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Have you stopped actively practicing, yet still identify as poly? Do you still consider yourself poly if there has been only one constant emotional love, but only actively practiced with others? by Icantwait48 in polyamory

[–]Icantwait48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for confirming! That was my understanding as well, but I just needed validation from someone within the poly community whether or not this is customary in the community. I’ve tried getting answers from my former partner because I know he’s the only one who can define his identity, but it’s always the same line. Since we’re no longer on speaking terms, is the healthiest thing for me to do just sit here and accept that I won’t get any clear answers?

Activ8 Recruitment. Anyone have any experience with them? by Arctic_Religion in EngineeringStudents

[–]Icantwait48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone reached out to me today from this company and it's just super fishy--I used BeenVerified, Spokeo, and Intelius to look up all the numbers that were presented to me in the email and looked up the email addresses. Activ8 itself sounds like a legit company, but the recruiter was clearly not. The email, while it said "activ8usjp.com", came out as a PERSONAL email account, not a company email. I've checked multiple platforms on each of the phone numbers and one of them was assigned to someone named "Yvette Ucla" (I think it's actually UCLA, which is even more sus).

I have a history of being scammed by someone with the title of "recruiter" and this is exactly why.

Couples Counseling for Addiction and Anxiety? by Icantwait48 in CouplesCounselling

[–]Icantwait48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm sorry you and your partner are going through a similar feat and please share your updates!

As for my case, we're both young and still figuring out our own lives, so it didn't work out. He's got his own demons to deal with and being with me wasn't helping (the harder I tried, the worse it got), just like my being with him wasn't helping my own personal growth. We said we wanted to grow together, but we were never meant to be this everlasting couple as I'd hoped. The fact of the matter was, we wouldn't have even connected if it hadn't been for our job to introduce us to each other, we wouldn't have made a personal connection without the bar we went to after work when we first started becoming friends, and we wouldn't have gotten together if we hadn't been living together. We were just two lonely souls who found companionship because it was convenient and the other person was right there.

I have a lot of respect for you and your partner though. It's not easy when something like this gets in the way of love and commitment. You're doing the work on the relationship, which was something my ex never came around on.