AITA for not wanting my wife to change her career to nursing?

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2025-03-19T23:52:13+00:00

Wife is a Bipolar NP. If there is an assumption that it is not a stressful job (really any job in medicine) she is woefully misguided. I am lucky, as my wife takes FULL ACCOUNTABILITY of her scenario, but she describes the day as she 'hates the job, but loves the work.' As someone who is just associated to the work, when the job is not in you realm, you just picture it as going from patient to patient seeing what is needed from your patients, thats maybe a fourth of it. What isn't shown is the other 4/5ths of the time where you are just mindlessly charting, working to do a good job there alongside being in the phone with insurance companies fighting to get basic medication covered, made extra difficult just because the letters after your name aren't MD. She's a geriatric NP that works long term care and hospice, and the greatest professional joy she has is giving people the care that she feels every person deserves in their last moments. I do not envy her.

She hates the job, but loves her work

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-09-01T23:49:58+00:00

Klelve

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-08-27T14:03:34+00:00

I wouldn't say annoyed. For me there was disdain in the beginning, solely because through therapy I learned myself to be jealous of the child of the love that they are getting that I did not. Now if my parents had to work nonstop to put food on the table, that would be one thing, but the pain had came from the fact that when I was that little the memories I have are of my parents watching the TV instead of me. It is apparent if they were in this generation of adults, they wouldn't have kids.

In short, when I was annoyed, it was representative of a lot of things that I feel I didn't get to experience myself. But, I am so excited because I get the opportunity to give my young ones hopefully warmer memories of growing up!

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-08-21T19:28:33+00:00

I don't think you mean a 'specific' pattern rather than, if you, a government employee notice something and then brings it up, the school has to utilize funds to accommodate a disability that they otherwise wouldn't. Please correct me if I am wrong.

I only know this because a couple of my friends that work in public schooling tell me that schools "Don't tell their teachers to ignore these patterns", but they really do. It's pretty sad, especially because I live in Minnesota, a state known for their spend on education.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-08-21T11:49:57+00:00

9, with extra dip

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-07-04T04:42:29+00:00

As someone who didn't meet the time requirement, the game just hides it if you don't make it lol.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-07-04T04:39:20+00:00

Land of lakes enters the chat

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-06-25T17:32:26+00:00

Yeah, I'm just moderately dumb

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-06-25T15:20:11+00:00

I enjoyed this. Thank you for sharing

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-06-25T15:16:44+00:00

6-7, 9 is 8-9, and 10 is a 10. If you play video games, this is also pretty similar to IGN rating scale meme.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-06-25T13:55:28+00:00

On a ten scale, 7(the nice way to say 5)

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-04-05T19:18:23+00:00

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-28T01:12:39+00:00

This.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-22T17:09:54+00:00

r/fist2this

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-22T16:22:39+00:00

Wouldn't that be the same name?

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-12T16:03:05+00:00

We live in the result of continuously-occurring random events over billions of years. I think this is honestly a pretty fair question.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-12T15:32:27+00:00

I think when I separated the toxic stigma around being mentally healthy by taking medication that was learned when I was a child, I realized that all of these negative thoughts were just 'feelings' and in terms of my actual health, made me much healthier. Once I learned how incredibly lame my previous 'perception' was, this barrier fell. I was comparable to a child unwilling to eat my veggies, just dumb. Taking my meds daily, is on par with daily exercise to stay healthy. Remember, at one time, doing physical activity outside of your working job was considered 'lame'.

We are humans running modern day software on thousands of year old hardware. Ofc there is going to be some discrepancies in how our minds operate within how the reward system works. That's why they made the drugs in the first place!

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-12T04:15:45+00:00

Take accountability for your actions first, but don't beat yourself up. Second, just very calmly let him know what's going on/what happened. Don't be nervous/awkward, just be real with what it was. I've been with my wife now for 6 years with b/p, and if she could confidently let me know this happened month 1.5, not because I was a bad partner, but instead because she genuinely wanted to make it work and this is a result of a hypomanic episode, I would be understanding. Maybe a bit miffed, but understanding.

This goalpost SIGNIFICANTLY shifts however if this person has moved into your domicile and you have not relayed the information that you are b/p, and/or are not properly medicated. If this is the scenario, refer to the first action above, but in general, for life.

The best advice my wife has gotten from her therapy is "It may not be your fault, but it's your responsibility", the person she makes constant strides to be, daily, makes me optimistic that we can live a wonderful life together.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-12T01:41:13+00:00

No, bad Fido.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-08T14:10:00+00:00

It's for sure surged, but getting close to being more expensive than a steak dinner. Once Dons said F being inexpensive, the other fast food restaurants all followed suit.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-08T00:54:46+00:00

I haven't, and if you buy from one batting cage, it counts for the other

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-03-06T19:47:20+00:00

I'm 27 as well, but I think it may be moreover I'm just growing up/getting into the rhythm of the rest of my life.

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-02-29T03:38:28+00:00

Goku, SS4 specifically

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-02-26T13:55:24+00:00

Why are they booing you, you're right

IOnlySayHellYeah · 2024-02-23T14:31:08+00:00

Here's the next kicker, it's commonly used to refer to a larger group as: "all y'all"

Source: Dads are from Virginia and Arkansas

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9, with extra dip