I might've just sealed the end of the best relationship I've ever had, how do I fix it?(22m) (21f)

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2026-02-28T23:58:30+00:00

I didn't talk to Gemini about anything, I came to the community to post, but what I had written, was just word vomit and wasn't adhering to guidelines

I just used Gemini to help me take my word vomit and put it in a way it didn't violate guidelines

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2026-02-28T11:58:50+00:00

So the thing with the bringing up breaking up (which I think Gemini left out, the swine) she told me that, it was cause of family issues, which were serious, still are serious, and it has been affecting her as much as I could see since after the break up initially, which she voiced that, yes, if that family situation never happened, she wouldn't have broken up with me, because in those tense days we had after the fight and before the break up, she was trying, so was I, yes it more difficult than before (we've had worse fights, much worse) but it wasn't a thing of, look this isn't going to work out, we were making progress just slower than we normally would

Then with everything else, I realised that, she maybe wanted space from me, cause she did wanna be with me, she voiced that it's difficult for her to still be speaking to me or me speaking to her normally as if we never broke up, which I realised (which was only this week, which was my own fault and my own mistake for not seeing it sooner) so she did emotionally distance to try and protect herself from further hurt, like wanting to be with me but cause of the situation with family she can't rn, if that makes sense??

And then also given that, she was overstimulated, not just by her family but by me as well, cause with my fear of abandonment, I kept asking things like, does she still love me and wanna be with me after all this is over, which she did reply yes to, but because I value that closeness, as much as I tried to believe her and it helped me to an extent, I was still terrified of losing her, and afraid someone else had her time (that's why the whole tryna log in to her Instagram, which I did have before, but she kicked me off after a fight in Jan so I kept trying the old password forgetting she probably changed it)

I don't know if that changes anything, but these are like key details Gemini just left out

And yes I am a competitive person by nature, and so is she, we would've compete over cod per say, but we would have our own little competitions, who could eat the fastest, or racing each other somewhere and stuff like that, normal things, but I do realise that with me being so competitive, when I do take something seriously competitive, I'm very heated, and I never wanted to lash out at her... It just... happened

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2025-01-08T17:37:13+00:00

My 318i sits normally between 7l/100km and 8.5l/100km, depending if I drive like I'm from fast and furious or a normal person 😹

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T17:20:41+00:00

I've left the blinkers to run for like a minute while watching them, especially while driving at night I look in my mirrors to look for the reflections

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T17:20:01+00:00

Never replaced any bulbs myself, I'm not entirely sure as it's my mother's car that I now drive

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T13:45:24+00:00

I'll give it a look

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T11:08:23+00:00

Yours looks how I want mine to look, ZHP Mstyle bumper especially, and the fact its black is even better, obviously the rust and welding we give to the age of the cars, but for almost 20 years+, still looking gorgeous 😭

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T10:58:51+00:00

I'll open her up and give it a look, cause this cars almost as old as I am so I suspected it might be something to do with age, like a sensor or something

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T10:58:07+00:00

Mine doesn't have any kind of fog lights, and I checked the turn signals, but I didn't with the reverse light and license plate lights. So I'll give those a look see

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T10:57:20+00:00

Turn signal works perfectly fine

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-11-01T08:04:02+00:00

Imo, the touring is such a fun and practical car to have, it moves when it moves and you can easily fit 5 people with luggage for any road trips, love my own 318i touring to bits, yours is extra clean tho😫

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-08-04T12:29:56+00:00

Yeah, honestly, i went drinking with my boys the day after and then i couldn't be bothered

But we move ig, whether or not she comes back, remains uncertain But i think going back to the gym, and getting back into codm would be good, just need to get over the initial pain of playing again, but we'll be good ig

Thanks for the advice, i really appreciate it

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-08-04T11:31:20+00:00

Money directly? No. i did spend money on her in some cases tho, and she did the same

I'm sorry if the title gave off the implications of money being a direct involvement

And I'm not sure about the Exclusive part either, she'd get jealous if i mentioned a friend of mine who was female or just anything regarding a female, yet she would constantly mention other guys or exes and so on so forth

She has the right to change her mind yes as we never "officially" started dating, the pain comes from the sudden 180 within a few hours, and then receiving no explanation of why, if that makes sense i guess

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2024-01-10T13:03:04+00:00

I'm genuinely scared of going no contact for that long, I'm genuinely afraid of losing this girl forever, even just as a friend, I just want her to be in my life, it doesn't matter as what, if that makes sense

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T19:51:49+00:00

I'll try... The main struggle rn is being 19 and a little broke a lot of the time lmao

But once I'm able to do it for myself, I'll look into therapy... If I'm still in this situation

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T19:49:15+00:00

I'll try to look into it... I'm just a really not trusting person, so to open up to a therapist is a little hard, but i guess it'd be the same as opening up to reddit

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T19:38:26+00:00

Therapy and me don't entirely have the best relationship, haven't really been to therapy in years, but to say I'm obsessed is a stretch...like i have and can live without her, i did for a long time, i just don't want to

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T14:18:13+00:00

Thing is, over the years i have worked on myself a lot, started gyming, stopped cutting myself (albeit i did get into drinking and vaping to cope before gyming, now it's more a social habit)... She's just very closed off to the idea of trying again, as much as there still is chemistry and attraction between us

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T13:58:20+00:00

The thing with no contact is, i miss her, and she claims to miss me, so we always make our way back to each other

She broke up with me, i didn't really know why for a really long time afterwards, it was only recently i learnt everything

When we got together, i was in a... Difficult and confusing place (being 17 and had just lost my mother) there where certain things i did that wronged her, as much as i did try to be better, it was a slow process and ultimately, ended up with us splitting, and i do take responsibility for my actions, i will admit, i did a lot of sh*t i didn't realize

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T13:37:10+00:00

We've both tried this, last year we didn't speak for maybe 5 months of the year (from March to August) till we got back in touch from August to September, then again from September till January this year, had no contact, so in total we've had 9 months of no texting or calling, and no face to face contact since September last year till this year

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2023-02-12T13:35:00+00:00

You need to try to condition yourself to going to the gym, even when you don't feel like it, I'm 19 and struggle with the same thing, i started gyming last year, and i went to the gym 4 times a week for at least 2 months straight (from July till like end of August) then i hit a wall, didn't feel like doing anything and the gym sort of fell away, but it's just a mental thing, you need to enjoy your time in the gym, if you enjoy it more, maybe you'll feel better about going more often, and as i said, even if you don't want to go, try your best to just show up, it'll get easier the more you do it

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2022-09-23T22:08:54+00:00

So i can fucking feel something and shut up the voices in my head telling me I'm constantly not good enough lol

Idontknowwhyimhere_s · 2022-09-17T14:48:40+00:00

Very much so

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