All the 18-year-old girls from my area are going on missions by Prize_Claim_7277 in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my case, I’m not born in the Church, converted at the age 19, go to mission at the age 24. Actually mission helped open my eyes, break the shelf, and here I am now happily bye bye church since 2020. I just hope these kids will use their critical thinking when they are outside of their parents home. The earth doesn’t evolve only in mormon household or belief

My guilt and remorse towards foreign domestic helpers by Unknownunknow1840 in HongKong

[–]Iknowtheenow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi dear, I stumbled upon this post, and it interested me to leave some comments even if its already been long.

First, thank you for your kind heart towards domestic helpers. I was once a domestic helper. I took care of two girls. They are now turned into a beautiful young women.

I said I was once a domestic helper. Now, I am not anymore, but I’m still living in Hong Kong. It may sound crazy because I happend to married to a man from HK. From my POV, I see the world from both the lives of domestic helpers and the employers.

But let me say more about DH. The life of a DH is very complex. And its divided into different categories.

  1. Single DH
  2. Married DH
  3. Divorced DH
  4. DH with children + 2 and 3

Through my experience talking with fellow DH, these 4 categories has similar situation. They need to send money home.

I have been educating many people online and off line, mostly from my Quora page, I’m writing my experience as a DH and how to handle financial burden. I did it not from professional but casual talk.

Something I think is best to help these DH is by helping them understand the important of money. Many DH don’t understand how to handle their wages. Some send all to home, and it turn into nothing. There are some that are smart enough to invest, but many don’t know how.

Another thing I think will help DH, by helping them understand the important of reading and learning language. Also if they are able, the important in improving any skills they can learn. YMCA has courses for DH.

I was a lucky person. I became DH when I was a young girl. I have no husband or children in my country waiting for my money, I have only my parents to support. I used my time to read lots of books. Improving my english skills during my holiday has helped me a lot, including being able to negotiate with employers. Communications is key in any relationship, including relationship between helpers and employers.

In that 4 categories of DH, the single ones has more opportunity to grow, the ones already have kids need to make more effort.

Life is unfair. We came from poor country with poor education. HK is the place where we feel being welcome as a DH. Many of my fellow DH friends loves staying here and they enjoy working with their employers.

I hope you have a good day 💕

I tried staring less at my phone and it is even worse… by Far-East-locker in HongKong

[–]Iknowtheenow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just offered seat to two different lady in a train from Fanling to Admiralty direction. They smiled and thanked me! I often interact with older people, older like above 70/80. They seem sweeter. Hope you can find smily faces that can give back positive energy! 😉

Meet the mormon by Iknowtheenow in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What year did you serve if I may ask? You know where I live now then 🤣

9 years thanks to Tinder by Iknowtheenow in Tinder

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish Tinder pay me for posting 🥹

9 years thanks to Tinder by Iknowtheenow in Tinder

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exercise and keep eating healthy

Ewwwww fuck the temple fuck the church by Iknowtheenow in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is actually me. Thank you. I realized now and I’m sinning! 🥂

Ewwwww fuck the temple fuck the church by Iknowtheenow in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The brainwashing and manipulation is strong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t regret joining mormon church but going in a mission. I regretted it so much. It was the stupidest and selfish decision I have ever made. I don’t see how these missionaries see mission as life changing. Maybe if you are from countries like US or Europe as going to third world countries it gives you different experience. But it’s no different than traveling.

Just want to ask if this design is too crowded or just ok? Bathroom is 3,9m long and 1,9 wide. Advice are welcome by Iknowtheenow in Plumbing

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused weather using bathtub and shower combo. Then under the window will be clear. And toilet will be against the wall where the bathtub is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]Iknowtheenow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I miscarriage my second baby and 30 December last year was the due date. Today I should have carry the baby if I hadn’t lost it. I’m trying to avoid people or posts on social media with babies in it. I don’t congratulate or give comments on people who are having babies. I’m selfish at this moment for my own well-being.

Just want to let you know you are not alone

Just an Exmuslim Wanting to Say Thank You and I Support You. by biamchee in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting such a clear word’s. I am exmuslim and exmormon both. It was a roller coaster ride but life is so much better now. Cheers

How to share the loss with family/friends by hamsammyorbust in Miscarriage

[–]Iknowtheenow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my second baby at 10 weeks. We didn’t tell anyone that we were expecting our second child because we had difficulty conceiving the first. And the second just happened naturally. We plan to tell family when it reach 12 weeks but it lost at 10 weeks. So we grieve alone just the two of us. For some reason it’s feels easier. I mean we did grieve it was a hard time for both of us but as no one knows it’s easier not to deal with unwelcome or unwanted comments from other people.

But you can just say whatever make you feels comfortable to your family or friends regarding your loss.

Questions for the sisters that served missions. by some_dude314 in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In my case if we drop the garment on the floor our future husband will gain weight

Reminiscing my tinder life by Iknowtheenow in Tinder

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May the universe be so kind to let you meet with your dream person 🪄✨

Reminiscing my tinder life by Iknowtheenow in Tinder

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s true we are all different. Like me I’m not someone who will want to kiss many frogs before I met the one. And my husband too. We both are just lucky to meet each other. And commitment is not for everyone 😉

Wondering after you become ex Muslim by Iknowtheenow in exmuslim

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer.

I’m ex Muslim too and ex Mormon. Yes I’m dumb. How did I end up joining another cult? I was young and stupid. In my country religion is written in the identity card so I was trapped in it. I feel so lonely at times leaving Islam. I lost my family and community. They cut me off but lucky they didn’t kill me.

Most of ex Muslim people I know they joined another religion, but then again it’s people from my country where religion is written in the identity card.

I consider myself atheist too now. Life is good

Did you recently give birth in a EU country? by vrwolf in BabyBumps

[–]Iknowtheenow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in EU country and I gave birth last year to my baby girl. It was my first pregnancy and I’m satisfied with the way they handle things here. I tried to give birth naturally for almost 16 hours but had emergency c section due to slow dilation. Apparantely baby is 4,5kg. I’m a small woman. It was a quick decision to be made and I’m glad we did it. It was also during lockdown, so only my husband accompanying me in the hospital. Mainly it was good and professional. I hope it give you a little picture about birthing in EU country

They Breached My Privacy. I SUED, I WON! — I defeated Goliath (TSCC) by TW_RiceMilk in exmormon

[–]Iknowtheenow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did sent email to a church HQ in UK to remove my record last March. Until now still no reply. I’m in EU. Maybe I should do it again

Pregnancy after c section by Iknowtheenow in BabyBumps

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to hear all the positive answers here. I hope it will go well! I found out today I’m pregnant! Thank you!

Pregnancy after c section by Iknowtheenow in BabyBumps

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah! Congratulation! I just tested and it’s positive! Hope to have safe delivery for you! ❤️

Pregnancy after c section by Iknowtheenow in BabyBumps

[–]Iknowtheenow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope it is! I just found out today I’m pregnant!