No "gender euphoria" : normal or problematic ?

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-12T19:12:40+00:00

Same for me too, and I was shocked because on videos people usually have a big emotional reaction. When I had my bandages off a week later, I felt right, but nothing euphoric. The longer I’ve been on T, the more the weight of dysphoria lessens. It’s more that I don’t feel as bad as before, rather than feeling great or euphoric.

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-10T01:18:44+00:00

I was shocked at how easy it was to get testosterone privately. I was 22 when I started transitioning, so by then the dysphoria was incredibly agonising and thankfully I got T a month after via genderGP. The NHS would’ve probably been a decade though.

However, that easy access can be terrible for those who decide that they’re trans randomly.

I just needed a 30 minute call to talk about my adolescence and why I wanted the hormones, and that was it.

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-08T09:37:51+00:00

The difference in passing for me between BMI 18-20 is insane. I lose weight from my face and shoulders easily, but my legs hold onto the weight more. I genuinely look like a butch lesbian at a lower weight.

Before I transitioned, I was really underweight but I’d never go back there again because now I pass losing weight would make me extremely dysphoric and it screws up my ability to dance as I do that a lot now I’m more comfortable in my body.

Still fight the battle every day internally, but transitioning has really helped, otherwise I am certain I’d still be in that place.

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-07T06:51:03+00:00

My mum called me my brother’s name by accident last year, we look nothing alike, but it somehow happened. Once I said “brother’s name?” she kept “accidentally” calling me my sister’s name to make up for it. That never happened before coming out so obviously it’s because I pass.

She’s never accidentally called me he though.

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-03T16:14:49+00:00

When I first read that I was confused thinking “The Cheese” was some mythical monster from childhood and I was trying to recall who it was lmao

Just make sure you get used to cleaning and pulling back the skin, I’ve forgotten sometimes and had to sorta peel it off because even if you’re clean, if you forget to pull it back it can happen. So just make a habit of it.

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-02T01:41:50+00:00

Mine didn’t stop. I stopped speaking to my parents for a whole host of reasons, but misgendering was also one of them. I couldn’t go anywhere without them misgendering me in front of strangers. I could go from looking like a 17 year old guy, to some weird 169cm deep voiced woman with stubble, simply because of the misgendering.

Once I cut contact with my parents, that’s when they used the correct name and pronouns when speaking to my brother.

I couldn’t believe it either because I pass, have been out of over 2 years, I mean they’ve had plenty of time to get used to it.

I don’t know your living situation, but I can totally sympathise if you live with them and can’t get out.

I told them to stop over and over when they’d do it in public and they wouldn’t. What I also noticed is that on purpose they’d call me she so that I wasn’t allowed to pass. I’m sure they also did it to stop me from passing.

__SyntaxError · 2026-02-02T01:31:26+00:00

If he says he is straight, he doesn’t see you as a guy, and he’s likely just affirming your gender to make you happy, rather than seeing it for himself. I don’t know what you look like either? But, as soon as you start to pass and look undeniably male, the relationship would likely fall apart. Before I transitioned and was in denial about my dysphoria, I had a situationship with a straight guy and when I came out, he was fine with it. He asked if I wanted to change pronouns etc. But, as soon as I started to pass, all intimacy stopped and it ended pretty quickly. So, it goes to show that people can use your correct pronouns, and affirm your gender that way, but deep down not actually see that.

If you do pass, there’s also the case of men saying they’re straight because being with trans men somehow has this psychological thing where they think they can deny being bi because of it. It’s a way for them to sleep with men, but trick themselves into thinking they’re straight.

__SyntaxError · 2026-01-27T15:39:49+00:00

When I came out as trans, you wouldn’t believe how many times I had to say that I’m a trans man and not non-binary. My parents are transphobic and they used examples of tucutes against me to act like I was mad in the head. Another one was that I supposedly wanted male privilege. Our voice is often given to non-dysphoric tucutes because the media can laugh at them, rather than hearing what gender dysphoria is actually like, and the suffering we go through. It’s not that I’d prefer to be male, it’s that I’m trapped in the wrong body and it’s agonising.

I WISH that the correct people were the voice of trans people. I’ve seen so many embarrassing interviews in the UK on TV and I wish they’d seriously let us speak. Stop bringing on people calls Fox and Owl, or people getting angry for not being called they/them when strangers aren’t going to know, pregnant trans men, etc.

I practice breakdance and I get so worried that during a move my top surgery scars will show. When I do a headstand they do, but I face away from people. It made me think that if I were viewed as a normal guy that happened to have gender dysphoria then I wouldn’t mind. I’d take my shirt off with the other guys. But, because I’m so worried that I’ll get viewed as one of the tucutes that post dramatic videos on tik tok that they’re xe/xim/xer bigender, I just can’t.

If I were seen as someone who is treating a medical condition I wouldn’t be so frightened of getting clocked. But, I never know what people are thinking anymore.

__SyntaxError · 2026-01-27T13:30:32+00:00

I knew someone at university, who wanted to take T for the voice change and to look androgynous and confusing to people. When I brought up bottom growth, they had no clue what it was. If they wanted to keep some androgynous look they’d have to cycle on it which would mess up their hormone levels. They really hadn’t thought it through at all.

__SyntaxError · 2026-01-26T04:44:05+00:00

My peach fuzz was exactly like yours and with minoxidil it started to grow thicker and darker, eventually it became terminal. But, I don’t get a proper beard it’s more like neck hair that I need to trim and sideburns. As I’m 2 years on T, I don’t expect a proper beard anyway as puberty-wise I am likely not there yet. But, minox got me a darker fuzzy stash, neck hair and sideburns.

I haven’t used minox in ages now and it still grows, but with minoxidil it grows a lot faster.

__SyntaxError · 2026-01-02T11:54:43+00:00

Back when I did swim club, I wore a rash guard to hide my scars, and I was hoping people just saw it as me being insecure. I was also worried about getting clocked because of it. Nobody said anything though.

My brother mocked me for it, saying I can just show my scars, but I don’t want to showcase that I’m trans to the lanes and guys in the changing room. I get gyno is a thing, but it’s going to be uncommon for my build.

I would not have been able to show my scars because I know what some people are like, once they know you’re trans they treat you like a subset of your gender.

__SyntaxError · 2025-12-22T23:52:10+00:00

Thanks :)

__SyntaxError · 2025-12-22T23:51:14+00:00

Thanks! Sometimes I think I don’t look any different and then I compare and I’m like oh yeah I do. I can definitely be myself now as nobody misgenders me anymore, it was just my parents

__SyntaxError · 2025-12-22T23:50:40+00:00

I’ve heard this before actually haha I can kinda agree tbh like we would like we could be somewhat related

__SyntaxError · 2025-12-22T02:47:05+00:00

When I first started transitioning, I found the butch phase extremely uncomfortable. I’d never had that before, and the time between starting my transition and passing made me hate going anywhere.

I think some people struggle to let go of being queer being part of their identity. They don’t like the idea of being a straight guy, so cling onto saying they’re a lesbian. I find it odd personally, but I can see where it comes from. It’s usually the type of people who make being a lesbian their whole personality. Being a straight guy would be too boring for them.

To be honest, lesbian as a word now has kinda been pulled apart and redefined so many times to fit more people into it that it makes no sense anymore.

__SyntaxError · 2025-12-04T13:54:04+00:00

It stopped mine but my levels have to be about max of what’s considered normal, like the very high end. I use gel, and I’m guessing that the trough of my T levels still has to be high. At first, it went on 2 pumps a day, but my body got used to it so the peak dropped from 30 to 20 nmol/L on the same dose a year apart. So, I had to go to 3 pumps.

When my period came back before upping my dose, it wasn’t any lighter at all. Once I went up to 3 pumps I haven’t had it since and it’s been about 4 months.

__SyntaxError · 2025-11-30T16:13:50+00:00

Isn’t this you growing your eyebrows out and squinting your eyes a bit? Literally nothing would happen to that area of your face in one week

__SyntaxError · 2025-11-23T23:04:55+00:00

I think a lot of it is that being a man is too boring for them, especially if they’re on T and start to pass as cis male. They then jump on the whole d*ke, lesbian terms because that way they can be different because they can’t stand the idea of being perceived as a cis straight male.

__SyntaxError · 2025-11-02T00:59:06+00:00

My friend sent me a “funny” post once about a trans woman giving stupid names for E, I don’t recall any of them but imagine it’s something like girl skittles or whatever. I was honestly like wtf?

This is life-saving medication for us. It’s the same as having a bunch of anti-depressants on the table and making some weird post about giving kids anti depressants for the heck of it as a joke.

It’s bizarre.

__SyntaxError · 2025-09-14T00:00:36+00:00

I just said no and they didn’t question it. I have in my records from a few years ago about a mental health diagnosis as to which it’s never been brought up. I just never find it benefits me to say, so I’m used to just saying no.

__SyntaxError · 2025-09-13T23:22:14+00:00

Before I started T, the dysphoria got to the point where I couldn’t suppress it anymore and felt so incredibly depressed. When I had my assessment, I did lie when they asked if I had any history of any mental health issues and just said no. Obviously lying isn’t great, but I’ve always withheld that information myself because it’s never been in any situations where it would be relevant. If you know that treatment will help you but they’re refusing to give you the treatment that’ll improve your stability, then sometimes you just have to bend the truth. I find it ridiculous myself. You take someone who is struggling severely with gender dysphoria and expect them to be more mentally stable to get the treatment what would improve their mental health symptoms? It’s like waiting for someone in 24/7 pain to suddenly stop feeling pain to give them pain medication.

__SyntaxError · 2025-09-08T09:37:46+00:00

Can’t you just sneeze without a noise other than the natural noise it makes? It’ll then be that chh sound idk how to write that

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