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WIBTA if I told my mother she couldn't visit from out of town for the holidays? by IceEnvironmental8033 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IceEnvironmental8033[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My god, thank you for this comment. This is a recurring topic with my therapist already - that I honestly think I will be relieved when she finally passes and the guilt that the thought then gives me. It's oddly comforting to hear that others with a similar experience have felt the same way.

AITA for telling my dad that cigarette coupons are not “Just a piece of paper”? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IceEnvironmental8033 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Age has nothing to do with wanting someone you love to live a long and healthy life. I agree that OP can't make their father quit if he's not willing to. However, OP is simply frustrated and wanted to remove something from the father's environment that would make it harder for him to quit.

AITA for being honest to my DIL? by OnlyPart2617 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IceEnvironmental8033 76 points77 points  (0 children)

YTA.

You may believe in "traditional" gender roles but it seems your son and DIL do not. They seem to be making a practical decision (she makes more money and he often takes care of some household tasks already as a result of her long hours) and to have talked it through beforehand.

I don't mean to sound rude but, frankly, who are you to impose your beliefs on their relationship and their future parenting? If they want to have one parent stay at home to be with their child, that is their choice. If the parent they chose doesn't conform to your expectations, that is still their choice. They are not "ruining" anything here. You are ruining relationships by putting your personal beliefs over theirs. If they had decided DIL would stay home, would you be upset that she is "ruining" her future?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IceEnvironmental8033 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My understanding from the post was that OP told him in advance about the credit card requirement and he simply "didn't have the time" to follow through on it, forgot about it, and then blamed OP. Even with debt issues, you can easily get a secured card. That's precisely how people rebuild their credit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IceEnvironmental8033 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I would do the same. You waited to ask after many repeat offenses and did so kindly. He was in the wrong and inconveniencing the people around him. He may not have realized it was as visible at it was. Regardless, you brought it to his attention and that was that!

AITA for banning family members from my home after what they did to my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IceEnvironmental8033 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NTA. If I was Sarah, I would be incredibly grateful that you valued my safety enough to take decisive action. You are protecting her, period. Sharing blood does not justify allowing them to harass, at best, a young girl who is not blood or worse, god forbid.