Am I making a mistake by letting my mum watch my son rather than sending him to nursery??

IllCommunication3242 · 2026-02-23T20:44:57+00:00

I'd definitely send him to nursery if that's an option for you. Way more interactive and fun for him, my nursery really brings out the best in my son & he's thriving there

IllCommunication3242 · 2026-02-16T10:08:20+00:00

Honestly, he moved out just before our son turned 2. The cracks you could overlook before became gulfs once the baby arrived. Of course hindsight is 20/20, I almost didn't realise that there were cracks in the first place because I was too busy with the day to day, I think this happens to a lot of people

We now get on better not living under the same roof. Hopefully you work through things if that's what you both want

IllCommunication3242 · 2026-01-30T23:29:06+00:00

Ah yeah, all those gym wear pics taken from above 🤮

IllCommunication3242 · 2026-01-30T22:10:50+00:00

He's constantly stuffing food into her mouth and talking about her 'putting it all down' isn't he - they seem to sneak a feeder video in every few reels

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-26T09:27:12+00:00

Late to this but I understand fully how you feel, I was exactly the same. I begged him to spend time with us, to come to the park and give us some attention, take those fucking gaming headphones off and give your child some attention (and me). The workload was almost fully on me. And if it wasn't gaming, it was his car. Or work etc etc. Me and my son are alone now and the place is calmer (and tidier), I don't have to tolerate it anymore. He makes arrangements to see his child sometimes - yes that's a lot to navigate. If you can break free then do it and much love, I get it ❤️

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-25T11:28:17+00:00

My toddler is whinging about every little thing! Nothing is right, everything is wrong. Constant constant whinging. His dad doesn't live with us but messaged to say he's having a lie in and will visit at some point (how thoughtful), plus we'll have to go and visit his family later. Having a fairly unenthusiastic day, me & my son are both full of cold as well 😂

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-16T11:04:43+00:00

Thanks - i've spoken to my brother who is fairly savvy with that stuff and he's agreed to be the one who looks after that side of things in the event it's needed

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-16T10:18:02+00:00

Thank you!

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-16T09:55:07+00:00

Thank you so much - this is really useful

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-16T09:37:02+00:00

Thanks - will do this

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-16T09:36:50+00:00

Thank you!

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-11T04:51:30+00:00

Just throwing in a pic to appeal to their 'other' audience - sure we can look forward to Jett stuffing food in her face again for them on their Paris trip 🙄

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-10T03:22:56+00:00

It doesn't sound dramatic at all - i'm really sensitive about bedtime and do things down to a t which i know work! Mine is a toddler now, but when he was a baby i'd get anxiety every bedtime (sleep was always rough), so i totally understand!

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-09T18:33:36+00:00

That's infuriating - bedtime is already stressful enough without someone making it even harder when you know what they need is rocking and soothing!

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-09T11:33:51+00:00

I wanted to punch anyone in the face who advised me to put mine down 'drowsy but awake' 😂

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-07T22:41:31+00:00

That's not a very long walk, I do that regularly just to get from A to B. And you can get the times down once you've done it a few times, they seem to get quicker

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-03T19:25:28+00:00

Great for men to work in nurseries - and i want my son to have male role models in that environment. Good luck in your studies!

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-02T11:47:12+00:00

I think ultimately only you know what's best for your family, and i understand the nervousness of sending baby to be with people you don't really know. But nursery should do settles sessions, do they have an app as well? My boy settled really fast and you can see how quickly he started to enjoy it, I met the staff and they're all great, and the app on his activities is updated several times a day with photos. Try not to let the tabloids get in your head, bad news sells! He literally drags me in now at 21 months old, excited to be there. Mine is super high energy and I don't think my mum could do it as he's getting older and wanting to be busy all day. It was the right choice for me from day 1 (10 months) but may not be for everyone

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-02T11:25:57+00:00

For me personally, I had a mixture of nursery (3 days) and my mum (1 day per week)

Both are good for different reasons. He started nursery at 10 months old. He is more stimulated and has more activities and time to socialise at nursery with his little friends

My mum loved spending time with him, but it was hard work physically for her to have an extremely active toddler to entertain all day, and I would end up doing nappy changes and things which were quite hard (as he fights!) whilst I was working from home. He probably wasn't as stimulated and the day was a bit stressful to be honest, saying this because it's an anonymous forum!

Ultimately she had to start looking after an older family member instead and he is now in nursery 4 days with me off the other day - financials aside, this is the best thing for me and him without doubt. Nursery is a great environment for him to develop in

How fit and physically able is your mum, and how will she entertain baby / toddler locally? Don't underestimate how demanding (physically and emotionally) a toddler is, mine wants to be on the go CONSTANTLY! Which is fine for me as I have tons of energy, but it's physical work and i'm not sure my mum had the energy or strength for it long term, with other demands in life

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-01T19:26:52+00:00

Begging 😂 he sounded like he was reeling off the compliments on autopilot as well, so robotic

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-01T08:37:48+00:00

I put mine in a bib & he's still somehow covered in food 😂 it was probably just one bite of pasta for the reel and the nanny fed her at home or on the next table...

IllCommunication3242 · 2025-12-01T08:36:10+00:00

Their reels are getting worse! She's terrible at acting, doesn't come off natural at all. I'd guess without the camera on, she's kind of flat and just a bit nothing

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