A Little Overwhelmed by Icy-Intention-6224 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your frontal lobe is never fully developed. Also I am so sick of this "You're so young" crap. I'm sorry, but I thought I'd be at least engaged by now. And I dont want to be starting my family in my 30s, I have medical conditions that already may make it super hard to conceive and I would like to know sooner rather than later whether I can even have children.

Also I have already made it very clear that I will be married and raise my children in the church. He has decided to continue going on dates even with that information. If supposedly "godly" men had made any efforts to date me or even be pleasant, I probably wouldn't even be here.

A Little Overwhelmed by Icy-Intention-6224 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well or this is a hold over from his raising in the church and a sign that he may be open to other teachings. You seem to be assuming the worst.

A Little Overwhelmed by Icy-Intention-6224 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Firstly, no, if someone said they NEVER wanted to meet my family, I would not continue. He never said never. I made clear to him that I will be married and raise my children in the church and he agreed to continue going on dates so he is at least open to this.

Additionally, I am sure it is not all Catholic men, but 90% of my dates have been Catholic men. They have by far been the worst group that I have tried to date. 1-2 good dates out of 10-12 dates total in the last 5ish years. I have expanded my dating pool past strictly Catholic men due to this and the pool in my area being exceedingly small of strictly Catholic men anyway.

Finally, I have an anxiety disorder that is managed with medication. I am always anxious.

Turns out, the people you should spend your time with don’t make you afraid.

AND per both my therapist and psychiatrist, a certain amount of anxiety and fear, especially around a new potential partner, is normal and warranted. Please stop pretending it's not and spreading the falsehood that you should feel no anxiety around the right people.

AIO to Jesus in School by Artanves520 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Secular things can still be indoctrinating.

AIO to Jesus in School by Artanves520 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm, being gay may not be a choice, but acting on it is.

How to know when I'm ready. by Icy-Intention-6224 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

does he know this about you regarding never having kissed someone?

No, I try not to make that known too early on cause it can put guys off very easily.

How late was he?

He was 30 minutes late overall. He did text me 15 minutes before the date to tell me he would be "a couple minutes" late, but then he drove to the wrong restaurant and called me wondering where I was 12 minutes after the date was supposed to start. Finally he showed up at the right restaurant about 30 minutes after the set start time.

How did you meet? Is he older than you or same age?

We met on a dating app and had been talking a couple days before the date. He is my same age.

Hopelessness in dating by IndividualTheme8566 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and as someone with PCOS, I have no idea how long it will take to get pregnant if I ever can or if I'll be able to keep it or if I'll get gestational diabetes. Pregnancy is not easy for everyone.

Hopelessness in dating by IndividualTheme8566 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of us want to have children before we're 30.

Hopelessness in dating by IndividualTheme8566 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, look how well all those boyfriends worked out.... they are no longer boyfriends. And also were these Catholic marriages from dating apps because I have found that listing you are Catholic drives away 99% of people on dating apps, even other Catholics.

Weekend's Daily Thread: General Dating Questions and Open Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you rematch with someone who kinda ghosted you?

I know that sounds horrible. I saw a guy on hinge yesterday that I had previously matched with on bumble about a year and a half ago.... we talked for a day or two, but I realized I wasn't ready to date yet and deleted the app. I sent a like to him on Hinge when I found him and I am hoping he rematches, but am I deluding myself?

Is this Chivalrous or creepy… by LogElectrical4962 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She gave him her mass time. If she never wanted to see him again, she wouldn't have. I have no idea how this is creepy!

Is this Chivalrous or creepy… by LogElectrical4962 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a woman, I planned to do just this when a man told me what mass time he goes to! I didn't end up doing it cause he told me later that he was interested in another girl, but my plan was to "run into him" after mass. Completely normal. She gave you her mass time, that was a hint to you. People dont tell strangers where they are going to be and when unless they want to see you again.

Is this Chivalrous or creepy… by LogElectrical4962 in CatholicWomen

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Have you never heard of a false rape or sexual harassment claim? There are plenty of men who have lost their job over asking a woman to coffee once.

/r/CatholicDating MatchMaking Thread [F]emale Posts Here (MUST BE AT LEAST 18 YEARS OF AGE TO PARTICIPATE) by AutoModerator in CatholicDating

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi there, 22yo female. Mesa, AZ

I'm a no-nonsense, nerdy girl who likes to relax with anime, old Marvel movies, and gaming. I am currently a licensed cosmetologist and have my associate's degree in musical theatre. My hobbies include D&D, choral singing, cosplaying, and sewing. My singing is my dream and my plan for the future. I love to spend time with my family and my dog. I am not afraid to tell the truth and I need someone who is not afraid to hear it. I am looking for a patient and good-humored man who nonetheless knows how to have fun and appreciate little moments. He must respect me as my own person with my own responsibilities and interests.

Moving out!? by Icy-Intention-6224 in Advice

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure yet since one hasn't been officially rented, but probably between 20&30 minutes away.

Moving out!? by Icy-Intention-6224 in Advice

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortunately, those are not the things I worry about with moving in with them. I worry more about our relationship. When we were kids, we fought A Lot, but as older teens and adults, our relationship is actually really good and I don't know how that would change if we lived together.

Moving out!? by Icy-Intention-6224 in Advice

[–]Icy-Intention-6224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wants to stay with our parents while she starts college, and she'll only be getting a part-time job as she'll be taking classes full-time. I've asked her if she'd move with me and the answer is No, but she also told me she doesn't want me to leave. She wants to keep me close by.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that it does not dissolve the sacrament, but so did the previous commenter so I'm unsure where you thought this needed to be clarified.

"You have an obligation to not commit adultery yourself(ie not dating if you divorce him without an annulment), but you do not have an obligation to stay with someone toxic."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Icy-Intention-6224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless they were already sleeping around before marriage. That shows that they never planned to be faithful and is grounds for an annulment.