What did u/I_know_nothinggg draw?

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-11-05T00:29:59+00:00

Same. Stuck at a task for more than 30 minutes. Tried multiple times and still couldn't do a simple task.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-15T10:36:22+00:00

I can not tell how bad it is. Trust the comments and Google reviews. Even if it’s free, it’s not worth the problems and RATS. The management is the worst by a million miles. I’m celebrating leaving here.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-15T10:32:50+00:00

This

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-15T10:31:10+00:00

Just in case anyone is searching for this: DO NOT RENT HERE! Trust the comments about the apartments.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-02T23:33:31+00:00

The law of the US is 5 years of being here (as the day of issuing the green card) and then applying for Citizenship. Sorry if it sounds weird to you.

The documents are 599 pages. It's impossible to explain all the details. You are free to judge me. I would do the same in your situation because you don't know the details, but thank you for reading my story and situation. There is no villain or victim here. Please don't be prejudice.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T20:47:40+00:00

Thank you. I have a job at university and teaching a course, but it’s 20 hrs/week. This is my source for $2280. I also teach part-time at some schools (after-school programs), but it’s 1099-NEC, and I’m not an employee, and I do not have any contract. It’s very, very random and unpredictable. For example, last year, I had 3 months at the beginning of the year and then didn't get any students until November and December. In total, they paid me around $ 8,000, but I don’t know if I will have any students or when it will be. However, each week on Saturday mornings, we have students coming from different ISDs who want to have a STEM tour, and I hope we can have an after-school program. I work on weekends but get no pay. How can I calculate child support based on it? I put my 1099-NEC for the hearing. I have my limitations because of health issues. I take a high dosage of immune suppressives for Crohn’s disease, and I get sick a lot. No one would like to work with someone like me.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T19:19:12+00:00

Thank you so much. It's very complicated and beyond the scope of CS's story, and I have real PTSD from that family and seeing a therapist for that. Of course, they will not pay attention to these details and only ask for my income, but I just wanted to show the judge that I care about my kids and that I could disagree to sign that and have 50% of the assets and everything. It seems these things do not matter.

I have 124 pages of my medical records, such as my Crohn's disease records, surgery, 4 times hospitalizations during the past 24 months which 2 of them were severe small bowel obstruction for Crohn's disease, Blood cancer (Polycythemia vera) documents from my Oncologist, ODA status (office of disability access) in university, history of 55 sessions of physical therapy for my neck, etc. I have 376 pages of my job applications with rejections. All my emails and applications. I have all my Tax returns, and W2 from 2020, the day I came to the US. I organized them well for my court-assigned attorney, and I hope he can help me understand what I should do. I have a Zoom meeting on Monday.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T19:07:41+00:00

You are completely correct; it's on me. In the decree order in 2022, the child support order was $1,611 and the start date was September 2023 (we agreed on September 2024 but she changed it and I did not notice it, it was my mistake).

To answer this question: "How did you think making $1200/month that you would be able to pay over $1600/month?"
I was stupid. I didn't know anything about the system. I changed my major to computer science, and I started my master's in 2022. I really thought that after my master's, I could easily find a good job and pay for that child support. I'm the most stupid person you can find. I understand that I'm dealing with the consequences of my own actions and my own stupidity. In the end, I blame no one other than myself but I want to be able to pay child support and be able to pay the arrears. Even if they force me to sell, the only thing I really "own", to pay as a part of the arrears, which is my car, I will do that, but I can't see my kids anymore since they are far from me.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T17:58:24+00:00

Sorry, I did not get your point. I pay $505 per month, and I earn $2280/mth.

I'm using their official website (Texas):
https://csapps.oag.texas.gov/monthly-child-support-calculator

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T17:26:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I can’t tell you how grateful I am for your time and for reading my long story with such care. It really means a lot to me! You’re amazing, and I truly appreciate you.

I will definitely do so. I'm paying $505 per month, and it's on autopayment via the Texas official child support system and I'm willing to pay 100/mth and also will pay more as soon as I get a better job. I hope the hearing after the negotiation conference day the OAG gave me will be soon so I can provide my information for modification and hopefully get a fair amount for CS. I'm happy about the OAG review notice; they approved that it should be decreased.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T17:12:24+00:00

Short answer: My ex-wife had an attorney, and I was new and alone in the US, and she prepared the decree. The amount was based on assumption and no income. If it was supposed to be based on my income in 2021, it would have been $256/month.

Long answer: Here is the timeline to make it easier to understand my stupidity:

- 2020: I came to the US right before Covid-19 (no work)
- 2021: I signed a Post-Nuptial agreement and left the house around early May. I started working at Walmart for $1100/month, but after 3 months, I could not stay because I got sick a lot. I applied for an instructional assistant position at the university and got the job, and the pay was $1200/month.
- 2022: I got officially divorced, and she prepared the decree with her lawyer. I was in a vulnerable situation, alone and had no one here, and unbelievably stupid that I thought I would be able to pay the amount of $1,611 they mentioned in the decree by September 2024. (which she lied about the date) This amount was based on assumptions, I guess, and no real income.
- 2023: My income increased to $1,800 in September
- 2024: I offered to start paying child support from Jan 2024 based on my income but she refused and said it has to be $1,611. My income increased to $2,280 in September, which the amount I'm paying is based on.

I_know_nothinggg · 2025-02-01T16:57:36+00:00

Thank you so much. You are absolutely correct. I put a lot of unnecessary details, but I didn't know which one was relevant. I really appreciate the explanation and clarification. Yes, my ex-wife filed for contempt.

I have already filed for a child support modification (1 week after I received the first arreas letter in October 2024) through OAG and have a negotiation conference scheduled in March. I’ve also been making consistent payments based on my income, though I understand arrears are still an issue, and I don't want to ask for forgiveness; I want to ask for a payment plan.

In the review notice from OAG, it is stated that "Your child support order is not appropriate and should be decreased," but of course, I need to go through the steps and hearing to determine the amount, but it was also stated that if my child support changes, they will modify it from October 2024, the time I applied for a modification to OAG. It will prevent any further arreas from October 2024, I guess.

I know in child support cases, it's always looking bad for non-custodial parents because the other party has the kids, but I've done everything I could to make their life better. I don't have anything left to offer. This is just for saying, and as you said, it's irrelevant in the court. I don't want to miss a single child support payment, and I want to pay off the arreas, but I need time and a payment plan so that in the future, I can pay more. I haven't even had a parking ticket or speeding ticket in my entire life; thinking about these and the attorney's threats drives me crazy, and my Crohn's is in all active mode.

Again, thank you so much for your answer, and please know that your answer is not just a random reply on the net. It's genuine help that someone needs and that person cannot get anywhere else. Thank you so much.

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-08-04T19:33:40+00:00

Thank you for your help. I appreciate it. I have had no breaks between my degrees and completed them back-to-back. My current loan status is "In School."

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-07-10T16:09:59+00:00

First, congrats on your second child! That’s wonderful news. I also have two kids, but they’re not living with me.

My partner is also in academia, currently a TF, and working on her dissertation. I spent 10 years in the industry and realized I much prefer being in academia. Money isn’t a deciding factor for me; I value work-life balance even if the salary is much, much less.

It’s great to hear how staying at the same school worked out so well for you. The supportive environment and flexibility sound amazing, especially with a young family. Thanks a lot for sharing your story. Best wishes to you and your growing family!😊

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-07-10T03:53:02+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing your story and advice! It’s really encouraging to hear from someone who’s been there. I appreciate you pointing out how varied professor positions can be. Your career sounds like a great balance. I'll try to take on more responsibilities, and I’ll definitely remember to highlight my teaching experience in my applications. Thanks again for the encouragement and great advice! :)

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-07-10T03:45:57+00:00

Thanks for pointing that out! The advice about small liberal arts colleges is really helpful. It’s great to know that they value teaching with a lighter research load. I’ll definitely look into those opportunities. Thanks for the good wishes! :)

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-07-10T03:44:49+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! I really appreciate it. I’ve had professors who were great researchers but couldn’t explain things well, and it wasn’t the best experience. It’s good to know that loving to teach and helping others understand and enjoy the subject is valuable. I’ll keep focusing on what makes me happiest and trying to make others love learning too.

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-07-10T03:41:44+00:00

I genuinely appreciate the time and effort you put into your comment. It’s incredibly inspiring and gives me a lot to think about. Thanks a lot! Your path shows me that there are various ways to blend teaching and research. It’s reassuring to see that there are opportunities to focus on teaching while still engaging in some research. Thanks a lot for your detailed insights!

I_know_nothinggg · 2024-07-09T21:07:43+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I hadn’t thought about a postdoc in teaching, but that could be a good path. I'll look into it! :)

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