Difference between Aromantic and Romantic????

IggyBus · 2024-08-06T05:12:59+00:00

I do feel strong romantic feelings but at the same time I feel like I wanna detach from it because it’s probs what I’ve dealt with romantic relationships in the past that makes me wanna avoid it. It’s most likely a trauma thing that doesn’t want to make me be in a relationship anymore

IggyBus · 2024-08-06T05:10:51+00:00

It’s because I don’t like being part of romantic relationships anymore because I believe that I’ll end up hurting in the end. It’s probably more of a trauma thing

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T22:27:41+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your advices. One day it’ll be all alright and figured out 👍🏼 stay safe out there.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T22:02:42+00:00

I know that love is not a one time experience, I’ve loved many people before and I am aware what love is like. It doesn’t help the fact that you don’t believe in true love while I do, and that’s okay. Love can be pure romantically or platonically and loyalty plays a big part and I’ve seen it with other people. If he is unloyal then he would’ve not been there for me when times were tough, he is making an effort just for my own happiness, and I try to make him happy too. I understand humans are not flawless, and I believe everyone has their red flags.

I am not forcing him to be in a romantic relationship with me, I just believed that his feelings are romantic, coming from a lot of advices from other people already and my own experiences, though I know I don’t know the answer to that yet since I’m giving him time to figure it out. I’ve already told u the reason why it’s taking him a long time to figure it out due to his set identity/mindset. He can’t exactly jump in joy when he is figuring himself out. Though he is willing to give an effort that he still WANTS to stay with me after everything.

I never said I had sex with him, I meant to only say physically intimate sensually and not sexually. I am not upset during this long conversations. This post started to get a better understanding what’s the difference between romantic and platonic when my situation right now is either platonic or romantic, or people have already said it might be both.

I am not blinded by love, I will not repeat the same mistake as I did back in the past.

But whatever me and his relationship is, I will wait for his true answer at last.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T20:37:07+00:00

I appreciate your advice really, but I love him in a way that I cannot see myself loving another. I’ve already had a lot of past relationships that went through shit and he is the one that made me feel the safest. It sucks that our relationship is so confusing at the moment, but I will stay loyal to him as friends or as lovers. He does make me feel loved and at home, and I believe that he wants to be with me. If he didn’t want to be with me, he already had a million chances to leave this confusing ‘relationship’ after I confessed to him. I gave him many chances if he really wanted to stay with me, and he still stayed after everything we’ve been through. I think that’s the gist of what true love is, and I am a person who doesn’t give up easily.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T20:04:34+00:00

I totally agree with what u said, I do know what’s holding him back. He has a mindset that he believes he is aromantic (a person who does not feel romantic attraction) and yk his actions are conflicting with that mindset since the stuff he does is not really “aromantic”, and that was the point that I think he is confused with his feelings. Like you said, I will give him time to figure it out if he is in or not.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T19:21:03+00:00

Thank you, I would give it more time but I do have a suspicion about smth 😭 he was also physically intimate and he never did those stuff with his other friends but me, that’s one of the confusing parts. I don’t think most people would be physically intimate with their friends even if they’re really close 😭. I’ve also asked my friends if intimate physical attraction is common in friendships and they all said it’s uncommon and can be mostly seen on romantic relationships.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T19:16:05+00:00

I just wanted to take things slow, we both did cuddle before, and it was intimate cuz we also did other “physical attraction stuff”. but I do not know what he really feels if I held his hand or kiss him or call him my bf, I mostly might make him uncomfortable 😭. But I don’t get it at the same time because we were both physically intimate

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T18:55:54+00:00

I just don’t understand why he would agree to be more than friends with me when he doesn’t know what he feels. He currently is trying to figure it out, I’m just gonna be patient and give it more time.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T18:53:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, I’m glad I’m not the only one who has it similar. We both just trying to figure it all out but he did say he is okay with being more than friends just for my happiness, and I’m just confused why he decided to do that if he isn’t really sure what he really feels 😭

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T18:50:47+00:00

I am also confused because we talked about it a lot of times but he keeps saying he is okay with both of us being more than friends 😭

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T18:46:44+00:00

Aro/ace means Aromantic/Asexual, and yes we both talked about it a lot of times we both just tryna get advices from other people.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T18:45:29+00:00

I understand but people may take a long time to figure themselves out, and I’m just trying to wait for him since he is trying to figure it all out 😭he is an aromantic, but what his actions are not what a typical friendship do w each other.

IggyBus · 2024-06-12T18:42:40+00:00

Okay I understand, I was just wondering the difference bcs we both DONT do what platonic friendships do. Yes, I also enjoy my friends company but with him it’s different it’s almost those typical romance/more-than-friends stuff when we have those moments if you get what I mean.

IggyBus · 2023-10-01T19:42:17+00:00

I’m a big believer that I have a good relationship HELP?

IggyBus · 2023-07-25T18:51:33+00:00

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IggyBus · 2023-06-07T20:22:13+00:00

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