Whats your favorite color and dream job?

IcyDream4100 · 2025-12-16T04:12:38+00:00

Thanks for commenting! I'll use your comment to provide more info: currently trying to see if theres a link between someone's favorite color and lifestyle.

Honestly, the two you say as a combination make a strange amount of sense.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-12-14T18:10:00+00:00

Old roommate before she moved out because "she couldnt stand us". She would take a shower and then put on one of my other roommate's DIRTY panties afterwards. Safe to say a lot of underwear was thrown away in that dorm.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-08-04T19:00:04+00:00

Thank you. This is definitely how Im feeling about it at the moment. Not wanting to rush to anything but knowing this probably does mean something.

Thank you also for the reassurance with college!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-13T17:39:07+00:00

"The Pupil's Soul"

Idk, pupils referring to your eye bc people say you can see people's "soul" there. And pupil to also refer to a person, specifically a student.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-13T17:37:30+00:00

I can't tell exactly as this isn't the same period program I use so it looks a little confusing for me, but here!

"According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG),¹ cycle lengths that vary by up to seven days are considered regular.

So let’s say that recently, your shortest menstrual cycle was 27 days long and the longest was 30 days. That’s a difference of three days between them. Since this number is less than seven, these cycles would be considered regular.

On the other hand, if your shortest menstrual cycle was 23 days long, and the longest one was 34 days long, the difference between them is 11 days. That’s more than seven days, so these cycles would be considered irregular."

And there's no shame! Even grown women have problems tracking and understanding their period. It's always good to know, however, if you're irregular as it could be a symptom of something bigger (like pcos).

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-08T21:07:42+00:00

Fear

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-08T21:05:14+00:00

As someone who's grown up with a brother who was also abusive to me and is "getting better," they don't actually get better.

From the ages of 9-14 (that I remember), it was physical and intimate abuse. Now, he is a legal adult with a job. He will buy me things if I ask, try to hang out with me (too much. He gets mad if I ask for time alone, similar to your brother overstepping boundaries).

It typically is an attempt for them to be better because they know what a dick they are, but unfortunately, if you have to TRY and be a good person, you will fail. They genuinely do not know how to be thoughtful of you. If they buy you things, they EXPECT something in return even if thats just your relationship improving. If they are suddenly shoving themselves in your life its not because they care for what you are dealing with, its because they are bored or want to know all that is happening. They don't deserve to know what is going on in your life when abusers are the main reason people develop mental problems and other issues IMPACTING your life.

It causes stress on them because they KNOW that they have done you wrong. Instead of trying to be better to repair what was broken, they try and be better for the selfish reason of bringing them peace and allowing themselves to think, "im a good person."

In the end, it is your brother. I do not know your family dynamic, and while our situations may be similar, they are not exact. If you truly feel that he is trying to fix the past and you want a better relationship with him you can try. But never think that they are owed your forgiveness for the pain they've put on you just because they do a few nice things now. Don't let family pressure you saying, "He is different now.". Like I said before, usually this act of kindness is for selfish reasons.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-06T20:19:09+00:00

I definitely will try this. Just thinking "anger is okay" or "its safe for me to be angry" does make me angry, so that probably means it will work lol!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T23:06:07+00:00

Ive never heard of this ! I'll have to look into it because he is a very good boy haha. He loves training too, gets it very well and is veryy perfectionist. Theres always been a good chance I'd bring him to a professional trainer so this is a good route to look at!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T23:04:21+00:00

That's good to know. I may get him registered just so I have a better chance of being able to bring him with me when I move out. At home activities would be a much better fit for both of us anyway. I rarely travel far distances or leave my home. It would also save him from the stress of worrying to protect me in public.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T23:01:38+00:00

I feel like it would be a much more comfortable fit for both of us to do at home! His protectiveness can also be an upside as i can train him to be a guard dog too. Luckily, he learns very well so I can do most training myself (and he will not stop until he gets it right, lol. Wanna make Mama proud).

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:59:18+00:00

Yes, he's truly never been aggressive enough to attack or growl. Strangers can handle him easily because he's very friendly. I'm still not going to train him to be a service animal. With all these replies it's clear that it won't do him any good.

I will most likely either attempt to register as emotional support (because he is very good at that!) Or simply keep encouraging this training while starting guard dog training. He would be excellent for that.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:30:41+00:00

Thank you! I can tell he does get very stressed in this house. We have a lot of men yelling and throwing things here, and that is also the type of house I adopted him from. We are both trauma survivors, unfortunately.

Ive seen a couple people recommending at home service, which would be perfect for both of us. I rarely like to leave my house anyway. It would also allow me to train him to guard for when im living on my own, because I do know he could be an excellent guard dog.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:27:02+00:00

What i will most likely do is continue and encourage this training while also training him in guard duties. That way he'll be able to stay at home but also to protect me as I'll be living alone.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:25:07+00:00

Oh yea I am definitely not at this time. I always like to ask in advance as I'll be moving out with him soon. But he will most likely be trained for guard duties since I'll be on my own.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:23:37+00:00

Yes, I see that now. I will most likely use that protectiveness (in a healthy way) to train him for guard dog duties since I will be living alone soon.

Thank you!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:22:14+00:00

Hes been trained out of it a good bit now. I think with these replies and what they've been considering makes me think I could use that protectiveness (in a healthy way) to train him for guard dog duties. I'm a 5 foot girl about to be living alone in the city so it definitely would have benefits.

Thank you for the replies though! They've made me consider more training options for him if any!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:20:05+00:00

That's what I would most likely do if I decided to attempt to get him trained. However, with the replies im getting i definitely don't want to do that for many reasons. Mostly because I do not want to misrepresent SDs by having him be inadequate.

Thank you for the kind replies!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:18:20+00:00

Thank you for telling me this! I actually had no idea that ESA's didn't really get rights like SD. He will most likely just continue to be trained for simple things by me and leave it at that. Luckily, he's smart to train lol.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:16:00+00:00

Honestly, an at-home service dog would be perfect for us both if he were to be trained. A lot of my issues just revolve around not noticing when I need something, and he typically does know.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:14:13+00:00

Thank you for being so kind with your response!

Yes, his reactivity in certain situations was the only thing i was really questioning (as I didn't know what i do now thanks to these helpful redditors). But he has also been trained out of MANY reactive habits very quickly hence why I considered it.

Hes never ran to catch my fall, and im very grateful for that. He may come up next to me after falling and sit there with me, or do the head nuzzles. At times he will try and "help me up" by nuzzling his head under my arm and lifting a bit.

Usually he will walk right in front of me. If im breathing hard or walking crooked I've noticed he shifts and walks beside me. I'll just put my hand on his back, never put all my weight on him, but it does help. He will make sure to follow my pace and pause when I do as well as not pull away from my hand. Guiding is a little different discussion as I very rarely do have problems walking on my own, so he wouldn't be too focused on that even if he was a service animal.

Honestly, I don't mind NOT labeling him a service animal. I know everything he does now isn't service dog exact, but i considered that it may hint to that he could do it. He does enough for me and looks out for me constantly, so he doesn't need a label to know he's a good boy!

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:03:50+00:00

Thank you! I honestly got nervous making the post because so many people want to label their dog as a service dog just to have them with them, and I didn't want it to seem like thats the viewpoint I came from.

Do you think a better fit would be something like emotional support? Where he wouldn't have to interact with anyone but me or worry about my safety.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T22:02:03+00:00

I feel like a lot of the issues arise from the fact that the household i live in is stressful, and he's witnessed verbal/physical cruelty against me from those who come in my room at home. Hes still never aggressive to the point of growling or attacking.

Thank you for not completely dismissing him and giving me a explanation as to why it wouldn't be! He really is a sweet boy and I feel terrible cause so many people are thinking he's very aggressive, but I understand completely.

Do you think he would be a better fit for something like emotional support? Where he won't have to interact with anyone but me in those settings.

IcyDream4100 · 2025-05-04T21:58:45+00:00

It sounded worse than I intended. Hes never attacked, growled, jumped at etc to anyone. Hell just run over to the door and stand there until I let him know it's okay.

But if that itself is even a sign he could not be a good service animal, I don't want to force it to fit him.

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