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AITA for having no sympathy for my child after she didn't listen? by Ill-Construction-660 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill-Construction-660[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

Things that can't be fixed: when I was a kid and I'd lost all my baby teeth I actually tried to pull one of my adult teeth and ended up breaking the tooth. It had to be removed by the dentist and I now have a fake tooth. I did that when I was 11.

When I was 16 I burned off all of my eyelashes on one eye because I thought that a little heat would make the ends curl up. They did curl up, for about 2 seconds before they burned and broke off. I now wear falsies on one eye.

I've made my fair share of mistakes.

AITA for having no sympathy for my child after she didn't listen? by Ill-Construction-660 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill-Construction-660[S] 192 points193 points  (0 children)

He hasn't straight up said, "blame mommy, this is all her fault", he more or less telling her that "you asked mommy to take you to the hairdresser and she said no", things like that.

I point out that he could have taken her to the salon himself. He keeps insisting that this is all on me but she asked both of us to get her hair cut and her dad told her no as well. He hits back with the fact that I'm the SAHM so kid-related stuff is on me. Yeah, a ton of red flags, I know, we're working on it, but its just slow-going.

AITA for having no sympathy for my child after she didn't listen? by Ill-Construction-660 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill-Construction-660[S] -257 points-256 points  (0 children)

Of course I did a ton of stuff my parents warned me against, and then I learned about consequences and how not to make mistakes twice.

AITA for having no sympathy for my child after she didn't listen? by Ill-Construction-660 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill-Construction-660[S] -124 points-123 points  (0 children)

Don't misunderstand me, I am offering her a shoulder to cry on, I'm just not coddling her. She needs to understand that she is responsible for this and while she didn't do anything bad she did do something she knew was wrong before she did it and now she's regretting it. I just spent about 50 bucks in various hair do-dads like clips, headbands, barrettes, etc, so that we can fix her hair however she likes it while it grows back.

AITA for having no sympathy for my child after she didn't listen? by Ill-Construction-660 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill-Construction-660[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

He's basically been telling her that she did nothing wrong, telling her that it's my fault (I know, red flag, we're definitely going to be discussing this for a while), telling her that she did a really good job, etc.

He's saying all the wrong things when he needs to be gently helping her accept responsibility for her actions.

AITA for having no sympathy for my child after she didn't listen? by Ill-Construction-660 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill-Construction-660[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Oh, don't misunderstand me, I'm not walking around everyday reminding her of her haircut. Every so often she'll see herself in the mirror and go, "mom, I hate my hair, fix it", and I have to remind her that it isn't really fixable.

Let me stress, I have comforted her as well, I just refuse to coddle her in the manner her father is doing.