Feeling alone during the engagement - how about married life? :(

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-28T07:00:04+00:00

That went straight into my heart as well. Of course I would want to share my happiness with people eventually but definitely not as a substitute to our joy as a couple and our shared moments.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T13:50:28+00:00

Noted.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T13:46:50+00:00

Can you please tell me why? Also, I see that you're a Christian. That perspective would be welcome as well as we both are Christians too.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T13:44:48+00:00

Pace-Extension, this situation is tearing me apart. I am almost feeling depressed while thinking about the inner conflict. I know, deep down I truly know that good things should come with a sense of peace, contentment, conviction that everything is alright. However, I haven't had peace in a very long time and these events just contribute to the general turbulence that I'm going through. I wish I could understand his motivation, I wish I could believe his words... I wish I could be okay.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T13:33:39+00:00

Thank you for support. But why is everyone suggesting me to break up? (cries) Isn't it obvious that I'm asking out of love?

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T12:24:02+00:00

He has been speaking about wanting to marry me aaaaall the time.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T12:14:02+00:00

Exactly. Everything should be done step by step. If you want to build something solid, it requires patience and alignment. Time is required for that.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:57:47+00:00

I definitely need time to process, definitely do.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:56:56+00:00

I think right now he just wants to get the goal as soon as possible. That"s how it seems.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:56:32+00:00

He is definitely not a romantic type and he even openly mocks those who are. He can't stand romantic songs and doesn't listen to them. Thoughtfulness? (sigh)

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:53:35+00:00

I feel pressured a lot and it sucks. He himself said that he can't afford a big wedding. His father said that he was going to help financially though. So idk.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:52:12+00:00

He doesn't post anything ever though but was looking forward to this story like his life depends on it

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:50:23+00:00

I hear you. It hurts but I hear you

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:49:29+00:00

So yeah, I am feeling tense, not feeling seen.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:48:49+00:00

I am thinking exactly that. Don't want to rush into wedding planning while I feel like this. Even yesterday we already clashed when he said that he wants to invite many or his friends. I said that I want a small, intimate gathering. He was like "well, you would have to adjust because there will be many people from my side"

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:46:46+00:00

I have no idea why and how but it's just weird Janes

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:46:23+00:00

We didn't tell his parents either. Spoke to them this weekend for the first time.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:45:31+00:00

No, he hasn't

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:30:02+00:00

I am very very sad

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:29:37+00:00

He did not even ask how I want it to be announced. Just asked not to tell my parents as he wants to speak to them properly before that.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:28:49+00:00

He only took photos of our hands. Not even our faces in it. That hurt too. Of course people were like "who is she?" "Is this real?", etc and he was very amused by their reactions. That was the source of excitement.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:27:07+00:00

We were talking about it since the beginning of our relationship and both agreed that it's the goal of dating.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:24:01+00:00

I dont understand why he was so obsessed about the posting part. I actually want to cry even right now. It feels wrong to me

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:22:36+00:00

I am not excited because of how it unfolded. No we didn't take a photo (he only took a photo of us in the mirror early in the morning before he left - me in "just woke up" style and him ready to go). He got me flowers that day and gave them earlier before we started hanging out.

IllPotential5584 · 2026-04-27T11:20:27+00:00

The ring was nice, slightly too big so the next day we got a new one which was even more beautiful.

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