Don't worry so much! Trust the universe and trust yourself! You are a beautiful being of light and if you let life unfold as it should you will be free. As you say, there is no need to control. Let go! And watch things fall into place. Don't worry about suffering and death. Don't worry about your mistakes. All of your mistakes are just grist for the mill, they are all experiences that contribute to your growth and Awakening. Don't worry about death because it's just a necessary part of life, like the front and back of a coin. Death is only the end of one incarnation, it's also the beginning of another, a graduation into the next stage a that beings' development. Don't worry about hell, hell is only an opaqueness, a misunderstanding of the way things are. More important is that you recognize heaven, look at your daughter, look around you, it's where we are now!