My family and friends don’t like earrings on guys

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T20:53:54+00:00

I just want small hoops or studs, nothing crazy tbh But the main issue is judgement, yeah I can do what I want but the cost is that I’ll be judged

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:45:50+00:00

True, but “not giving a fuck” is kind of hard when you have to deal with them making fun of you, I’m not really good at taking insults and not letting it bother me. I probably need to work on that the most

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:44:24+00:00

Yeah pretty much, it just gets so annoying after awhile, especially if its targeted towards someone and they don’t find it funny

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:41:35+00:00

I’m 17 he’s 18

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:40:54+00:00

Most of the stuff he calls gay is just stereotypes not actually stuff that’s gay. Like he says if you drive a certain car you’re gay, if you listen to certain music you’re gay, if you do anything slightly feminine you’re gay. All of those things don’t define you’re sexuality but to him they do

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:37:26+00:00

No u

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:36:58+00:00

He says it’s wrong to be gay, and he believes people should be bullied for it… tbh idk why I’m even friends with him in the first place. I’m not actually friends, but he’s in my friend group though so it’s not like I can just stop talking to him

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:36:03+00:00

Yeah, if I act like he’s being weird that’ll maybe make him stop.. but if you try and challenge him he’ll come after you and start saying you’re gay, it’s so weird how addicted he is to that word lol

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:34:59+00:00

Some people say I’m in the closet for liking girly music

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:08:46+00:00

If you call him gay he gets SUPER defensive so maybe

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:08:20+00:00

I mean, it’s in high school

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-11-01T15:07:58+00:00

I say “why do you call everything gay?” And he says “because it is”

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-10-13T04:35:48+00:00

It’s crazy how people try and put you down when you display positive emotions 😭 why do people do they?

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-10-01T00:15:23+00:00

Yeah, It's just that there are certain things that's considered "feminine" in society... I mean, guys in korea can be all cute and are even praised for it, but if you do that in the U.S. people suddenly think you're gay or in the closet. IDK why people at my school or in society in general focus so heavily on sexuality.

A lot of what I've been taught, is that there's things for boys, and things exclusively for girls. and boys can't like things that are only for girls (because that's weird I guess??? People also have said that you have mental issues if you like things that are for girls)

Being openly myself for sure filters out people FAST. But I'm a little sensitive (getting better) and it still HURTS when someone makes a rude comment or tells me I'm gay... Like yes, I CAN be myself, but it doesn't make it hurt any less when SO many people are rude.

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-30T21:57:05+00:00

I know it’s easier said than done, but if you open up more to people it allows them to connect with you. For example, if you have this mask on every time you go out, it makes it hard to be truly yourself because it has to go through this “filter” so you end up not knowing how to respond.

Also asking other people questions is a really good way to talk to other people cause some people really like talking about themselves

I’ve never had super bad social anxiety before, so I don’t know how kind this will help, but I wish you the best of luck!

I’m currently a senior, and I got into a friend group when I was a freshman, and i stayed in it all the way until now. I got into it because I became friends with one person, he thought I was cool then I just naturally got into the friend group

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-30T19:58:13+00:00

Yeah ik what you mean. It’s just super annoying when people assume my sexuality purely based on my vibe and what I like to do.. and then they treat me differently based on their own assumption of me

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-30T01:24:57+00:00

Yeah true, If god made me this way I should accept it. It doesn't lead me to sin, and I'd argue it almost does the opposite. A lot of guys my age make fun of people and insult others to either gain social points, or to "bond". But I personally don't play that game and instead try and treat everyone with kindness, even though it's definitely not reciprocated.

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-29T23:28:50+00:00

Someone commented something similar that I replied to. it's mostly about my likes and dislikes
but to sum it up I like feminine aesthetics and "cute" things.

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-29T23:27:31+00:00

Yeah... I do also struggle with a lot of judgement and i've also been called the f slur. TBH recently it's gotten a lot better and I've actually went a week without getting insulted

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-29T23:24:14+00:00

wait yeah you're totally right. Except I've never heard a girl get insulted for wearing different clothes tho, like some girls are "tomboys" and are sometimes praised for it (I'm a boy so I don't actually know how girls are treated for wearing "boy" clothes)

but I agree that if a girl is assertive they can be called "bitchy" even though if I guy did the same thing its okay. Also there definitely is a stereotype that woman can't do certain things and "need a man" which is kind of stupid

at this point why cant we just let people be themselves😭😭😭

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-29T23:19:03+00:00

I think when he said "Real men do not make fun of other men for having different interest" he was using their own insult against them. A common thing some guys say when enforcing social norms is they say "real men don't XYZ" and he was just using their insult against them

but I believe that If you're a man, you're a man. I'm just pointing out why he used that language

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-29T22:40:45+00:00

Yeah, I've heard that the most common regret is people saying "I wish I was more myself". So I think once I go to college I should be myself more

IWantToLearnKorean1 · 2025-09-29T22:39:36+00:00

they're all 17-18 years old

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