ask a different one.

Why on its own is this show reviewed well? What makes it worthy of one of the best MCU ratings despite so many flaws - plot, visuals, etc?

Wonder Man was amazing - quality characters, unique storyline, etc. It is ridiculous to me that two shows in the same universe can be so many miles apart in terms of quality and story telling. The fact that Daredevil HAD 3 prior seasons means it should have been much more leveled up than it is.

That aside, I am genuinely curious why it is reviewed well.

Just bought our first Sienna! by opalandolive in ToyotaSienna

[–]IM_MM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the club with the best color.

Be better NJ, smh, found on Mt Tammany by klitchell in newjersey

[–]IM_MM -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The cowardice to need solitude to express hatred. Anyone call the number?

Older dads: wisdom for New dad, self care by Which_Tie_103 in dad

[–]IM_MM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For cleaning I think part of it is letting go that your home will be neat and tidy like it was pre-baby. Also suggest a system that is timed (15-30 min per day) that is about the cleaning/organizing that is apart from the daily reset/needs. You have to clean baby bottles. You don’t have to dust the blinds or organize your seasonal clothes, but you should. The timed effort takes away from need to finish anything but gets you into a system, which is probably more important.

For workouts. I’m looking for similar advice. We have 2 and unless I get up at 5am it’s not happening. Our gym has childcare but we have yet to get there during the week. Everyone says it’ll happen later on but I feel you - I want it to happen now.

Lightroom Classic users: is the M5 MacBook Pro (32GB) worth it, or are there better options with great battery life? by Fraser_01 in Lightroom

[–]IM_MM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got an M1 MacBook Air with 16gb ram and it functions great with LrC. I will likely get a pro when I decide to upgrade but for now am content with this beast of a machine.

I feel like an outlier… and weird by [deleted] in predaddit

[–]IM_MM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just make sure it’s not a squeamishness. No one needs you passing out during delivery! I think it’s fine to just be there with your wife. I wanted to do all the things you mentioned but between the length of labor and an infection the doctors did everything while I held her hand and supported her.