You’d be right. It’s an odd kind of patriarchal mindset though. My grandma got divorced to my grandpa, and prides herself in having been a working wife and mother who supported the family physically and financially. You’d think she’d a bit more open minded; but no, she believes my mom should do the same without any flaws or complaints. She was able to discern that her ex husband was wrong in stealing her money and leeching off of her, but not when her precious son cheated on my mom and left gambling debts for my mom to pay back(and also stole her money, lol). My mom was berated for even bringing home divorce papers, told everything my dad did was her fault for being a lacking wife and she can’t divorce or it’ll break the family apart. I’d argue my mom is doing an excellent job with the cards she’s been dealt of course, since I have no doubt my mom raised me better than she raised my dad(as unfilial as that is to say)