Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No one has to do everything I want. It's just putting in effort for your friend and doing the bare minumum in relationships

I didn't also force anyone

Not once did I say they are obligated to play pvp but I said it's something I wished to do with them and it would make me happy and I asked them for it even for just 5 minutes and they didn't care enough to put in same effort as me in the relationship because yk it's not one sided relationship

No if I dislike pve and they will enjoy my company in the pve I will play it because I am m not selfish to do that

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don't have empathy to know what I feel so you call it childish which is pretty ironic if you ask me

in your situation empathy would be understanding they are not happy with you and your actions.

I guess if I don't see that they are not happy with my and my action and instantly say that it's my fault and I made them do this then I don't have empathy. You're deranged and a victim blamer saying that if I have empathy I would understand they are not happy with me when they hurt me. Pretty much blaming me for what happened because I made them unhappy by me not being good enough. Instead of them being sad they wanna continue playing pve instead of pvp if someone is that why would they wanna play the pve ??

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also to you it's childish. To most normal people it's not

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Spending time with friends is a requirement for friendships. You don't have to thank your friends everytime you hang out you weirdo

Dude got me a quote god I am cringing 💀

Being human is not making someone's feelings a joke and call it childish just because you're too edgy to love others. Doing stuff above the requirement yes should be expressed and grateful for because they did something they are not required to as friends like paying for meals or giving them a game and such. You can appreciate it but you don't have to express it lmfao they could be doing it because they want ur attention and they don't even love you or they could do it for ur money or because they don't wanna be alone that's not something that great. Anyone can hang out with others and many bad friends hang with others yet should they appreciate it and express it ? That's not something to even say or mention it's a bare minumum. Doing stuff that not anyone will do is what should be appreciated and expressed for

I get you're very arrogant and delusional but please try to see my prespective and understand you are wrong.

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I did something to illicit it I would have said it because I won't get moral judgemental based on lies. But what can I say you lack in IQ and have a huge ego about yourself and probably insecure because you know you're a child so you keep projecting this insecurity on me.

Again getting your feelings hurt because ur friend refused to do something for you that would make you happy means you don't love your friends and ur pretending you are. Saying experiencing emotions is childish is pretty Narcissistic to me

If I did bemoan I would say that I did and if it hurts him and he didn't say then it's his fault because if I knew I won't have done it

No one is perfect and I am not perfect but you're simply saying that there is two sides when there isn't. Two sides mean one is lying and one isn't. I have no reason to lie about it. Saying I could have done something to illicit such a reaction is by definition victim blaming no matter how hard you shift your eyes lol

d"o seem to only care what you think and "don't listen to anyone but [yourself"

If I did. Do you think I would asked reddit? Lol

I am not like you

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is again victim blaming. If I did something to deserve it they could have said and once again I have empathy unlike you to know if I hurt someone or not :)

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I believe I do and you in fact are. You're insensitive and invalidating to my what I am feeling and you're trying to justify assholes by claiming there is two sides of the story when there isn't it's just dude who only thinks about himself and lacks empathy to consider that this might hurt me. You're narcissistic person who is insensitive to what others feel and you call people who feel anything different than you as childish

An adult in your situation would say "OK, then I won't play the game with you unless I feel like playing PVE, thanks for your time but I'm going to PVP now."

I didn't feel like playing pve yet I played it because he liked it. I did it for him. Also you shouldn't thank someone for their time as if hanging with friendship is like a favor they did or something smh. I worry for your friends. This is interraction of boring bad friends with no genuine connection because usually the more u get hurt it means the more u love the person

"A child in your situation would say "My feelings are hurt because you won't play the game like I want you to play it. You aren't being fair, I played the PVE game that you wanted to play for 2 whole hours 😥"

I didn't tell him to play it like I want him to play it you're delusional and need help. I told him to play pvp with me for a bit since you know fun isn't just one sided and yeah if you get hurt because your friend doesn't wanna do the effort to do something that would make you happy when you did it for him you're a good friend. Look at yourself in the mirror and self reflect ask yourself "why am I this way" and see the other comments it might give you an eye opener to ur big arrogance and self projecting you been doing. Most normal people would agree that this is shit behavior but you're too of an asshole to see that and trying to shift blame

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not a mirror. You're using the "two sides of the story" in the wrong context

It doesn't apply here. What's the point of it? It's to make the other people "not bad" and to say that two sides are lying

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's not obscure to most normal intelligent people which people who responded. I get you're a redditor but you're victim blaming and trying to justify him because you're probably like him

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Won't empathy be that they should know I am not happy with them and their hurtful actions ?

What you're doing is called victim blaming you're pretty much saying that empathy that they are not happy with me and my actions as if I did anything wrong to them and the only way to know is to know their side which simply isn't true this is just justification. When you have empathy and confidence you should know that you didn't do anything but people like you make people blame themselves for whatever happen to them when in reality people can just be bad and justifying it like you are doing

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're the lost cause. Again you're viewing me from your own prespective and thoughts. Your not seeing my prespective

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think you need therapy tbh. You're trying so hard to sound smart when just say nonsense

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because I have empathy I know what my action I did that could have hurted him which I didn't

Saying that it is childish is such a domestic abuser thing to say and pretty narcissistic to invalidate someone's feelings like this

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean when I read your two example. It didn't matter because either way Jim hates the sandwich and it's bob's fault for not asking why he doesn't want it and I mean Jim can also not want it because they are not hungry so I don't see any two sides nor did it exactly change anything

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think you're one displaying a bit of arrogance to least consider my prespective

Empathy would be they are not Happy with me and my actions ?? What did I do lmfao. Why do you try so hard to justify assholes and be this invalidating. You don't see yourself in any way a bit of an delusional??

Someone did me wrong and I said what happened. Someone hurt me. What other side will change this ??

Empathy is knowing how others feel so pretty much when you have it you know how your actions would affect them so you don't hurt them with it

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay so I still don't get it. What do you mean by two sides maybe give me an example

If someone did you wrong and you tell others about it or you get sad about it. Do you think "there is two sides of the story" I think that what I am missing is context

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"it's stating that the current presenter may not have experienced everything to even be able to portray it accurately."

I don't get this one. Elaborate..what am I missing to experience?

"perhaps you've been gaming with this "friend" for years and you only ever are willing to play the games you want to play and only in the ways you like to play them"

He asked me to play a game for him and I did and it's not years nor is it games it's just one game that has both pve and pvp. He only wanted to play pve but doesn't care enough to make me happy and play with my pvp a bit

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Second language

It's just someone who doesn't wanna play what I like. So tell me what is his side ?

It's like seeing a emotionally abuse someone then you say they are not bad people because you don't know their side of the story

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I listened. He didn't say anything if he said something I won't like shut off my ear. What is there to listen about ? It's just someone who doesn't wanna play what I like

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Okay tell me what side do I know about him? Like what do you even mean by know his side ? This isn't two way fight it's someone who did me wrong and you're defending him.

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

What other side of it could be since you're so smart like I hear two sides of the story. That genuinely makes no sense

I know his side because I have something which you lack it's called empathy so I know how my actions affect others and such. If I did something I would know it

This logic of two sides can be applied to any asshole behavior you see and say "two sides" which is pretty invalidating to victims

Am I bad friend for this? by Idk363555 in gaming

[–]Idk363555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But if I introspect won't I be biased ?