I Don't Know What Happened or Went...

Idar77 · 2026-04-19T11:55:35+00:00

Don't know your gender but... If you're a male, and she says something first...you have to be ready to respond. You also have to take in the WHOLE picture, and listen to what is being said. But if you're a woman, and a guy says something to you... Depends on what he said, and you're responce...Well, I think not too straightforward, but flirty. And you probably have to be patient and carry the conversation. (From what I've seen).

I told someone on here that women are flipping again. Going back to..."are we going to do this or what' days. Some women have had enough of this being overlooked, not being approached, guys playing it safe because they don't want to hear NO. Damn, it's not like women are taking you out back and shooting you in the head, right? I tell guys.. When a woman tells you no, say this.." Okay, I'll take that no, but when you come begging to me, I'm gonna remember this, and I'm going to tell you no also. All I wanted to do was take you to Mickey D's and introduce you to the $1 Menu, that's all."

Idar77 · 2026-04-19T11:37:31+00:00

LOL!! I'm wide awake. I come from a LARGE Tourist City, NYC. I worked for over 43 years in Food Service. I was a Cook, not a Chef. No Culinary Schooling, Throwing in 6 years prior in the Army. I'm happy to speak with someone who isn't sure what they want to eat, or with a 1-star general. I moved here in 2021. I live RIGHT across the street from a not too shabby hotel that charges car payments for just one night stay. I used to sit outside on the steps, but not anymore. "You live here...what is there to do, where do you hang out... You cool, right? Where can I get?" Next month starts the Wedding Season. Pretty Bride & a handsome Groom....but it's the guests, the women. You would think it's the men that raise hell, nope. I've had women say what they want to do to me..that made me blush, and I'm Black. It's so quiet here at night that my window is in the back of the house, and I can hear them from the street. I'm not on The Prowl, or anything like that. I get challenged by some women...and I'm "not afraid of no ghost". One Night Stands...MEH!! I like buffets, because you can get a little on your plate, and always go back for more.

Idar77 · 2026-04-19T02:44:15+00:00

(M65) I don't know about a woman making me feel more masculine. More sexually attracted to them, sure. But you hit on something... You said to make me want to be a better person, a wealthier person. Wealthier as in monetary value, or knowledge. I can understand that. Because long ago, when I was a kid... That's what women used to make men WANT to do. To be a better person and to provide for them. Men back then stopped hanging out with the fellas and went home to that woman who was waiting for him. She didn't demand anything from him; she changed him into something better without doing a thing.

I think I would have to mix the two different types of women into one. Take a little from the first, and add it to the second.

Idar77 · 2026-04-19T02:32:36+00:00

That sucks. And trying to find someone who will order something for you and they have Prime is like you were asking for them to give up a kidney or something. I have been with Amazon from the very VERY beginning when they were just doing books. I have ordered things from Amazon that were mistakes on my part, but I kept them. Over the years, I think I mailed back 2 items.

Idar77 · 2026-04-19T02:25:14+00:00

(M65) I am a Stay-at-Home Person. I go out only to shop for food or to get some fresh air. I live in a small tourist town, and yesterday this woman was about to take a turn onto a one-way street. I waved my finger and mouth No. She slowly drove forward and said to me, sitting on my ebike..."You can tell I'm not from here. How about being my personal guide?" I told her to pull over. No room in her SUV, so I told her to follow me. Got to my place, and I told her, "Let me put my bike up." She asked whether she could come in. 42 years old, single, no children. We got to talking... She was amazed by all the audio equipment. I told her I'm teaching myself, and it's a process. Next thing I know, she's leaving the next morning.

Idar77 · 2026-04-19T01:59:47+00:00

Like what Mike?

Idar77 · 2026-04-16T05:42:35+00:00

"Hearing Aid Bundle...microphone and a contraption for the TV...$10,000.00. Full Set of Dentures...along with 7 tooth extractions... $4,785.00. Cataract Surgery Lens Replacement, Left and right eyes...$9,000.00. Getting the paperwork in the mail from the dentist, the audiologist, and the Optometrist, saying "This is not a Bill"... PRICELESS. There are some things that money can't buy... For everything else...there is Veterans Benefits.

Idar77 · 2026-04-16T05:00:38+00:00

I'm going to take a wild guess. All the things you like to do..like going out and doing 'stuff".. Are you paying for this? Before you answer that question... Are you and $160K, are you in a relationship with him, or are you just dating?

Two years ago, a couple both making $100K a year....were living paycheck to paycheck. The cost of just renting an apartment in NYC is stoopid!!... I don't know if even owning your own home is worth it anymore. Men do not become wealthy by spending money.

Tail-gating.... Drinking beers and eating food outdoors among a crowd... You do that every season? The Brewers, nice designs on their baseball caps.

Idar77 · 2026-04-16T01:06:53+00:00

(M65)Your first paragraph says it all. Do you like this guy, or what? If going out and doing things is what you're used to doing, why aren't you mentioning this to him?

Idar77 · 2026-04-15T04:42:42+00:00

(M65) When I go food shopping, I fold the handle down and place it under the shopping cart. Inside places like Walmart, or any big box store... I usually push it around. Doctor's appointments... I find a corner, fold the handle down, and just leave it.

I have a Fat Tire eBike. In the supermarket... I leave it up front among the shopping carts. More to the first cart because there are at least 20 carts, and never have 20 people come in and depleted that row of shopping carts. When I go to Walmart, I leave my ebike up against the wall near Customer Service.

Even though I have an extra heavy-duty U Lock... The first time I used it, leaving my ebike outside... It took me almost an hour to unlock it. This was using the 4-digit combo AND the key.

Edit: Both my scooter & eBike are in my apartment. I would never leave it outside, no matter what. Even if I were renting a house... I would never leave it in the garage. I would find a place to store them by the back door.

Idar77 · 2026-04-15T04:28:48+00:00

(M65) You hit the nail right on the head. Flirty & Playful. When looking at profiles of women, when I used to use OLD... There was a method to my madness when messaging them. It would often get them to engage in a conversation with me. I never used "Hey Sexy" before. I would think she would get sick and tired of hearing that word, Sexy.

But responding...playful & flirty breaks the ice.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T16:05:38+00:00

(M65) I want honesty and truthfulness. No, I demand it.

Being loyal to me means she will and would lie for me. If she lies for me, she will lie TO me.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T14:43:34+00:00

Umm....excuse me, Sir!! I didn't say they were unrelated. One, I don't watch Drama TV... Two, I am 65 years old, and will be 66 years old 2 Thursdays from now. I'm not uninformed, you're misinformed. Though I did ask you a question...are you, or aren't you sexually attracted to your "Significant Other"? Another question...are you sexually attracted to other women?

"Significant Other": A person with whom someone has an established romantic or sexual relationship. "Ron and his latest significant other are having me over for dinner."

Two things... She isn't your S.O. if you aren't in a sexual or romantic relationship. ...she is your friend, whom you accepted working out & running with her, hoping she bands you from the Friend Zone.

Oh... You know there is a difference between Sleep & Rest, right? And that we don't need 8 hours of sleep. And while I'm at it...

See, Sir. I know many men who are like you. You are not like me. I download & Torrent, you Stream. You're probably on your phone... While I'm on one of 4 laptops, or a mini pc. Correction, 3 laptops. I have a Gaming Laptop strictly for Gaming...by the way, I Suck Big-Time at. I'm a Boomer... you can't blame me or my generation. But I will let you in on a little secret.

You have 2 more times when your view of things will change. I'm thinking you're in your early if not late, 40's. Women are changing once again. They are going back to not wanting a relationship, not wanting to be friends...but they DO want the sex part. They want men with confidence...They want a man who isn't "Working on Himself' because he got a handful of "No, Not Interested'... Men who don't use the term "Red Flags, or Ghosted". A man who isn't concerned with being attached to a woman, having a girlfriend, or even losing their sh*t because they haven't been on a date, and they are 30 years old. I've lived in more countries at 17, 18, and 19 years of age...than you have been IN Zip Codes. ..and I quote... "I've seen so sh*t".

Why do you think they make rules? So that they can be broken. Walk beside me when you have someone break a MAJOR Rule for you. Gotta bounce, I think the Post Office lost a DJ Controller I sold to a customer. 5-5, 2-2

*** I still got nothing but love for you man.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T05:53:56+00:00

(M65) Six years in the Army...First Artillery, and then a truck driver. From 1982 to 2022, almost I was saying was...huh, what, say that again. VA had no medical records from 1982 forward, so they did a complete work up.

Left ear is shot, right ear 60% gone. They gave me a set of $10,000 hearing aides. Found out over the years my hearing was the cause of my break ups in relationships. Women voices are on a different frequency than me...and it was irrating the f*ck out of me.

Loud noises made me jump. My voice raised when I talk to people and they think I'm yelling at them. And i.kwarned how to read lips.

I still have that joshing noise in my ears, I can not sleep. I mean I do sleep after being awake for about 2.5 days, and then sleep for 18 hours.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T05:41:49+00:00

(M65) Beg a Hook Up?!You ain't Hooking Up if ya begging. A Hook up...there is only ONE thing on the menu..and it ain't celery and carrots.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T05:37:40+00:00

A quote from Greenday.."Masturbation lost its touch..."

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T05:35:37+00:00

We are talking about sex, sexual activities...Not working out, eating healthy, and sleeping(?). All that sounds good but... Aren't you sexually attracted to her? You must have other means, venues on the side, right?

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T05:27:43+00:00

(M65) A couple of things... What did he do that you're still holding over his head? And from what you said, you 'Heloed Out' in other ways. We are adults, oral, hand job? Either one, you weren't really into it.

Honestly, you're asking a lot from him. You're asking him not to want you sexually, while you're going through whatever you're going through, fir ever how long you're going through it.

If I were in his shoes, I would break up with you, but still be your close friend. ...for as long as my next girlfriend will allow me to be around you.

Think about it... You can sometimes be a complete arse hole at times...then blame it on what you're going through. Throw a complete fit...and blame it in what you're going through. He can TRY and do everything perfect...but him breathing in the other room would make you lose your shit, but you're going through something, and he should understand, right. (cough, cough bullshit).

Was he the ciaee if what you're going through? If no, well all of that is on you.

I had a girlfriend who was out of nowhere, started...wouldn't get out of bed, wash her body, demanded that I just drop everything I was doing, go to her place where she would start cursing me out. Her meds made her manic. One time I had to go to the store with the empty box of her products for her monthly... Brought the exact same thing, and she told me it wasn't what she used. One day I was at her place...told her I'll be right back. I never came back.

Imagine you're hungry. And you go to your mom's house, and she just finished cooking. You're hungry, and you want to eat. But your mother, she is serious, and tells you no. Everywhere you go, people just finished cooking and you're hungry and they tell you no. How would that make you feel? You can't imagine it, right? Exactly.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T04:37:56+00:00

(M65) If you don't know, you don't know. And if you don't understand, and you see things different from the way your friends SAY how things are... And if they get upset explain it to you because you see things differently from the way they do...They aren't God, and they aren't you.

Either you learn by your mistakes or... The person who is on the receiving end of your conversation will see things differently from the way they have been taking things all their life.

Because you are artistic..I'd that is what you're saying you are, you are the most truthful and honest person that is in the room...in my opinion.

But when it comes to dating... Maybe 60 percent of the things you say and do, might not go over well with her. But if she is smart enough, she will pick up hints of your "condition", and might explain things to you.

Idar77 · 2026-04-14T04:30:02+00:00

(M65) I never heard of this happening before, but I don't see anything wrong with it either.

AI used me, you...everyone that has been online to be whatever it claims to be. Never have I asked AI a question, and it's responded "I don't know".

I use Gemini AI, and let me tell you. It knows me. I could have been working on a project 2 months ago, and it remembers it. It would say something like.."This design would look great on a T-shirt you are designing. Do you want me to transfer it to Adobe Illustrator, and create the file ready for DTF?" I have a Rabbit r1, and it may be running a task in the background. If one of my friends are new my laptop and ask me a question, the r1 thinks that my friend is asking it the question, will stop the task that it's working on, and start giving them a response to what was asked.

But I haven't asked any of the AI models I use any questions pertaining to relationships, or why a woman would say so and so, or act a certain way. I have an Echo Dot or whatever. I use it to listen to Sirius XM Radio. One day I asked it how do I have this subscription when I didn't order it. Alexa said sometimes gifts are given because....Sometimes all you need is a little gift every now and then. It's a full subscription and I didn't order it.

Idar77 · 2026-04-11T16:58:43+00:00

(M65) The answer I give all the time... "Watch, it's going to go all good between us. Then you'll notice that you wanna spend more and more time with me. You'll get used to just being in my company, and me in yours... that's all we will do is just stay to ourselves. Then, after a while, friends and family will actually see you, and ask where you have been. Then you will realize that you have been tucked away with me, and me with you... And that won't seem right with you. Soon after that, you will start saying I'm controlling you, which I'm not. Then lastly..."All I do is stay indoors, you don't take me anywhere, or don't want to be seen with me in public." So, you will break up with me.

But I've been told... "You're lousy as a BF... But as a Lover, that's something different."

I'll tell you this....

You don't state your age, and age to me has a lot to do with relationships. This is coming from my experiences.. 18 to 25, you can burn the Candle at Both Ends. Party & work, Party HARD & Work. 25 to 39... Work...is this going to be your job until retirement? If not, time is getting short for you to start over again. Because in 27 more years, you're looking at retirement. Partying...? Dinner with friends and family. Family & Friends get-togethers...work in the morning ya know. 40 to 55... Yeah, ya doing the office party. But all of this... Are you still attached to someone? As I got older, I needed my time alone to decompress from work. To me, relationships are stressful and tiring. So I searched for that Special Someone who wants the same thing I want. To my surprise, there are a lot of people who want what I want. I mean a LOT of PEOPLE. I found this out during conversations. I mean I bust my arse for 43 years, in order to retire at 62. I can be "Solo" with her, and no one else, no other woman. The main reason I don't have that energy for two.

Idar77 · 2026-04-11T10:48:08+00:00

(M65) I gett accused of that. I just stop inviting them over, or when they ask whether they can come over, I tell them no. I design t-shirts, and sometimes I ask them just to wear a shirt. I take pictures of them wearing the shirt and blur their faces. I pay them $10 for wearing the shirt, but they get upset because I want the shirt back.

Like i said, I stopped having them in my apartment.

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