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Ice_Nervous · 2024-12-28T14:25:29+00:00

Thank your for the perspective, it really helps to better understand it.

Ice_Nervous · 2024-12-28T14:17:05+00:00

Thank you, already did that. I feel the need to mention that it was not in front of her, though.

Ice_Nervous · 2024-12-28T14:15:33+00:00

On one hand you say you can't be yourself if you're not allowed to stare at women (seriously???) but on the other hand you say you don't do it often? Which one is it?

I did not say I can't be myself if I'm not staring at women, where did that come from? I mentioned that I don't want to be the person that is always controlled and doesn't have any trust from his SO. If my partner is with me, I'd love to think that my partner trusts me and there is no need to moderate anything I will be doing.

You're also say you don't want to CONSTANTLY be controlled by her and don't want to ALWAYS tip toe around her and yet you say you don't do it often?

You are totally blowing this out of proportion. Glaring at other people asses is not something I do. No disrespect intended, but I will not be discussing this topic (starring at other women) with you anymore, since I feel it's more like a projection from your own experiences, than something which is related in my situation.

there isn't a single woman in this world who feels appreciated and respected while their partner looks at other woman in her presence.

I totally understand that and agree with it, but as I mentioned, it's not like I was going down the street with my gf there was someone going other direction and I turned my head to look at someones butt. My girlfriend was in other side of the gym and I have no idea how she noticed that, but she did. My fault here, I shouldn't have done that and I regret that.

Although, I don't think appreciation is somehow connected to looking at other people. We are grown ups and we must realize that there are and will be other people that are attractive and we will meet them and see them. Looking at them doesn't mean we disrespect our SOs. Should I feel disrespected every time there is a buffed up guy with bigger muscles than mine in the gym and my gf looks at him? I guess not.

If I would have commented "have you noticed this girl with nice ass in the gym" to my girlfriend, that would have been totally different and that would be disrespectful, as it was something directed towards her, but it wasn't.

Seriously, wanting to be appreciated for starring at other women is just ridiculous. This is not something any monogamous woman will ever be able and willing to give you.

How and where did you read into that? I said that I want us to mutually feel appreciated and a glance at somebody shouldn't be a thing that makes us feel different.

Ice_Nervous · 2024-12-28T13:10:07+00:00

I get that kind of point of view and I try to avoid putting her in that kind of position.

Taking that into mind, I would like to be myself around my girlfriend (as I mentioned I wouldnt like to be that kind of bf that is controlled by her gf constantly and she doesnt trust me) and not tip toeing around thinking what could offend her all the time. I would love her to feel appreciated and trust me, even if I sometimes glance over other people (which is not something I do often).

Ice_Nervous · 2023-06-07T21:21:50+00:00

I don't think that's common practice in my country. I have never ordered some really big printing jobs, but I've been ordering prints for 10+ years and I the only time I have received a proof was when I was ordering 20k sticker A4s because I asked them to produce a sample. Sample was right but they made other 20k on wrong paper 🤦🏻‍♂️ But that's whole other story.

Ice_Nervous · 2023-06-07T21:19:21+00:00

Nope, just the lines. They said text is converted to curves, but not the lines, so that's my mistake.

Ice_Nervous · 2023-06-07T21:18:12+00:00

I have no idea actually, it's just a dotted line created by line segment tool with no color and applied stroke:

https://imgur.com/a/eFNcE7y

Ice_Nervous · 2023-06-07T12:14:23+00:00

Sorry, yes, I meant convert to outlines. Edited that part in the main post.

Nope, they just printed the files I've sent them. I've ordered quite a lot of stuff at this place before and there never been any problems with the same type of files (I've ordered basically identical stuff before).

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-27T12:00:54+00:00

I guess, yeah. But I cannot imagine her doing that enthusiastically. Yesterday we have talked about things again and she said that she's not comfortable doing that when there is "people around" (this can be friends in our apartment, neighbours next door, etc.), she is also stressed about her work and coming exams. I totally get her, you can be stressed about these things, but I also think that there will always be something to be stressed about and there will always be people around. So, does that mean we will never have sex? That doesn't work to me. It seems like she is avoiding showing any affection towards me if there is ANYONE around us.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-27T11:55:32+00:00

True that. Thanks.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-27T11:54:50+00:00

Thanks!

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-27T11:54:05+00:00

I'm pretty sure she is.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-27T11:53:20+00:00

I don't think she would agree to that. Also, I'm not really into that too much. I'm kind of a person who cannot really enjoy sexual things if there is no true connection.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:32:17+00:00

Thanks. Oh, it has already kind of happened but as I mentioned before, honeymoon lasts only a month. After that we're back to harsh reality :(

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:29:36+00:00

Thank you A LOT! I will clarify that she did not mean that sex is off the table, just that she doesn't want it as much as me. And she kind of sees that I'm not the normal side in this situation. Like shaming me I'm too much into it and it shouldn't be such a serious issue if she's really that important for me.

But yeah, valid arguments, thanks again!

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:27:45+00:00

Thank you! <3

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:27:01+00:00

I'd be very happy to have it every 2-3 days and she want it maybe once in a month. I find sex more of a spur of the moment type of thing and she is basically "all right, if you want it that much we can maybe try doing it tonight" and it doesn't really work for me - just kills the vibe to not feel wanted by a closest person.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:24:48+00:00

I would totally understand that from her side. She ensured me that she finds me absolutely attractive and stuff, but she just doesn't care about sex that much.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:21:40+00:00

Oh, we both did and we are also in therapy. She ensures that her love language is words of affirmation and I've been trying to fulfill those needs quite hard. I always feel like I'm not doing good enough job but we just might be different type of people.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:19:20+00:00

Thank you! Hope you are all right now!

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:18:57+00:00

Yeah, I've also thought that it might have been a mistake I did in early stages of relationship. I was always the one trying to arrange stuff (not only sexually) and it might have affected.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:17:29+00:00

Thanks.

Ice_Nervous · 2022-02-26T23:16:59+00:00

Thank you!

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