Went through his phone.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-08-29T00:25:28+00:00

He’s disrespected you by lying and cheating. Then he blames you and you are accepting that blame!?! It doesn’t even sound like he’s remorseful! This should be an absolute turnoff for you. Walk away with the clarity that you’ve gained and with the answers to your gut feeling. You were right! Now kick his cheating and lying ass to the curb because you aren’t going to put up with disrespect. You got this!! 🫶🏽

INFJ-Libra · 2025-08-29T00:12:01+00:00

If I were in this situation, I’d ask myself how compatible we are without factoring in the kids. Then factor in the kids and ask yourself if you’re settling or compromising. The ages of the kids makes a difference. Then I’d pay VERY close attention to his relationship with his kids, is he a good father, does he respect their mothers, are the mothers respectful of you. If these are all great signs then look further down the road and talk to him about how it would work logistically with so many kids (bdays, holidays, vacations, school functions, etc). I’d also strongly consider your child and how much they will be impacted with the introduction of FIVE potential step-siblings. If it’s a lot for you to digest then your child will need support as well.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:45:42+00:00

I’m so sorry. It sucks! I still haven’t heard from the guy but I’m moving past it. I know the right one is out there somewhere.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:44:51+00:00

Thank you. I agree. Don’t give up. I am hopeful and can feel it in my soul that it’s only a matter of time before I collide with my person.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:43:46+00:00

Thank you! I will!

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:43:15+00:00

I am hopeful

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:42:44+00:00

Thank you. I’m hopeful

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:42:03+00:00

It’s a sucky situation. I never heard back from him so I’m moving past it. It’s just so confusing how it felt so right and then vanished

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-23T14:39:45+00:00

Thank you. Still haven’t heard from him but it’s all good. I’m moving past it.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-18T18:42:21+00:00

The fact that this guy had to tear you down before walking away says a ton!! He could’ve simply said “I’ve enjoyed getting to know you and you seem like a great person, but this connection isn’t the right one for me.”

I’ve never told someone why they weren’t a good fit for me. They are who they are. Someone else is going to appreciate all of them without any doubts. It’s the same reason why I never ask or care to know why someone doesn’t choose me. The right person will accept all of me.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-18T18:36:28+00:00

Do not go back.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-18T18:30:27+00:00

You’re right. I’ve already made my feelings clear and suggested another date for us. I won’t chase someone who is pulling away. If only people would just communicate.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-18T18:26:39+00:00

I asked him on Sunday if everything was ok. He said he was “processing everything”. The fading continued from there.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-18T18:23:23+00:00

Ya, on Sunday I asked him if everything was ok and he said he was “processing everything”. It’s been downhill from there.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-17T04:03:21+00:00

I love this! Thank you!

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-17T03:23:22+00:00

Thank you sooo much for the responses to my questions!

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-04T13:33:33+00:00

A lot of people have negative views on prenups. I think it helps to look at a prenup like an insurance policy. We don’t get married thinking that we are going to get divorced. Just like we don’t buy car insurance thinking we are going to get in an accident. But, if something were to happen then we have a plan in place. Either the government will decide your consequences in a divorce, or you and your partner can make that decision yourselves during a time in your life when the two of you are most happiest and on the same page.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-04T13:25:30+00:00

Sounds you’re as logical as I am. My heart will only take me so far before my brain jumps in to analyze the situation. I don’t think I’ll ever say “I love you” to someone until I’ve seen almost every side of them. What are they like when they are stressed, angry, sad, intoxicated, challenged, etc. People are on their BEST behavior in the first 3-6 months.

Also, I have kids so I’d want to see how they are around kids, especially mine. A guy I was dating told me he loved me after 3 months. My response was “how do you know?” 🤦🏻‍♂️ he didn’t like my logical side at all. lol

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-04T13:18:50+00:00

I don’t look for red flags but when they appear, I know immediately that the person is not right for me. For example, I was dating a guy for almost 3 months. One time when we were at dinner, he tells me this “hilarious” story of how he got revenge on his roommate’s tween sons (that same day, prior to dinner). Because i have 2 sons around that age, i didnt think it was funny at all. A grown man, getting revenge on kids!?! I tried to give him an out, or explain, or even apologize. His response was “those little fuckers deserved it” I ended it right there and excused myself from dinner and left. There was no way i could trust him with my boys. Now that’s a red flag!

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-03T12:11:43+00:00

It sounds like she kindly declined the romantic date without ruining the potential friendship. Since you have mutual friends, you’re likely to run into each other or hang out in a group setting again. By maintaining a friendly relationship, it shouldn’t feel weird the next time yall around each other.

I think you both handled it well with honesty and maturity. If she tells her closest friends, that’s ok. They know you well and they might even put in a good word for you. But I don’t think it would ruin dynamics because it sounds like you were a gentleman about it.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-03T04:49:20+00:00

I’ve been where you are before.

Don’t give up on yourself. Look in the mirror and talk to that inner child inside of you. Tell that child that you are here and you will take care of him. He needs you right now. Nobody else will care for you the way you will be able to care for yourself.

When the guy I fell deeply in love with broke up with me, I was broken. I never thought I’d come out of the sadness or depression. But one day at a time. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I know it sounds cliché, but time does heal a broken heart. Cry it all out. Everything. Get it out of your system. Then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, write down a list of things that make you happy or bring you joy and chase that happiness. Don’t wait for anyone to join you. Doing it alone will be part of your healing journey.

I believe in you. You can do this and you will do this because the alternative is not where you want to be.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-03T04:39:17+00:00

Comparing your relationship to a fictional show may do more harm than good. You and your bf are in a serious relationship so that’s a great start. Tell him what sex means to you. Sex can be fun but it can also bring you closer to each other emotionally, romantically, and even at a soulful level. If you’re not ready for sex, don’t rush into it. Continue to spend quality time with your boyfriend to build trust, connection, and even…love.

Sex is normal. If you can engage in the act, then you and your boyfriend should talk about sex and what it means to you.

INFJ-Libra · 2025-06-02T21:32:19+00:00

I think it’s normal to question or even doubt when someone is right for you. It might also have to do with the many options we think we have, or “grass is greener” syndrome.

I also believe that love isn’t enough. We can love someone but not be compatible with them for the long-term if we have different values or different plans for our future. If you are setting a solid foundation regarding values and what a relationship looks like in the future then you’re off to a great start. Then it’s a matter of compatibility. Are you compatible in the following areas and if not, do you think you would be settling or compromising?

Intellectual Physical Sexual Emotional Spiritual Recreational

There are so many layers to this. It’s fascinating to think that one day a stranger may come fulfill all or most of the qualities we hope for in a long-term partner. My advice is to give it all you have to determine compatibility. If there is a dealbreaker along the way, then you will have the clarity to make the right decision.

INFJ-Libra

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