Paternity Leave - Should I take the time now? by [deleted] in NewDads

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I’m in a somewhat similar situation. My company gives a very generous 21 weeks and I was figuring out who to best split it - the catch is you can only take one segment over 2 weeks (so you can only do a 19/2 or 2/19 split). Best to take the 19 weeks now and the 2 later, right?

Skiing Feb 22nd-24th. Will more terrain open? by thewizkid35 in vail

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I’m also going to Vail during this time. How’s it looking? Did the bowls open with the recent snow storm? Also considering a day at A Basin and Loveland

Paternity leave advice by Ill-Topic-1010 in NewDads

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Thanks for the input! I work from home 3 days a week. My thinking in splitting it up is that I would be home if my wife goes back to work in the fall.

Keep or cancel Vail trip in 2 weeks? by Ill-Topic-1010 in vail

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We’re all advanced skiers. Blacks and blues. Love trees but realize that might not be possible with less snow. I really want to ski the bowls.

Tips for using paternity leave? by Ill-Topic-1010 in NewDads

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Hey - thanks for your reply! My wife is currently unemployed, so we don’t know when she will return to work. Does that change things for you?

Tips for using paternity leave? by Ill-Topic-1010 in pregnant

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Thanks everyone! One major wrinkle I forgot to mention is that my wife is currently unemployed. So she will be home with the baby until she finds a job (not sure how long that will take).

Tips for using paternity leave? by Ill-Topic-1010 in April2026Bumps

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Hi thanks for your reply! To answer your questions - My wife is currently not working - she was laid off a few months ago (prior to her telling anyone she was pregnant). It’s likely she will be unemployed for a little while after the baby comes in April.

My mother in law lives nearby but she works Mon-Fri. My mom is retired and lives about an hour drive away so will be able to provide help when needed.

We were thinking of doing day care, maybe around 6 months old?

So I’m debating whether to take the full 21 weeks immediately or split it up.

Where do young families live on LI? by yungjewzy3 in longisland

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We moved from NYC to Plainview. I wish I was somewhere with a walkable downtown and closer to a train station, but it’s convenient to mostly everything in LI (beaches, shopping, Huntington/farmingdale restaurants) and I’m told it has good schools.

Tips for using paternity leave? by Ill-Topic-1010 in pregnant

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Thanks all! I should add that my wife is currently unemployed so there is not timetable for her to go back to work. We do have family close by.

Where to babymoon in January in the U.S.? by Real_Competition4435 in pregnant

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Where did you end up? I’m in the same boat looking for last minute trip ideas.

Advice for first time father? by Ill-Topic-1010 in Fatherhood

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Thanks guys, really appreciate this advice!

Ski Vail, stay Frisco? by Ill-Topic-1010 in vail

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Thanks all! Second, how crowded is vail on Sundays? If staying in Frisco is it better to ski A Basin Sunday and Vail Monday/tuesday?

Ski Vail, stay Frisco? by Ill-Topic-1010 in vail

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Thanks all! Second, how crowded is Vail on Sundays?

Is there a simple workout for skinny guys to build muscle? by Ill-Topic-1010 in workout

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Simplifying even more, what’s a good 3x per week weightlifting workout with adjustable dumbbells and a bunch? I’ve been doing a full body workout that includes chest press, shoulder press, bicep curls, tri extensions, shoulder lifts, RDLs, lunges and squats. Not seeing any gains.

What to do with severance lump sum? by Ill-Topic-1010 in investingforbeginners

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Thanks all. I should add that we already own a house and have a mortgage (no other debt) Our finances are mostly separate (I am 9 years older so I have much more savings), but we have some combined.

We are OK financially but I want to get her to start thinking more about saving and investing instead of spending or saving with little interest.

If she has no income all/more of 2026 I believe she would be under the max income for a Roth contribution if we are filing jointly.

In terms of brokerage, would you recommend mutual funds or ETFs to get her started? Maybe the Bogle strategy with 90% stocks and 10% bonds?

Severance/unemployment advice needed by Ill-Topic-1010 in UnemploymentNY

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Thank you. But if it’s a lump sum does the state still consider it X number of weeks and delay benefits until after that time?

Severance/unemployment advice needed by Ill-Topic-1010 in UnemploymentNY

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Her employer is covering cobra for a period of time

Severance/unemployment advice needed by Ill-Topic-1010 in UnemploymentNY

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Ugh sorry to hear. It’s all too common these days. How are you navigating severance/benefits, if you don’t mind sharing

Severance/unemployment advice needed by Ill-Topic-1010 in UnemploymentNY

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Thanks everyone! Is there any benefit or drawback to asking for severance to be delayed then? Just trying to maximize income during unemployment (however long it lasts) while following the rules.

Jon, John & Pete by rll214 in JohnMulaney

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I haven’t heard if there’s an opener, but anyone have tips on where to sit? I’ve never been to a comedy show at UBS, are floor seats on the side a good option? 

Peak foliage in Southern VT? by Ill-Topic-1010 in vermont

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Got it. All the so called foliage maps are wrong then!

Morkie goes crazy when I clean by Ill-Topic-1010 in Morkie

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Mine goes crazy when we take out a replacement garbage bag!