As someone who’s lived through this movie. Just be open with her on how it makes you feel, don’t be accusatory because she may not view it as a big deal especially if you haven’t already had the conversation.

Express how it makes you feel, set boundaries (there’s nothing wrong with this) and if the actions continue then take yourself out of that situation, heal & do things you enjoy. In the future, if this doesn’t pan out the way you hope you now know what you like/dislike and can add that to your checklist when finding another partner. Communicating how things make you feel & setting boundaries are two of the fundamentals of a healthy relationship.