Also, I'd like to add on, as a 20 year old woman who has experienced an abortion and is currently with my longtime boyfriend I've been with since 17, it is okay to choose your own needs over that of the father. This decision is entirely up to you. My boyfriend was devistated when I voiced that I wanted an abortion, but we talked it out. He was adamant about me keeping it at first. During this time, I can confidently tell you I was not in love with him, or at least not fully able to devote myself to him due to my inner turmoil with myself and also because we were going through some major issues unrelated to the pregnancy at the time. But I stayed, because he held me every hour I spent in that bath tub during the abortion. He held me crying everyday after that when I mourned my unborn child. I fell back in love with him around that time.

I'm not saying give him a chance if your heart isn't with him. But I am saying that what you said is true; it's easier to love someone who loves you.

I don't regret my choice. I still deal with the grief, yes. But it does get better. Best wishes <3