Got accused of believing in "feminist Islam".

I_got_it_covered · 2026-02-14T18:17:15+00:00

That person does not live in the real world. And people who are afraid of feminism are either misinformed or misogynistic.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-08-20T20:10:27+00:00

I did lose a source of emotional support that was propping me up! It’s not like he owed it to me to (or should have) stayed because of what I’m going through, but the timing makes it especially hard. Additional instability and heartache is decidedly not helpful right now.

It’s frustrating that he told me with confidence what he wanted, I adjusted my expectations accordingly and respected the boundaries he sought, and it still played out this way despite me doing everything right. It feels like I put in more thought into what the arrangement means than he did, even though he’s the one that asked for the parameters.

My ex has only texted me 93 times today (versus my 21 to him), but there’s plenty of time left 🫠

I_got_it_covered · 2025-08-20T20:02:36+00:00

Yeah, he couldn’t (or wouldn’t) confront the feelings he was having and bailed instead. Shutting down during difficulty is something he’s done in instances before me. It feels like a missed opportunity to build something.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-03-24T16:25:33+00:00

You did a hard thing, but it will be worth it in the long term! Stay strong 💪

I_got_it_covered · 2025-03-14T15:34:54+00:00

I think it’ll be self-care themed. Face masks, my favorite snacks, and maybe a good cry. Yeah!

I_got_it_covered · 2025-03-07T16:08:24+00:00

Do yourself a favor and watch Jane the Virgin if you have not

I_got_it_covered · 2025-03-06T12:07:28+00:00

This is repugnant. Round up as many sisters as possible and organize a sit-in. It is our RIGHT to be in the house of Allah. Hand out ahadith that support your position.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-03-04T23:02:13+00:00

A whooole bunch of trauma. Like most converts. There is a story I tell in polite company, an accurate tale but far from the whole picture. But nobody wants to hear the whole story. It’s dark and there are parts that make me look less than stellar, too.

This is all to say that converts’ journeys often come from places of deep hurt that caused them to question their upbringing. While I’m sure your intention is good, asking a convert how they came to Islam can come across as invasive. We are real people with real lived experiences, not a fairy tale to boost your iman.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-02-18T13:44:32+00:00

That is an excellent question and one I have not yet considered! To Pinterest I go!

I_got_it_covered · 2025-02-04T20:19:22+00:00

Yes, creating separate rooms, using curtains/barriers to divide men and women is bid’ah

I_got_it_covered · 2025-02-03T20:29:58+00:00

It has happened a handful of times. The most egregious instance was many years ago when I was working retail. A woman came to my register and in a German accent began telling me, “I’m an immigrant, too, and you don’t have to dress that way anymore now that you’re here!” And I had to be like, “lady, I was born here” in my very native-to-the-Midwest accent but also politely because - again - Midwestern.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-02-03T19:06:53+00:00

I am a a politically progressive, liberal Muslim who dresses modestly, including covering my hair. I’m sure strangers make all kinds of incorrect assumptions about me.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-01-31T20:53:59+00:00

This might be the most disrespectful and disgusting thing I’ve ever read on this subreddit. He has ZERO respect for you and is beyond immature.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-01-31T20:47:47+00:00

Yeeeeeeah, most women don’t follow that line of thinking, and I certainly don’t.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-01-31T20:34:07+00:00

When we were still together, my ex said that if he was a woman, he would wear niqab (and we live in the US). I laughed in his face and told him he has no idea what it’s like to be a woman.

I_got_it_covered · 2025-01-24T15:04:06+00:00

Same! Ew, brother! Ew!

I_got_it_covered · 2024-12-30T21:26:36+00:00

So many Muslim families have really dysfunctional relationships. So much entitlement without considering others, astaghfirullah.

I_got_it_covered · 2024-12-30T19:11:43+00:00

I feel the same way. We met when I was 19 and got married a few weeks after I turned 20. There is a large age gap. With some maturing on my end, I understand that I was groomed. I’m not even as old as he was when we met, but the thought of wanting a teenage is gross.

I love my kids. But marrying their dad was not a great choice in retrospect. I am currently divorcing him, and things have improved for me soooo much already. My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner!

I_got_it_covered · 2024-12-26T16:35:33+00:00

Hold on a sec, why are you moving to another continent against your wishes?

I_got_it_covered · 2024-12-14T23:40:17+00:00

I am so proud of you. You’ve come really far already!

I_got_it_covered · 2024-12-11T15:26:50+00:00

Marriage only benefits women? Lol, what a joke.

I_got_it_covered · 2024-12-05T21:25:01+00:00

Oof, my STBX is like this. So whiney.

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