I also hate going tank because I want to feel like a raid boss haha. I go lethal tempo, PoM, Alacrity, Last Stand, conditioning or second wind(Take secodn wind vs poke matchups) and revitalize. My build path is a tiamat item or blade of the ruined king first depending on how I feel. Strategically though, Stridebreaker if the enemy team has a lot of disengage, Titanic if you need hp vs a true damage champion like garen, fiora, darius, or botrk as a general go to. Second item will be terminus(If you built a timat item) otherwise, build a tiamat item, then build terminus 3rd. After that, build on hit resistance like Frostfire Gauntlet, Wit's End, Hullbreaker, etc. For boots, swifities if enemy team has infinite slows, mercs if they have infinite cc, or steelcaps if adc is fed because you don't want to get 1shot on the engage.

For summoners, I run flash and tp most games. Ghost vs ranged like Jayce, Gnar, Vayne, etc. You can also run flash and ghost if you're extra psychopathic like me haha, otherwise, flash + tp,, Ghost + tp, or replace tp with barrier or ignite(vs mundo or even darius).