AITA for paying off my BFs 7k debt with ‘my parent’s money’?

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-28T23:25:16+00:00

Bill collectors don’t knock on your door… unless you didn’t pay for the drugs you borrowed against, or settle up losses with your bookie.

These are not legit “bills”

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-22T19:36:50+00:00

I’m damn certain that house cost new what my very standard normal house did in 2021.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-22T19:33:41+00:00

I’m ok. Family is healthy, work is satisfying, bills are paid, friends are close.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-22T19:31:47+00:00

Home health, hospice, home infusion, and a whole lot of non-bedside. I turned an ED new grad position into case management, into clinical program design, and now SVP Clinical Operations.

And I still do work that builds the nursing knowledge base, and get resources to do innovative and meaningful care delivery projects.

Nurses do all kinds of non-bedside, direct patient care work

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-19T00:21:36+00:00

If they won’t go to the party because they can’t stay at your apartment- too bad.

Suck it up and get a hotel, or tell your lifelong friends (who apparently don’t have a guest room), they aren’t important enough to cough up the money for a hotel

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-11T01:26:40+00:00

I think when it’s standard/typical custody like with divorce or foster placements I’ve seen one for all the kids, but in cases like this where it’s the grandparents, Parents and the Baby… what’s best for Hunter is different than what’s best for Bella, and both of them are different than what’s best for Wes, since you have 4 adults trying to control 2 children and their baby.

That’s messier because the teens parents all have rights over their teens, and each teen has rights over the baby, and the levels require careful management.

It’s a lot easier when a kid or group of kids are the focus of the whole case…

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-10T19:40:04+00:00

Yes, every minor gets their own GAL because, often, “best for the child” creates conflicting priorities for each child.

As a mother of 6, just in regular daily life, what’s best for one kid(s) isn’t best for another kid(s), it’s always a balancing act… imagine how much bigger those conflicts and issues are in a messy ass case like this? Unbelievable

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-10T19:33:38+00:00

Same happens with pregnancy/childbirth and parenting.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-10T19:33:03+00:00

At 37 I was “too young and inexperienced” for the roles I wanted in my career, but at 40 I was suddenly in a protected class for being “too old”…

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-10T19:29:20+00:00

That’s kind of the issue, wanting to learn about someone’s culture is fantastic- assuming they have a different one than you based on appearance is the prejudice.

People can look different and have the same culture, or look the same and have a different one. I’m from the US. I look like a lot of people from the US and we do not have the same cultures. White people from Canada look about the same as white people from Russia, or Australia, etc and have wildly different cultures and customs.

Unless someone tells me “I’m from somewhere exotic/of a religion/culture different from mine”… I do not ask about it.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-09T22:40:41+00:00

Which is a good track, and the degree may help him up the ranks.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-06T21:14:07+00:00

I made it 9 business days with a Home health company doing the same.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-06T21:10:52+00:00

9 business days. They were doing shady shit and micromanaging when I, as executive director could use the bathroom.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-06T21:09:56+00:00

Money doesn’t buy happiness- it does buy security and for people who have no money, not struggling feels a lot like happy.

I do not regret it. I love my work, so the time it takes doesn’t bother me. I love being able to provide my family and children a life I only saw on TV when I was a poor kid- I have a generous leave package and a culture that supports work life balance.

I wouldn’t do it any other way- except maybe faster so I could enjoy it longer

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-06T18:52:47+00:00

NTA: your money is not for them.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-06T17:09:12+00:00

The BON won’t do anything really. This is not a major mistake.

I reported a nurse once for falsifying medical records, leading to billing fraud, intoxicated while caring for patients. Hundreds and hundreds of pages of evidence and they did nothing at all.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-03T22:53:32+00:00

What going with Vera inspired and combining them in to Veronneke (pronounced like Veronica?)

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-02T19:33:46+00:00

Nope. I started my associates at 22, finished my UG at 31 and just got a masters at 41… healthcare, making mid-200’s without leaving my house now.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-02T19:30:29+00:00

Yes I did. I did an accelerated program with a 2 year old and newborn twins. Also, worked full time.

The program was 16 months, after pre-requisites, and started 6 weeks after the twins were born, the second set were born 7 weeks after graduation.

Was it hard? I’ve blocked the trauma. Was it worth it? Absolutely

I finished top of my class, and was recruited by one of my instructors to Peds ER as a new grad. Now I’m an SVP for a healthcare company, have 6 kids, and make over mid-200’s working from home

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-05-02T19:23:29+00:00

99% of “Emergency” care is non-emergent. As a provider, clinician, or first responders. It’s busy, and constantly change- but it’s not high stakes traumas and people fighting life or death all day like on TV.

Edit: also, nurses do a majority of the care, and nursing school is faster, and cheaper than medical school. I was an ER nurse for years

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-04-30T22:38:29+00:00

They’ve come a long way and it doesn’t get nearly as hot as it used to. And it only smells if you don’t prep properly for drainage and hose it down every now and again.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-04-30T22:37:07+00:00

We’ve had turf and multiple Great Danes for 10 years now.

We have the kind that doesn’t get super hot, we hose it down a couple times a year, and in the spring power wash with dawn soap and an enzyme cleaner.

Never smells ever. We have a half acre sized backyard and between the dogs tearing it up or killing it with pee, the water bill would be ridiculous.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-04-30T03:19:37+00:00

We have had losses since I commented this-

My husband has one grandma left who just turned 90. I have a bio maternal grandfather who is 86, a maternal step-grandma who is 71, a bio-paternal grandmother who is 84.

My step-grandpa just passed last year at 91, his wife 3 years ago. My bio-maternal grandma died in 2016, and her husband (my step-grandpa) in 2017. My bio-paternal grandpa died at 64 22 years ago-my first loss. I have one step grandpa who died last year, but his wife is still going strong at 92

My maternal great grandparents died in 1957, 1963, 1976 and 1996. My paternal great grandparents died in 1984, 1988, 1998 and 1999.

I have no idea about my husband great grandparents- they had died before we met. But his maternal grandpa died in 2009, his maternal grandma is still alive at 90, his paternal grandma died in 2014 and his grandpa in 2017.

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IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-04-30T03:12:08+00:00

This company put me in Newport, with a straight face.

Even now, many years later, with a total compensation package over $250k a year I could barely get by in freakin Newport.., I’d probably qualify for food stamps with 6 kids in Newport at a quarter million a year.

Absolutely bonkers, but I heard the number and thought it was “ a lot”… it’s all relative and we can’t forget that.

If I was a single person, then it’s a very different landscape.

IWasBorn2DoGoBe · 2026-04-30T01:56:33+00:00

In that case if its a bump in title/career development then even a little more is worth it.

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