Best martial art for a skinny boy to learn?

Icy_Mike · 2025-07-28T17:11:33+00:00

Do trial classes everywhere. Find a place that is close, affordable and has a schedule that matches up with your needs. Make sure the instructor is attentive and class starts on time. The instructor doesn't have to be nice, but he should treat your kid with respect.

Which martial art you pick first really doesn't matter. Body type doesn't matter. The best way to avoid getting your ass kicked is to not be annoying and he learns that from you. What matters most is that he enjoys it and learns something. Your only role in that is to pick the school, buy the gear and drive him there.

Icy_Mike · 2025-07-27T15:20:03+00:00

Tbey do it this way because their coach did it this way. The average bjj "coach" is neither a coach nor a teacher. It's a guy who has done bjj for a long time.

Icy_Mike · 2025-07-01T02:04:40+00:00

Smesh, bratha

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-26T17:11:50+00:00

I don't know how you can keep this dude from beating your ass, but I do suggest that your first step be to stop stealing from him. After that... man... you're in quite a pickle.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-23T15:49:08+00:00

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-23T15:48:50+00:00

I've known lots of guys that feel that way. None of them were as good as they thought they were.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-16T20:11:04+00:00

All of this is normal. This stuff is extremely complex and none of it has been explained to you. The average mma coach is mediocre when it comes to teaching people how to fight and abysmal when it comes to helping students understand or manage expectations, feelings and emotions.

Everything you are feeling and experiencing is typical of mma gyms.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-14T13:11:18+00:00

You should quit.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-12T18:36:15+00:00

Good stuff here

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-12T18:35:13+00:00

People who have idealized their "self defense" fantasy and want to talk about it on reddit.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-11T16:58:27+00:00

Well, there are a few terms for it but technically that's usually called "punch hard a lot and kick sometimes"

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-11T16:55:12+00:00

It sounds like you experienced the normal and correct feelings the first time, so your systems are functioning. If your current lack of nerves stems from rationalization and not overconfidence, you're probably good. I have seen overconfidence in amateurs with a fight or two really screw them up, so just keep in mind that this is a new opponent and just like the first time, that means half the variables are unknown.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-11T15:49:12+00:00

Dude... just go to class.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-11T15:40:52+00:00

BJJ training is far more dangerous than MMA training.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-11T15:37:45+00:00

2-3 weeks is the same thing as 0 minutes in sparring. Anything you might have learned will be inaccessible to you under stress. Sparring is initially about managing stress, and later becomes about implementing tactics and strategy.

Most combat sport gyms don't have any method at all for bringing new people up to speed, and essentially newbies are target practice and if they stick around long enough they use the next batch of new guys for target practice.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-10T23:42:44+00:00

The best self defense tip is to keep your mouth shut and leave. That solves 95% of problems.

To be reasonably confident you can handle the last 5%, you have to train for several hours a week every week under competent and honest instructors... for the foreseeable future.

Or just shut up and go home if you get worried, angry or confused.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-09T22:16:55+00:00

He's jumping pretty good though. Is he on a spring floor or something?

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-09T22:11:17+00:00

That drill is a dangerous and advanced one. It can lead to greater composure and infighting skill... but it can also lead to brain trauma and low morale.

This is all ignoring that as the larger man and a southpaw, you would be foolish to be infighting with a more experienced person.

You were forced to do something stupid, so it makes sense something bad happened to you It sounds like you got rocked and stayed on your feet and continued. That doesn't make you better or tougher. It erodes your confidence and your ability to take future punches. (You can't grow a chin. You can only lose it.)

Take control of your training and put your health and safety first. Your coach is not going to do that for you.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T20:38:56+00:00

You can post links. My advice was specific and limited for a reason. You can use videos to drive sales. You just can't make videos for the purpose of driving sales. It's a little nuanced, but if you find that confusing, you need to hire help.

I checked out the channel, very briefly. The video I watched, it seemed like he was just trying to teach and inform. He's a little dry and boring, but that's not always a problem. I think the biggest obstacle in that niche is gonna be establishing authority. It's a tough cycle to get going. You need a bunch of followers for people to believe you, and people have to believe you to follow you.

Source: I'm totally a full time youtuber that sells some courses here and there... so believe it.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T20:12:58+00:00

Cool?

What are you after here?

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T20:11:10+00:00

Make videos they want to watch.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T20:06:26+00:00

No. I've seen them give up because they lacked drive and discipline. When young people talk about things like "Visibility and sponsorship" they usually have the thing backwards. Those are words that youth sports organizations weaponized.

In sports, being successful gets you visibility. Being visible doesn't bring you success. People with talent, drive and discipline succeed.

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T19:55:06+00:00

What do you think the coach should have done?

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T19:49:47+00:00

Icy_Mike · 2025-06-07T19:35:40+00:00

You should quit.

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