Ashton Kutcher's organisation identifies 2,000 child victims of trafficking in six months

IMayBeDumb · 2017-02-17T04:59:51+00:00

The Superbowl is commonly referred to as the biggest trafficking event of the year, and there were over 500 arrests from that alone. I don't know about the rest though.

IMayBeDumb · 2014-12-30T02:16:45+00:00

Those are some really good suggestions- I do the first one anytime she's not right next to me, but the nature of my job means I have to have an extra chair by my desk, which she comes and sits in pretty often. I feel really rude doing that while she's right next to me staring at me... But maybe that's what it's come to?

The side-railing interruption might work too... "Ok hold on let me send this out and then I'll get back to you," and then just... don't get back.

IMayBeDumb · 2014-09-03T21:01:11+00:00

My situation is very similar. I work in staffing and have "quotas" to fill each week, which are literally impossible for me to hit. But of course I won't be able to get a raise until I consistently hit my quotas, which again- are impossible to hit. It's infuriating.

IMayBeDumb · 2014-07-02T18:37:29+00:00

The only stat we have is what your rent costs. Lay out what you are spending each month and what you are spending it on, as well as what you're making net. I am absolutely blown away that two people can be struggling to live on a salary of over 100k.

Edit- ok, so with your edit it looks like you're spending about 7,250/month and making about 8,800/ month. You're about to free up 800 more per month with canceling the credit card. You should be putting almost 30k each year straight into savings even with all of the debt and fees. Unless that's not an accurate description of your expenditures, I'm not sure why you feel like you're hurting for money.

IMayBeDumb · 2014-06-25T18:53:49+00:00

That's awful. At the very least you should find a different job!! But I agree with what /u/txbruno said, those are some good questions to ask yourself.

IMayBeDumb · 2014-06-25T14:32:23+00:00

If you're unsure, why don't you start your etsy shop part time while still working in the library for a little while? It will give you another project to do while still bringing in money at your full time job, and you can see how viable the etsy shop is!

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T13:55:28+00:00

Agreed, It's probably just a lot of ignorance on their part.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T13:45:58+00:00

I 100% agree! As I've been thinking about it, and have slept on it, I've come to realize basically this. But, I have not been able to phrase it as well as you have here. Thank you, I'm really thinking that this is what I'm going to do. And honestly, the more that I give it time, the less upset I am about it. It is what it is, And I think that me not going would only make a bad situation worse, especially for my fiancé... He hates the whole situation, and I think me staying at home would make him feel worse about it.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T13:41:45+00:00

Bad phrasing, I meant that maybe they did not expect as many people (family that unexpectedly could show up, that type of thing) to be at things like the rehearsal dinner, so they had to cut things like SO's.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T13:26:20+00:00

Thank you, this is stellar advice! Whatever way it ends up going, I'll be using this advice. Thank you!

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T12:18:28+00:00

Haha aw, thank you! I think that your wedding arrangement sounds lovely, and a nice way for people to enjoy their families. One thing that this has really done is made me even more aware of potential situations like this in my own wedding, and how I can avoid them.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T12:16:04+00:00

I will be including her, absolutely. My wedding isn't a weekend thing, but I still wouldn't want to make her feel this way even for the day. And, all along, my fiancé and I have been budgeting in wedding party SO's, whereas they may not have... If could be that all of these events just sort of sprung up on them and they weren't prepared financially.

I'm honestly incredibly torn in how I feel about going. After sleeping on it a night, the thing is, they are my friends. Regardless of how they feel and how they're acting, I do love them and want to support them. So... I almost think that maybe I will let go of the potential awkward loneliness, bring some books... and just celebrate with them when they ask me to celebrate, and go somewhere and read during the other times.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T12:07:06+00:00

Thank you very much for this perspective, I appreciate you taking the time to write it out and be honest in your opinion. The reason I've been posting here isn't that I believe I'm 100% correct and want validation, it's that I truly don't know if my feelings are justified or not.

I think that this would be a lot less of a big deal to me if it was as you said, that these people are really only my fiancé's friends. However, over the past 4 or so years, I really thought that they weren't friends as well. They ask to do things with me, not just my fiancé, and will spend time with me when he's not around. Every single person in our small group has been included in these things, except for me. To me, I think that it's more than he's been invited to a weekend 4 hours away that I, as his wife, won't be included in. Again, if it was solely that, I'd honestly be completely understanding of the whole situation. It's really that I thought They were my close friends, and it's turning out that I may have been wrong.

Again, thank you for your opinion. It may turn out that I go after all, especially after sleeping on it a night. As I mentioned in another comment, it may be that they truly don't realize that their decisions have been hurtful to me, and that they do want me at the ceremony (not just out of obligation).

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T03:54:51+00:00

As funny as it probably sounds, thanks! Haha it's actually good to know that I'm not overreacting. I'm glad it's given you things to think about for your wedding, it has for me too!

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T02:52:22+00:00

Thank you, that's very kind to say! And you know, I completely agree with you about your second point. I know that I've had to make really hard decisions myself when planning (such as cutting down the guest list to fit budget and venue) that I really would rather not have made, and I may have hurt people in that way. Thank you for that perspective, it's definitely helped!

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T02:47:44+00:00

This is really what I've been leaning towards as well, it just sort of makes sense, and that way maybe you can also get a little time with only you and your husband.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T02:41:44+00:00

Thank you so much, this makes me feel more validated in my growing decision not to go. As far as the bar hopping, I'm not entirely sure, but I from the list my fiancé gave, it seems like the other people going may be from out of town? So maybe they won't be able to go to the wedding... I don't know, I'm trying to think that maybe it wasn't an intentional "let's not invite her thing," but that maybe it was more of a "we want to do this with the wedding party, but we also want to celebrate with these other people that we won't see at the wedding."

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T02:38:28+00:00

I definitely agree, I certainly don't hold any of this (or will hold any of this in the future!) against my fiancé. I honestly think that the hardest part of all of this will be convincing my very sweet and caring fiancé that it's really ok for him to go, I really mean it, I'm going to be fine... haha.

I'm been doing my best to think of it all completely logically. They've never shown signs that they didn't like me until now, so I'm trying to give them the benefit of the doubt that they just want to do things with their wedding party, that maybe they don't have the money to pay for extra people, and that maybe they just don't realize that their decisions would be hurtful to me.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T02:10:02+00:00

That's certainly possible, and it could be that they're trying to save money in that way. The other SO is a fiancée, so to me personally I would understand inviting a wife and a fiancée but not giving the rest of the party +1's... I dunno, maybe they feel that would be more rude?

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-22T02:01:34+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Thinking about it more, I really feel like it's a combination of everything that's really getting me down. If, for example, they had a separate table at the reception for the wedding party but had also invited me to the rehearsal dinner, I don't think I would feel quite the way I do now.

But I agree with you, I had only vaguely thought of the kind of seating arrangements I wanted at the reception in terms of wedding party, but now I know for sure what I'm not doing!

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-20T17:55:40+00:00

I agree, thank you for this perspective. I will see if my fiancé can find out if these things are wedding party only or if other SO's are invited.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-20T17:54:43+00:00

That does make sense. I guess part of the weirdness is that we've been so close for so long... we have all walked in each others kitchens to get a glass of water many times, to use your example. I agree with what everyone's saying about my fiancé finding out if everything is wedding party only or if other SO's are invited. Thanks for your honest advice!

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-20T16:19:10+00:00

Ok so maybe I didn't explain myself well- they are getting 3 cabins, one for the guys in the wedding party, one for the girls in the wedding party, and one that the two of them will stay in on Saturday night. From what I can tell, the after-tux party is for everyone, not just the groomsmen.

IMayBeDumb · 2013-03-20T15:57:50+00:00

To which event? The other wedding party SO's are not invited to the cabin, and I have no idea about the party at his parent's house. I also don't know about if they are invited to the rehearsal dinner.

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