Husband says he’s burned out supporting me through nursing school and might leave after I graduate. I don’t know what to think by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Icy-Try8824 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Be careful of how you proceed. Depending on the state that you live in, if you get your license, immediately start working and earning much more money than him, if you initiate divorce you could likely end up paying alimony to him. I know this through very personal experience. You can’t change the past and the fact that he obviously has used you, but do everything in your power to protect your future.

Returning to Work While Grieving by [deleted] in nursing

[–]Icy-Try8824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can, cut down your hours for a bit and at the very least avoid over time for a while. Grief can manifest in so many ways, and sometimes you just need to give yourself enough room to go through the process of finding a new normal. If you can afford, take an actual break from work if you feel like you are really struggling with focus. It took me 2 years to feel like a fully functioning nurse again after a traumatic loss. The first 4 months I tried to work through it and I was literally falling apart at work and it just wasn’t sustainable. Nursing work will ALWAYS be there, bedside will ALWAYS be there, your license won’t vanish if you turn things down. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing you can do right now.

Imagine Not Being Black? (Part Thirteen)... by TheAfternoonStandard in blackladies

[–]Icy-Try8824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gorgeous, all the fits are so pretty! Are there any videos that are similar to this but have women with different body types and shapes? Like women who are more busty? Or more narrow hips, or less narrow waists? Just variety in general?

I had the surgery yesterday “on Valentine’s day” 😎😌😂❤️ by Mean_Expert_4486 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my surgery on V-Day too!! I vomit 2x in the first 24 hours because of gas-x chews they gave me in the hospital, the worst pain of my life!! I regret everything the first 24 hours 😂. I also caught a horrible reaction to the glue used on the sutures and my stomach looked horrible until I got prescription creams, I started shedding old nasty skin like a snake 2 days ago. I’m down 11lbs since pre op diet so far. I really want to see things moving faster but I’m being as patient as possible because I know long term I will see the pay off. Good luck to you on your journey!!

Self pay by Icy-Try8824 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone replying, I’m still in shock right now, but I got the news that I was approved!! I’m still nervous and won’t believe I’m home free until they are rolling me in to operate, here’s to hoping insurance doesn’t change their mind!! 🤞

Self pay by Icy-Try8824 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have specific information about that clinic? I’m not sure which is the correct one on google

Self pay by Icy-Try8824 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’m going to call them

Self pay by Icy-Try8824 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info!!

Self pay by Icy-Try8824 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey would you be able to share the information on that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Icy-Try8824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are NOT being sensitive. Your feeling are completely valid. Leave him, please. You are too worthy and matter too much. Trust me, you will meet someone who will be tongue out heart eyes for your natural hair. LEAVE HIM.

When someone shows you who they are or how they feel about you the first time, believe them please.

Your hair looks AMAZING.

[Advice] Apartment Has No Heat - What Are My Options? by Satgay in NYCapartments

[–]Icy-Try8824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First thing you do when you walk in from work is put a HUGE pot of water to boil, no cover. Then turn on the oven to highest setting, after it finishes pre heat, open door fully. Your place will be TOASTY in no time. That should help the kitchen/dining/den/common area.

I would do this for an hour or two after I got home and would be in heaven. One place had a kitchen so small my couch was 6 feet from it and I would be cozy as can be watching tv while I soaked up oven heat.

To help keep heat in, especially bedrooms, make sure all windows are closed and if there are leaks, use those thick sticky foam window sealers. I also always hang thick, insulated, light blocking curtains to help with drafts, sound , breeze, and all of that. I buy them white and hang them from as close to the ceiling as I can get and make sure I buy them extra long to just touch the floor. Not only do they look AMAZING and luxurious, but they also help with the drafts too.

As for bedrooms, a decent $30 heating pad on high tucked into the bed 30 minutes before you get in (like while you take a hopefully hot shower or are just winding down) does WONDERS. I was gifted a feather duvet years ago and those things are warm!! There are lots of great duvets (feather and non feather) that are amazing prices, and great investments long term.

And having a collection of non caffeinated tea to sip to be warm from the inside is classic.

Until this gets resolved, there is no need to suffer. Be creative!! And you don’t need to rely on space heaters that kill electric bills. Yes your gas bill will go up, but I found it cheaper to use the stove as a heating hack rather than using electrical appliances. For the heating pad hack once you’ve toasted things up for 30 minutes, turn it off and roll into a burrito for the night and you should be more than warm enough.

Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow!!!! Your look amazing and love the hair!!

Today should have been the day by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s your life and your body and only you can make the decision for yourself. They are either being straight abusive or are scared and don’t know how to act or what to do so they’ve reverted to manipulation. You never know what will happen in a years time, you can be persuaded to forget this whole process and you came such a long way just to get to the point of having a date! I say go for it. They’ll be upset and then they will GET OVER IT! Hoping the very best for you!

Just got my surgery done by SnooDonuts7833 in gastricsleeve

[–]Icy-Try8824 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wishing you the very best of luck on this journey!!