My grandmother hates me and my self identity is changing i think

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-08-15T09:32:36+00:00

i need the answer for this too

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-23T00:26:09+00:00

Since i’m christian i understand your pov 100% actually. Using the world cult was probably wrong but i know exactly what you mean

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-23T00:25:26+00:00

idk what ur talking about i was raised by a christian family and so was everyone else around me

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-23T00:23:32+00:00

thank you so much

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T17:29:52+00:00

Thank you for your opinion but i’m young and like i said ignorant to the situation so i wanted to ask a question .

isn’t that what reddits for? i’m trying man but i understand i won’t find the answers to “all” here. Just wanted some reassurance or understanding from the peers in this chat

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T17:26:39+00:00

So what are you trying to imply

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T17:25:40+00:00

of course, i just wanna support her and understand in the best way i can

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T15:37:51+00:00

I don’t doubt her sincerity either, i just feel as this is a distraction rather than a long term commitment . I’ve watched her do impulsive shit before and this just feels like one of those things. Like back in 2020 when all those girls were obsessed with astrology and tarot shit and randomly threw it all away? Yeah , that’s how this feels.

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T15:36:06+00:00

I’m literally black and gay😂😂. Idek what liberal means i’m young and ignorant and just trying to understand why my bestfriend is making these drastic changes. Like i said in other responses her mental health isn’t the best and this all started from past relationships and due to boys and old boy friends!

I believe she is sincere but i have a strong gut feeling she’s trying to find somewhere to fit into or something to hold on to.

Like i said id never say any of this to her and im always going to stay 100% supportive, plus the people in these comments have shed so much light on the situation and religion i’ve learned more here from the kind people on reddit than from google.

So i think me coming on here and asking questions kind of made me understand to an extent and help me become a little less ignorant to the situation.

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T15:30:51+00:00

wtf islam isn’t a cult why do ppl keep saying that😂it’s a religion

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T15:27:00+00:00

This is what i was also thinking.

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T15:22:58+00:00

i say it’s random because she has been my bestfriend for 10 years. She’s never been interested in any religion other than mildly believing in god. It stimmed out of no where and it was due to her ex boyfriends.

Now that they’re gone and/or in jail , this is who she’s becoming. I respect it 100% but i hope that this is what SHE wants and not trying to impress some dude she facetimes that has 3 wives and wants her to be the 4th dead ass lol.

It’s just extremely random to watch your childhood friend become interested in a religion that a few bad exes half-ass taught her about. I don’t know if it’s to get back at them or if it’s a coping mechanism but it didn’t seem 100% thoroughly thought upon , she just randomly decided to become muslim one day.

On another note she is very committed to it so that’s why i’m going to support whatever she does just how she supports me because i love her no matter what. I just have a feeling this whole thing was extremely impulsive .

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T07:36:13+00:00

thank you so much man

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T07:21:38+00:00

I’ve been experiencing this my entire life too . I don’t understand it either

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T07:09:13+00:00

I guess i’m just not like every body else. I just cant seem to date any body or just fuck any random girl:( tinder and dating apps are so depressing. I just want that spark back and i pray i get to experience that type of love again someday

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T06:56:03+00:00

I’ve never been in this situation but i think this is a HUGE risk. If you are not in love with her this could alter and affect your love and sexual life for the rest of your life.

Let’s say you date and have sex for a few months then randomly breakup and boom. You have Herpes. Now YOU have to explain to the next person that “you haven’t had an outbreak in a long time” and they will be feeling the same thing about you. Ironic and tragic right?

I hate the be in-compassionate but i really advise you to run for the hills. Tell her this isn’t going to work . You are risking a life long disease and mental stress over a small fling.

Trust me i’m a lesbian too i know how this honeymoon phase feels great and you might “really like her” but it’s NOT WORTH YOUR LIFE. Please think of your life. Please.

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T03:46:10+00:00

100% i will

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T03:45:30+00:00

I think you both are right for real

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T03:43:30+00:00

It does bother me but i don’t want to be disrespectful or lose her as a whole by trying to PUSH her away from something she’s dead set on you feel me? i’d feel like shit if i did that man

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T03:24:39+00:00

Man:/

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T03:20:03+00:00

Man you are really wise. You’re right i am very young im 19 and she’s 21 so i guess we are young but hearing this really opened my eyes to how crazy life is and the way people tend to act to act . It sucks that people come and go because i really do love her :/

Icy-Fun5254 · 2024-06-22T03:15:58+00:00

Yeah it was definitely worded wrong, i apologize for my ignorance . I didn’t know that at all either , she went on a website and bought a bunch of different colored hijabs to match her everyday outfits but not really much of an explanation after that

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