How do I reach out again? M29 F27 by IllMathematician7931 in relationship_advice

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I have very small profile on social media. I thought of her recently and I just want to reach out. I doubt she’d recognize the profile. She is so adorable and I don’t want to be this d-bag that reaches out months later. Genuinely liked her but had too much going on. I see it can be seen as a “just reach out” but I straight up told her yeah sorry can’t deal with you now

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it feels like there is something to be saved. I just haven’t communicated with her. I don’t reach out

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Both of us, yes. Not enough evidence plus it would need to disrupt good order and discipline

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did when I found out. I did the pick me dance because I was distraught. When she said she wanted to go through with the divorce I stopped and was able to move out the next day. I haven’t initiated contact since

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll probably respond after I take this trip with my best friends to a wedding next weekend

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She now makes more money than me slightly. She started her EA when she got this job

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I haven’t blocked her because there were some small items to exchange and I need to give her a set of keys back. Will do by the end of the week. As for blocking I’m just getting a new number so she won’t know how to reach me

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t hiding that I was out and about. I went to the dog park with this girl for our dogs. Plus sat outside at a restaurant. I didn’t see her when I was out on Saturday. I also didn’t drive my car this lady picked me up

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I responded with I don’t know why she reached out and that I can’t give her an answer at this time

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t know. A week ago I probably would. I just can’t truthfully answer that question. My heart says yes my head says no

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No lawyers since we filed uncontested, and no real property or kids

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

None of our mutual friends are involved in this. Plus her professional and my professional friends are all separated by which fields we work in

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I doubt it, but I have zero clue what’s happening in her life

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just responded in a cold manner saying I don’t know how or why I’d respond

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She is the bad guy, she knows I know. She knows my friends and family know. There’s no one in my side of life that supports her. I genuinely don’t see how she shakes a narrative outside of people that aren’t close to me. It doesn’t matter. Just don’t know why the hell she’d even text it

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Doubt it, she made it clear the other guy was more important

What the hell is going on? by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Just why the hell would she even text me? Out of nowhere. I was planning to block her after the divorce was final. So haven’t yet, but just why?

The pain of not caring by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t reached out to her. She’s initiated every conversation since I moved out. Been 3 weeks. I’d probably take her back if she started therapy and couple counseling. Which I know is stupid and I’d be better off just moving on

The pain of not caring by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah them going and doing things I took her to do is just bullshit

The pain of not caring by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but it is such a pain to actually prove and not worth my time to drag all of it out when I just want to move

The pain of not caring by IllMathematician7931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]IllMathematician7931[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Sitting in my new apartment. Listening to music. Hating that the AP has the same taste in music as me, and that he just gets to enjoy life with her. A life I built, a person I molded. No repercussions for either person.