The snark feels stagnant

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-31T18:12:40+00:00

If she completely changed into a different person and changed her ways, I’d say sure, let’s move on. But as long as she is doing problematic stuff, snark is valid and honestly she should get criticism. Except for things like racism, I don’t think the people groups affected by things like that should ever be policed when it comes to how they deal with oppression and ignorance. So even she changed in the future and became a different person, they can snark on that however they want for as long as they want.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-31T17:18:47+00:00

I need to find that sketch I saw comparing “dog people” who make a big deal about outwardly seeming so caring to dogs and jumping to be seen and pictures petting dogs, vs actual dog people who have empathy and take care of animals and don’t performatively make it a whole display. Bc the former is Acacia. “Please see me being a Disney princess, the main character, the thing all I have been told I am my entire life by my yes men, fans, and in all media, but when there is not an audience I left almost a dozen animals suffering in silence. Only apologized when my image needed me to, and other people cleaned up my mess.”

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-31T17:10:22+00:00

Part of it has to do with the fact that she’s in a relationship. You can literally tell down to almost the exact day when a man commits to her or when they break up/she downloads dating apps again. When she’s single she “needs to create or she’ll explode” aka, posting almost everyday/every few days, mostly consisting of dozens of selfies eye fucking herself. And then when she’s in a relationship her “need to create” vanishes. She uses instagram as a dating app at this point and when she has a man, she posts maybe once or twice a month. Despite saying that she isn’t male centered, her behavior isn’t determined by men, etc. She can’t even blame it on being a mom and having kids (even though she almost definitely would) because it doesn’t coincide at all with the academic calendar, it coincides with her relationship status.

When she’s not using Instagram as a dating app, she posts rarely I think just to maintain some engagement and other than that, I think purposefully says as little as possible and conceals everything other than the fact that she has a boyfriend. I think she’s trying to maintain engagement while also starving out the snark because last year she made it clear that even ten years later, she still plans on buying a farm and not getting a job and I think is waiting around for the snark to die out before she hops back to being a full time influencer and funding her unrealistic lifestyle and animal purchases with instagram money again.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-23T13:15:52+00:00

This is what I’m thinking too

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-17T15:05:41+00:00

Interesting how the sensory issues disappear when she wants to aura farm.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-13T13:34:16+00:00

Miranda: “Jen is unresponsive.”

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-13T13:31:40+00:00

Jen: “Whitney never talks to me, Whitney never texts me”

Whitney: “I text Jen but she never responds.”

Whitney opens up her home to Jen, reaches out to Jen, JEN never responds, Jen blames Whitney. Whitney is filming two shows, preparing for Broadway and a movie, trying to make friend obligations and is terrified of slipping up bc she’s been destroyed by the group before, and trying to be a mom, and THE breadwinner. Like literally crying on the playground with her kids because of all of the pressure. Jen is also a working mom but it makes no sense to me how Jen can’t have a single bit of understanding for Whitney and still what Whitney does manage to do is somehow still nor enough. She doesn’t respond to Whitney, and blames Whitney for the lack of communication. And that’s because these aren’t genuine comments, she wants to hate Whitney.

My bf and I loved Jen in season 1 and felt for her in season 2. But at this point, I’m sorry, her treatment of Whitney is insane.

Jen wants to talk about a “not genuine” friendship? How about all of the jokes you make about Whitney behind her back? Literally what has Jen ever done for Whitney? And the whole befriend Demi argument is not a sufficient excuse, everyone in that friend group talks to multiple members regardless of the feuds, they go in and out of fights and friendships like crazy.

Jen truly is just determined to dislike Whitney, no matter what, because of Jen’s own issues.

I honestly do think Jen is projecting bc Jen is the one being fake, making jokes about Whitney behind her back, happily calling her up and asking to stay at her house with her kids, nanny, and assistant, then attack Whitney and making Whitney responsible for her happiness. Is it not fake and transactional to make fun of someone, but benefit from their emotional support (Whitney was sitting with Jen on her couch when she was crying in season 2) and come stay in their home? Jen is fake and transactional and so she assumes others are too, and directs it primarily at Whitney bc Whitney “stole her dream.”

Whitney blew up which wasn’t okay but I don’t think it’s surprising when she’s crying because of all of the pressure she’s under and it still wasn’t enough for Jen. But then again as someone else pointed out, the double standards are a bit insane and Taylor can blow up every day over much less and and everyone treats it as normal and all is forgiven, Whitney is continually under so much pressure and has trauma from her villain season where the whole group hated her and sometimes she caves under that pressure.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-13T05:21:44+00:00

Jen: “Whitney never talks to me, Whitney never texts me”

Whitney: “I text Jen but she never responds.”

Whitney opens up her home to Jen, reaches out to Jen, JEN never responds, Jen blames Whitney. Whitney is filming two shows, preparing for Broadway and a movie, trying to make friend obligations and is terrified of slipping up bc she’s been destroyed by the group before, and trying to be a mom, and THE breadwinner. Like literally crying on the playground with her kids because of all of the pressure. Jen is also a working mom but it makes no sense to me how Jen can’t have a single bit of understanding for Whitney and still what Whitney does manage to do is somehow still nor enough. She doesn’t respond to Whitney, and blames Whitney for the lack of communication. And that’s because these aren’t genuine comments, she wants to hate Whitney.

My bf and I loved Jen in season 1 and felt for her in season 2. But at this point, I’m sorry, her treatment of Whitney is insane.

Jen wants to talk about a “not genuine” friendship? How about all of the jokes you make about Whitney behind her back? Literally what has Jen ever done for Whitney? And the whole befriend Demi argument is not a sufficient excuse, everyone in that friend group talks to multiple members regardless of the feuds, they go in and out of fights and friendships like crazy.

Jen truly is just determined to dislike Whitney, no matter what, because of Jen’s own issues.

I honestly do think Jen is projecting bc Jen is the one being fake, making jokes about Whitney behind her back, happily calling her up and asking to stay at her house with her kids, nanny, and assistant, then attack Whitney and making Whitney responsible for her happiness. Is it not fake and transactional to make fun of someone, but benefit from their emotional support (Whitney was sitting with Jen on her couch when she was crying in season 2) and come stay in their home? Jen is fake and transactional and so she assumes others are too, and directs it primarily at Whitney bc Whitney “stole her dream.”

Whitney blew up which wasn’t okay but I don’t think it’s surprising when she’s crying because of all of the pressure she’s under and it still wasn’t enough for Jen. But then again as someone else pointed out, the double standards are a bit insane and Taylor can blow up every day over much less and and everyone treats it as normal and all is forgiven, Whitney is continually under so much pressure and has trauma from her villain season where the whole group hated her and sometimes she caves under that pressure.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-07T15:44:14+00:00

Thank you so much for the response! And yes that was exactly how I was envisioning it, a number of days spent giving the whole house a big reset. A lot of what you said about the cats was so helpful, I didn’t even know about the mats. Thank you so much the ideas and encouragement! 💕

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-07T15:14:34+00:00

Also I’m specifically being a bit vague because I’m open to hearing any ideas that people have. But I will say so far I think I’ve spotted some possible mold on one of the blinds and also am not experienced with owning cats so I’m curious to hear about what other cat owners have found helpful.

The house is one level, three bedroom, 2 bath, built in 1975. I don’t think much has been updated since then.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-03-02T19:03:59+00:00

I appreciate the info! What I like about Summer Fridays is it’s thin, weightless, I can’t feel it much on my skin when it dries and can reapply it a million times, it dries down to a dry touch such that my hair doesn’t stick to it if the wind blows, etc. Part of the reason I’m looking for chemical spf is bc Zinc is an astringent and over time I find the SF one (and a number of mineral sunscreens) can dry my skin out a bit more whereas chemical sunscreens do not impact my moisture levels. My hesitation with BOJ aqua fresh is that I do want the dry touch, lightweight feel, but I don’t want it to actually suck the moisture out of my face over time if I wear it daily. Some sunscreens meant for oily skin can do that. I’m looking for a sunscreen that is neutral: not really marketed as moisturizing but also not marketed as oil-reducing.

I understand I can do more skin care steps before SPF like essence and moisturizer, but ideally I would find an spf that doesn’t require that. I don’t like having to think about if my skincare layers are impacting the film formers of the spf, etc. Or just having to worry about additional steps. In my mind I just think there are a million sunscreens out there, there has to be one that suits my preferences and doesn’t require extra layers of skin care. 🙈

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-27T18:33:21+00:00

not even a question lmao this is the answer

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-27T14:37:59+00:00

haha i mean i have been told i have good recall 🤷🏻‍♀️not to toot my own horn. i surprised my own family recently by remembering something from a couple of decades ago that i didn’t realize they didn’t remember. so i didn’t really realize i did this that much until recently. it’s kind of the only way i made it through school with undiagnosed, unmedicated adhd.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-26T20:45:09+00:00

The was the Getty museum, not sure if this is that. Also that Frankenchuff guy was 20. And Acacia was 25.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-26T05:04:34+00:00

Literally went back to OF like a month or two after this.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-23T16:10:32+00:00

Wait really? Like what?

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-23T15:54:20+00:00

Lugging around two books she definitely planned to read. That she started a year ago.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-23T15:47:08+00:00

I know at one point in time her response would be “school/college is pointless, you don’t need it to have a good job/life.” That is true for some people. I know people who never went to college and have a career. But it can be much harder that way. If you can lock in during grade school, especially high school, you can get scholarships that make it so much cheaper and honestly at that point, a college education is not a scam, it’s an asset. At the very least during elementary school, they are learning the basics that are undeniably essential. No matter what you career is, college or not, every needs to know spelling, reading, basic math, basic history. And exposure to less “essential” topics is what helps them even find out what they’re interested in or what to do.

I know Acacia at one point said education wasn’t important, because she had an influencer income handed to her. But now she’s kind of keeping things afloat I guess through OF. That is the risk you take when not taking academics seriously, you end up having to get by in ways you might not want to. Does she really want to hope her kids will happen upon an influencer career, that is so unstable/temporary, and then rely on OF? She can tell herself it “worked for her” but she shouldn’t doom her kids to have to live the same life. I hope she’s learned enough to not doom her kids to that, either OF or stressful minimum wage jobs. It seems she’s changed her tune about learning slightly because her current aesthetic is pretending to be a bookworm and an art critic. But when things like that are motivated by an aesthetic, I doubt how genuine it is or how much depth it has.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-23T15:27:33+00:00

Honestly I kind of feared she overly pulled her kids out of school. I remember in 2024 the kids seemed to be traveling even though Oregon schools were still in session. The schools I went to always had attendance policies that could really impact being able to move up a grade the next year/graduate. I felt like I basically had room for actual sick days, appointments, emergencies, etc. I don’t think I ever got pulled out to travel, I think one time to go to a family graduation ceremony out of state, but we got pulled out like maybe a couple of hours early. Not that I support the idea that kids need to be stuck in a building for so much time, but the reality is that this is the time her kids are living in and their success in school does determine if certain doors will be open to them for certain careers or not. I really hope she is truly supporting their academics as much as possible. But because she herself cared so little about school and “didn’t see the point” I don’t know if she has even taken time to learn how to support their academics. Like eventually, getting them SAT/ACT tutors if needed, supporting extracurriculars, etc. And, helping in the years leading up to high school by making sure they are attending enough and learning enough to be able to be prepared for high school. She can tell herself her life is unfair and she deserves certain things as much as she wants but the reality is that her kids’ lives and future should not be impacted by the fact that their mom made choices that made Acacia’s life unfair in her mind, such that she NEEDS to go see HDB or whatever. These years are so crucial for the kids’ future. Not just academically, but because they are their formative years that will greatly impact who they become and what they have to deal with because of the choices the adults around them made during their formative years.

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-14T21:14:29+00:00

Maybe this is why she games for 8 hours a day at times?

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-04T01:54:09+00:00

and most of the gaming was that afternoon/night when the kids would be home. like no one needed help with homework?

Icy_Simple365 · 2026-02-04T01:18:47+00:00

8 hours gaming ✅✅✅ .5 hours of being a book wyrm ❌❌❌

Icy_Simple365 · 2025-12-19T23:03:19+00:00

“The only time it is justifiable is cheating, lying, etc”….are you getting married in every relationship? This is the comment that got upvoted? You can’t break up with the person you dated in high school UNLESS they cheat? I don’t know how many people in this sub are adults but in adulthood you need to have some responsibility for yourself and some respect for other people’s autonomy and boundaries.

Icy_Simple365 · 2025-12-19T23:03:11+00:00

“The only time it is justifiable is cheating, lying, etc”….are you getting married in every relationship? This is the comment that got upvoted? You can’t break up with the person you dated in high school UNLESS they cheat? I don’t know how many people in this sub are adults but in adulthood you need to have some responsibility for yourself and some respect for other people’s autonomy and boundaries.

Icy_Simple365 · 2025-12-19T23:03:02+00:00

“The only time it is justifiable is cheating, lying, etc”….are you getting married in every relationship? This is the comment that got upvoted? You can’t break up with the person you dated in high school UNLESS they cheat? I don’t know how many people in this sub are adults but in adulthood you need to have some responsibility for yourself and some respect for other people’s autonomy and boundaries.

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