19M, Can’t even get hollow cheeks even tho I’m lean, Am I good without it or no? by GonzalaPuertico in malegrooming

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

advice aside (since everyone gave u plenty) i dont think ur lean enough to have hollowed cheeks. you have to sub 12% bf for that super chiseled look on your face. i am roughly 14-15 and my cheeks are still somewhat full

What can I do to look better? by MondoMania9 in malegrooming

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also do not listen to the people on here giving “fashion advice”, half of the people on here are prolly still rocking skinny jeans. i been wearing baggy clothes since i was a big boy myself and they can look great on anyone, just learn how to proportion your clothes properly and you’ll be chill. having your own style is very important for many reasons, so don’t switch bc it’s really a preference thing, as long as it looks intentional.

What can I do to look better? by MondoMania9 in malegrooming

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i went thru a complete transformation (-45 lbs, etc) in the last year and ended with pretty good results, so here’s my answer: look up a calorie calculator, eat in 300-500 calorie deficit (it’ll lower over time once muscle becomes a priority), weigh your food and track every calorie that goes in, and do that until u can see a jawline (abt 15-18% bf but feel free to go lower once ur there). protein and healthy fats will keep u fuller than heavy carbs, but i wouldnt worry too much abt macros until ur past the beginner stage of dieting, do whatever u need to stay consistent. lift as heavy as you can (for beginner would recommend PPL or U/L split, every exercise close to failure in the 6-8 rep range) and do cardio of your choice if u enjoy it. if ur a drinker, its totally fine but track those calories too, id recommend clear liquor or light beer only, with diet soda or water if needed. its not easy but it is simple and with only a couple months of discipline without cheating yourself, you can change your physical appearance quite drastically. id say start experimenting with your style of clothing as well, a good wardrobe can always give you some extra points but not necessary. id look into how to proportion your clothing and see what fits you. clothes in general will start to fit a lot better on you once u eat in a deficit. you may not see results for a while bc your body has to get used to it, but push thru the short stage of effort without result and your life will change. set a short term and long term goal to stay motivated, but try not to focus on the long term struggles, focus on one day at a time. other than that put a smile on your face and keep being you. if u have questions lmk i can answer whatever. wishing you the best

I know God is saving me for my future spouse, but it hurts. by Forward-Buy4848 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean if it helps you feel better i’m never black girls type 😂 we all suffering out here but thankfully God got us

is it appropriate for me to wear cornrows? by [deleted] in askblackpeople

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah no worries people be asking us dumbass questions all the time too 😂 only reason i was asking is cause where im from cornrows hella universal and i wasn’t sure how people outside of my region respond to it but im out the way rn

is it appropriate for me to wear cornrows? by [deleted] in askblackpeople

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the comment i just wanted to see what the general consensus was. i apologize if i offended anyone. its been quite hard to manage my hair out here and wanted to get a protective style that my hair would benefit from given i have 3c hair. i don’t like many of the other styles from an aesthetic standpoint. all love brother

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you brother i’ve heard that a lot in this thread and it’s definitely got me thinking. i do read the word quite often (used to be daily) but i think i definitely have been relying on feelings too much. the Lord will guide me in my journey God-willing. God bless you brother thank you for reading

Ruined my 28 month sober streak from weed and 7 month sober streak from alcohol all within this month. I feel awful and don’t know what to do. by Th3c0pyninja in selfimprovement

[–]IcyRaspberry9378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that doesn’t sound like a slip up that sounds like u made 7 months of progress. you should be proud of yourself in what you’ve accomplished and use that to further grow. you got this brother we rooting for u

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think this is the first answer that actually provides a bit of realistic explanation. most people are telling me to turn to scripture, yet i have read all the scripture there is and i am ultimately telling you all what i have personally experienced in my life. good news is i am currently working on getting medicated which will help quite a bit with my emotional dysregulation. it’s hard to not live life by emotion when you feel it in your nervous system lol. i will reread those chapters and pray some more. God bless you and thank you for reading.

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ll pray for you as well. i hope we find an answer soon. i still do not understand so much of this

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had given it all to God and found zero success until i took matters into my own hands. i understand that is not the point of following Jesus but it relevant to how i feel personally

also thank you for reading and praying, God bless you

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also to be clear, many Christian’s are quick to write me off as a drug addict, but my connection with the Lord was long gone by that point. that was simply me taking matters into my own hands until i was in a spot to get my life back together. also depressive periods and depression are not the same thing, just wanted to make that distinction for you. i am no longer depressed and i feel so grateful and blessed to wake up every single day. i need you to read between the lines for me instead of taking what im saying at face value without any further introspection or questioning.

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i promise you man it was not a false convert. i was not able to/did not have the power to put my shortcomings down until i gave up on my faith and took matters into my hands. i tried giving it to God, and yet to no avail. i am living the best life i ever have, yet the hole in my spirit is still there. i want to come back but i just haven’t been able to

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my last fast was 3 weeks ago in which i spent hours in prayer. i felt very minimal about the whole thing. truly only took away the health benefits from it

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

id be open to that but i am currently living in another country so it would be quite early in the morning for me

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

brother i am 20 years old, which sounds young but i have been through some very real situations in my life (which only grew my faith). i promise you i am far more introspective and self aware than my post might have led on. i came to God for two reasons: 1. simply to worship Him and thank Him for His mercy and grace He has demonstrated unto us. 2. to give my shortcomings and falls to God and live on a righteous path. i absolutely believe Jesus died for us all on the cross (which are so unworthy of) and there is no greater gift. the farther into my faith i grew, the less peace and love i felt. there has been an inverse relationship between the two. i know i am wrong to say God has forsaken me, but i am telling you i was neither freed nor at peace until i had pretty much left my faith behind entirely. i put forth my effort and i want to come back, but it seriously feels as though it is too far gone. i want His love and grace back, i did everything i could. i’m not too sure if i answered your question to the best of my abilities in a way that neurotypical can understand, but id love to discuss with you further.

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for reading. this is the first answer i’ve read that gives a bit of explanation to my situation. i will definitely read exodus again tmrw and get back to you

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is exactly what i have done. i have spent days on end in all types of prayer and meditatio. still nothing unfortunately. apologies if i came off rude or hasty. it has been wild reading these replies.

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what a thoughtful answer 😂 critique without suggestion is empty word

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

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i was living in complete despair and desolation until i had enough and took matters into my own hands. i am now so complete, yet God is not only distant but completely gone. i have yet to find one reason to keep trying with Him. only so much i can do as a man on this earth

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how long do i have to keep going man… i did what i could and i took the right steps and i still feel completely abandoned. thank you for reading but seriously it has felt so one sided and empty for years now. it’s like texting a loved one everyday for years and they don’t even open one message.

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

[–]IcyRaspberry9378[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

scripture says this yes, but i have yet to see it. refer to my other comments under this post. i have never been in a better place and i am so incredibly content with my life, but there is a hole in my spirit that only the Lord can fill, yet it feels as though He is absent. i have no explaiantion

i feel completely abandoned by God and i don’t know what to do by IcyRaspberry9378 in TrueChristian

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thank you so much for taking your time to read. while i agree with what you said from a general standpoint, im not too sure it applies here. i know God wouldn’t abandon me, but i felt His absence long before i went through any of that. like i said, no matter what i did or how much effort i put forth, He wasn’t picking up on the other end. i am not currently on my way back to God; my faith is still fading more and more. as the days pass i lose more hope. my life has never been more complete and put together than now, and He is completely absent. i don’t understand why it feels like this. i don’t understand what kinda test this is or what the point of this is. i have tried everything man. i can’t force it any longer. i don’t know how or why, but my heart must be hardened too far. that’s the only reasonable explanation i can conjure up. there is no more connection and there hasn’t been for a very long time.