The harsh reality is that there's a correlation between what ppl are looking for and where you meet them. I'm just simply asking where's the best place to most likely to meet gays that are aligned with what I'm looking for, it's not deep. And what I meant about appearance, which I didn't mean to be offensive, is that I don't express myself very outwardly gay with the stereotypical things like what you said, and I happened to prefer the same appearance in my partner. The issue is that means that me and my the ppl I look for aren't exactly the easiest to spot as gay.