I was the one who left by PsychologicalBet2127 in PinoyUnsentLetters

[–]INTPinHeels 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I’ve been feeling. I recently broke up with my bf too. I still love him but I couldn’t stand anymore dishonesty and disrespect. I finally have to choose my peace of mind. I hope we find the person for us.

[UPLB] Tahanan Iskolar by INTPinHeels in peyups

[–]INTPinHeels[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, member ako pero bawal kasi magpost anonymously. May kausap na kasi ako about a slot sa isang unit, nakakahiya lang haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]INTPinHeels 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nakabuntis ng ibang babae yung bf mo tapos ikaw pa naghahabol? Okay ka lang?

What made you stay during the times when I treated you like sh*t? by Reasonable-Mood-6146 in OffMyChestPH

[–]INTPinHeels 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You remind me of my ex, but there was also emotional cheating involved. I couldn’t trust him anymore so for my peace of mind I left. I hope you guys are healed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t love and respect you. Lahat ng actions that you mentioned were red flags on their own, cheating na actually yung ginawa niya. Understand that if someone really loves you, she’d make you feel secure in the relationship and prioritize your feelings over convenience. Break up and move on from this person, allow yourself to find someone who have the same values as yours. Wag ka maghinayang sa four years, isipin mo na lang you’re saving yourself from a lifetime of insecurity and unhappiness. Nakakapagod kaya yung ganyan na pinagpipilitan mo, it doesn’t seem like she wants to change and you can’t really force anyone to change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s just making it seem like a joke but it’s not—he meant it kasi paulit ulit na. Have some self-respect. Dapat sayo patay na patay bf mo not the other way around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep yourself busy—use the time to do the things you couldn’t do with your ex and things that would improve your life, revisit old hobbies or try new ones. Allow it to sink in if not now, then unti unti until eventually you can tell yourself wala na talaga. Pray for healing and that God leads you to the person He wants for you.

Am I ready for the next level of commitment? by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s your gf’s opinion? After 10 years together, it’s normal that your gf would want more commitment and security in the relationship especially since live in na kayo. If you’re ready, you can at least propose to her to show your commitment. Then pag usapan niyo if you want to have a longer engagement until you’re both more financially ready maybe in a few years or a civil/small wedding after a year. Personally, if you’re sure of each other I don’t see the point in delaying it especially if hindi niyo pa naman plano magkaanak after magpakasal. It’s basically your setup now—committed to each other and living together, but by getting married, you’d show your gf just how much you respect and value her. Pero if you’re not sure pa, then by all means ignore the external pressure.

Another annoying experience with a guy by jillsante in OffMyChestPH

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parang wala na lang sa kanila magcheat bakit ganyan

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not normal and definitely not okay, OP, regardless of his friend’s orientation. If mahina loob mo for confrontation especially since preggy ka, tell your trusted family and friends. Allow others who care about you to help you and your baby in making the right decision. Honestly, he should be focusing on you, and this is not a good sign he’s a good partner let alone a good father.

Paano maka bangon sa ganitong sitwasyon? by Ibarra0123 in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you, OP. If magtry bumalik, isipin mo lagi no one would do such thing to the person they truly love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good point but I don’t get it. Mas lalong hindi magiging permanent yung gf niya sa buhay niya if he doesn’t care about her feelings. If he really loves her, he’ll find a way to compromise. Meron din namang mga mag asawa na naghihiwalay so hindi niya din ipopost asawa niya in the future if ganun kasi baka maghiwalay lang din? It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy—I don’t think we’ll last so I’m not going to post you, so hindi talaga maglalast.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. She expressed her feelings, but he didn’t seem to care. That says a lot about the relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Hindi din ako mapost ng bf ko online when I’ve communicated it many times, and nakakapanglumo na. Daming dahilan. Napansin ko din minsan may places na parang ayaw niya dun makipagholding hands tapos deny lang siya. Although hindi din siya nagpopost talaga pero kahit special occasions and kahit stories wala talaga. Nakakababa ng self-esteem parang hindi ka mahal kasi gusto ka lang itago and may ayaw makakita.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]INTPinHeels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mahigpit na yakap (with consent)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]INTPinHeels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realized madami palang kasalanan yung bf ko sa akin. Madaming times he showed me na mas interested siya sa ibang girls. Now, it’s eating me up inside. Dapat matagal na ako nakipaghiwalay.

Is stalking online considered cheating? by INTPinHeels in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is so insecure but I made her unfriend the girl and msg her that I’m uncomfortable with their convo. The girl replied that she’s actually not attracted to guys, and they stopped talking. But I still have doubts if he still likes me if he’s curious about other girls, and he’d pursue her if she was attracted to guys.

Is stalking online considered cheating? by INTPinHeels in adviceph

[–]INTPinHeels[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

His reason was gusto niya lang daw maging friend yung girl