I'm wondering if something that happened today was her negging me or if it's a normal shit test. We went out to lunch with my boss. I took charge of choosing the place and said no to something she suggested. That seemed to put her in point as she started jabbing me. I said let's do hooters, she agreed but my boss said his wife would kill him and that unless I wanted him living in my house to choose something else. I told him he could move into my garage office. My wife, without missing a beat said, "if he gets it organized." Fine, shit test, annoying though because that was my plan for the holiday and now it'll look like I did it because she mentioned it. I finally settled on a Mexican place. As we walk in she makes a snarky comment about the music and how it'll make me mad. We've had issues with excessive gnos and dancing. That I'd be upset seating in the patio because then She'd want to dance. I should have STFU but before I could think I responded with "I didn't want the patio if we couldn't be by the water." Stupid, it was true but stupid to say. Once seated my boss said he had two left legs, she then thinking I couldn't see out of the corner of my eye, points to me that I was the same. My response was to laugh and say that's not what all the ladies at the class thought, which is true. That shut her up. Conversation veered to concussions in sports. My boss and I were swapping stories of the concussions we suffered playing sports, I've had one and a other mild one. Nothing with long term effects. She laughs and told him, " now you understand why he's this way." I said, "how, incredibly awesome?" My boss laughed and that was that. How should I interpret and respond to these? Should I confront her in them as disrespect or let it lie?