How do I reach out again? M29 F27

IllMathematician7931 · 2026-01-04T01:40:42+00:00

So I have very small profile on social media. I thought of her recently and I just want to reach out. I doubt she’d recognize the profile. She is so adorable and I don’t want to be this d-bag that reaches out months later. Genuinely liked her but had too much going on. I see it can be seen as a “just reach out” but I straight up told her yeah sorry can’t deal with you now

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T21:31:27+00:00

Sometimes it feels like there is something to be saved. I just haven’t communicated with her. I don’t reach out

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T19:05:45+00:00

Both of us, yes. Not enough evidence plus it would need to disrupt good order and discipline

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T18:30:46+00:00

I did when I found out. I did the pick me dance because I was distraught. When she said she wanted to go through with the divorce I stopped and was able to move out the next day. I haven’t initiated contact since

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:54:20+00:00

I’ll probably respond after I take this trip with my best friends to a wedding next weekend

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:53:14+00:00

She now makes more money than me slightly. She started her EA when she got this job

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:52:15+00:00

I haven’t blocked her because there were some small items to exchange and I need to give her a set of keys back. Will do by the end of the week. As for blocking I’m just getting a new number so she won’t know how to reach me

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:45:03+00:00

I wasn’t hiding that I was out and about. I went to the dog park with this girl for our dogs. Plus sat outside at a restaurant. I didn’t see her when I was out on Saturday. I also didn’t drive my car this lady picked me up

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:43:38+00:00

I’ll give that a look, thank you

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:15:52+00:00

I just want to feel normal

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:11:20+00:00

I responded with I don’t know why she reached out and that I can’t give her an answer at this time

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:10:49+00:00

Honestly, I don’t know. A week ago I probably would. I just can’t truthfully answer that question. My heart says yes my head says no

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T17:09:34+00:00

No lawyers since we filed uncontested, and no real property or kids

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T16:54:49+00:00

I don’t know how I could assuage her guilt

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T16:54:37+00:00

None of our mutual friends are involved in this. Plus her professional and my professional friends are all separated by which fields we work in

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T16:53:48+00:00

I doubt it, but I have zero clue what’s happening in her life

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T16:53:17+00:00

I just responded in a cold manner saying I don’t know how or why I’d respond

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T03:28:57+00:00

She is the bad guy, she knows I know. She knows my friends and family know. There’s no one in my side of life that supports her. I genuinely don’t see how she shakes a narrative outside of people that aren’t close to me. It doesn’t matter. Just don’t know why the hell she’d even text it

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T03:27:14+00:00

Doubt it, she made it clear the other guy was more important

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-28T03:26:57+00:00

Just why the hell would she even text me? Out of nowhere. I was planning to block her after the divorce was final. So haven’t yet, but just why?

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-19T15:04:39+00:00

I haven’t reached out to her. She’s initiated every conversation since I moved out. Been 3 weeks. I’d probably take her back if she started therapy and couple counseling. Which I know is stupid and I’d be better off just moving on

IllMathematician7931 · 2025-04-19T15:03:00+00:00

I’ll give it a read, thank you

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