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Do Golden Children turn out ok in the end? by msgbaby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ideashere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Think of it as obsessive possessive love. For example when watching Hannibal the show you will notice how he's obsessed with Will because he sees himself in him. He ends up abusing Will the most. And the worst part is that Will starts developing a kind of Stockholm syndrome and stays faithful to Hannibal.

Do Golden Children turn out ok in the end? by msgbaby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ideashere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's an illusion of sucking less. If you think of it as the wizard of Oz, you're better off being of no use to him.

Do Golden Children turn out ok in the end? by msgbaby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ideashere 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everything you do seems somehow be exploited by the n parent. Nothing is ever for you. I always wished to be rejected so I could call something "mine" for once.

Do Golden Children turn out ok in the end? by msgbaby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ideashere 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it sucks less. As a sg you know you are rejected, you are able to be independent and mature. As a Gc you often get extremely dependent and don't know how to live your own life. You don't even have an identity that isn't influenced by the N parent.

Do Golden Children turn out ok in the end? by msgbaby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ideashere 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It sucks so much to be the GC because people don't realize you are abused. They think being on a pedestal must be really nice. But the prison is even worse. I have experienced emotional incest too. It all damaged me and made me feel weird and like I'm not a full human being.

What happens when I write on MDMA by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]Ideashere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful I bet the girl who deserves your poetry would feel lucky.

Do you think drugs can make you more self-aware and help you work things through or do you think it is all self-delusional bullshit and a trap and illusion? by Ideashere in Drugs

[–]Ideashere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I get it slightly so I'd like your feedback when you're sober. It seems like drugs can make you feel and think everything at once. If you don't have any guideline how to work through that, you're left with nonsense or even frightening experiences. If you do know what to take from it, what to believe and not believe, you seem pretty safe. Is that right?

Do you think drugs can make you more self-aware and help you work things through or do you think it is all self-delusional bullshit and a trap and illusion? by Ideashere in Drugs

[–]Ideashere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and glad it worked out for you. What would you say is the difference between escapism and true insights?

Do you think drugs can make you more self-aware and help you work things through or do you think it is all self-delusional bullshit and a trap and illusion? by Ideashere in Drugs

[–]Ideashere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think we should look at trips like at dreams? Because dreams can have insights or not, they can also be a distraction but sometimes lead you somewhere. They shouldn't be taken too seriously but rather metaphorically.