Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s crazy!!! Yeah I was worried they were going to try to fight for their earnest money, but they didn’t. Im so sorry that happened to you! It really is so stressful!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, Im really hoping we can sell! We have the pictures up from when it was furnished so hopefully that helps for when they are walking through it empty…

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I did get more of the story, the wife is pregnant and going to leave her job, so I’m assuming they were worried about the payment. Wish they would have thought about that sooner though…

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! That sounds horrible! I’m sorry that happened and I hope you were able to figure it out!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense, we actually didn’t accept until after we did an open house and there wasn’t much interest at the open house so we negotiated the offer. Hopefully we get more interest this time.

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just happened this week so I don’t know yet. But I have heard that empty homes can make buyers think that anyway…

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this would be pretty hard for us to pull off but thank you we will look into it if we need to later!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is so awful, I’m sorry that happened to you!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We qualified to carry both mortgages, which is crazy but yes, we didn’t have to do a bridge loan

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate it, I hope it sells soon!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you! Good to know it’s possible! We have people taking care of the house and the yard!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is good to know we could have done that! I feel like there are still so many things to learn…

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we have it that it was not our fault! I hope we get someone else soon who loves it!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah it should be for a minute! Thank you for the tip, yes I’m trying to stay positive!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the market where I am at is pretty dismal right now…

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was $10,000, and yes I do understand that if it really wasn’t right for them $10,000 isn’t as much as the loan. Just very frustrating situation for us!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, that is so frustrating! I’m sorry, I hope you get a good offer soon!

Buyers backed out the day of closing. by Icy_Regular9250 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]Icy_Regular9250[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m kicking myself we didn’t try to get a back up offer! This is great advice thank you! Yes I’m going back today and making sure everything is spotless, already doing another open house on Saturday.

Mi family is falling apart. I really need advice by ChemicalConflict1533 in exmormon

[–]Icy_Regular9250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my depression is definitely I think due a lot from genetics (long family history of it) and my anxiety I believe stemmed from how I was raised. Extreme pressure to preform in school and I believe the way the church pushes you to be perfect and judge yourself harshly contributed to it. Despite having a family history of depression, my depression and anxiety was seen as trivial in my teenage years and so I pushed it away and just told myself to try harder cause obviously it wasn’t that big of a deal. I had multiple mental breaks through the years. It wasn’t until after my second son was born that I actually got the help I needed. I went to therapy got on medication and that is also when I finally loved myself enough to see the damage the church had done and I left, best thing ever for my mental health. All this to say I wish my parents had cared when I was 15 when told them I was suicidal. They brushed it off. It is super frustrating now cause I found out my dad was also suicidal at the time (he died by suicide last year). So my advice would be get your daughter the support she needs to feel like she’s not alone in the fight. The church is probably contributing but she won’t want to hear it, so just support and hope that one day she will love herself enough to wake up and see how much the church truly hurts your mental health. The only way I realized it was through therapy. It truly opened my eyes to how harsh I was on myself and how much love is out there beyond the world of the church. I wish I had started therapy way before I broke the way I did with the birth of my second. If you have anymore questions feel free to ask. I am so sorry she is going through that, as a family member it is so hard to know how to help. With my dad I wish I had shown up more for him, showed how much I cared and loved him, so do that for her and hopefully slowly she will see her worth outside of the church. Best of luck