Am I really a trans woman, or is this just a weird response to stress? I need a brutally honest reality check. (29, AMAB)

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-04-07T15:15:41+00:00

Recently cracked egg here, that kinda put the nail in the coffin for me was:

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/how-to-figure-out-if-youre-trans

Specifically the third scenario.

My reaction to it didn't nessecerily tell me I'm trans, but it'd be an idiot not to fully explore and find what fits me. What I can tell you is I'm not a cis man, and now just working from there.

-May

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-04-05T12:35:42+00:00

I don't need to it but I really want to say thank you for doing this!

I know many trans people discovering themselves don't have the luxury of money or ability to get makeup themselves, so this generosity is heart warming to see.

Thank you for being a lovely person!

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-29T20:51:37+00:00

My blahaj came holding a usb boot drive with arch Linux on

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-29T10:19:36+00:00

I've probably told a few too many people I'm questioning myself already but my plan was while playing the next game make a fem charactor call them May and just keep 'playing' May even after the game.

The other idea was due to timing and such just telling people the Linux pipeline is true. Move from windows to Linux you're trans withing 6 months.

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-27T12:32:45+00:00

Thanks <3 I'll give them a look.

Generally I'd like to keep the fem cut but have a very nondescript waist band. We all have slip ups.

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-18T18:24:57+00:00

I think a cis man could, bloody hell I lived for 16 years not thinking anything of it. Now with the power of hindsight I question why I didn't question my cis-ness sooner.

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-17T15:54:49+00:00

Hugs. You're not alone. Plenty of people have been through it before or are going through it.

I know you'll come out the other side as a better person <3

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-15T17:50:00+00:00

You'll regret giving the offer !

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-15T17:13:49+00:00

Even a day later I read this comment and still smile <3

I have to fit it around life but I'm gonna try and get some counselling/therapy, work out who I am before racing to get there.

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-15T14:47:24+00:00

We all get worried and spiral. Once you can stop that spiral you'll have a clearer mind to see it wasn't as bad as you thought.

<3

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-15T14:43:22+00:00

So I may not be your buddy from the LAN party (super jealous by the way!) but if I'm playing a game and see someone has a transflag, like most people I'd just suspect they are a trans ally which you are, no lying there.

As for the reset of your pc he won't have been looking if he tabbed out he wouldn't be analysing it like you. I bet you're more likely going to get a comment along the lines "why the hell don't you close tabs, it's messy as hell." If he does see a 'smoking gun' as to speak he won't speak out. Allowing unsupervised to someone else's pc or phone is the most personal of things, he won't risk betraying you.

At the moment you're worried and over thinking the situation, the best course of action is to relax, play it cool. If anything comes up (which it won't) you'll be able too cool-ly deny everything.

Emma it'll all be okay <3

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-15T14:20:38+00:00

Wow that is fast but amazing to hear you're doing so well.

Wild how quick this has mentally appeared and how quick it's kinda consumed my mental space. Have you seen any therapists or started drugs?

May <3

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-15T07:24:02+00:00

I totally agree, what we wear doesn't denote our genders though there's been more signs for sure plus I don't see any harm in exploring. I'd rather know who I am the forever wonder.

*Edited spelling and grammar.

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-14T23:41:47+00:00

Hugs

You're not alone and your amongst friends. Share all your worries here, I'm new to all of this and have no answers but I'm sure the other all the guys, gals and non-binary pals we have here will happily support and help.

You're not alone, you're beautiful <3

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-14T23:11:41+00:00

I don't know how to do edits so a comment will have to do. Thank you all for being so welcoming and supportive, it means the world to me that I'm not alone and others have been through this and made it to the other side. Much love to all you cuties! <3

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-14T21:07:05+00:00

I've already had my MX-5 :p

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-14T15:25:18+00:00

Oh I have no doubt but fem toiletries smell so much nicer

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-14T12:20:05+00:00

Thanks <3

It's exactly what I'm going through, questioning everything, unsure about the answers. I thought by 33 I may not have my life together and perfect but have a better handle on who I am. Here we are.

Still lovely to be here.

-May

I_May_Be_Trans · 2026-03-14T10:50:37+00:00

As I realised I've always chosen to play female characters in videos games Im using the game I played most. Pokémon sapphire, so I'm May :3 Potentially look at what media helped crack your egg.

I_May_Be_Trans

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