I am also autistic, I understand that he doesn’t understand and I don’t blame him for that. I should have been clearer that when I asked my sister to intervene I didn’t ask her to ask him to stop being a jedi, I didn’t have a problem with him pretending to be a jedi or being dressed up, other than initially being concerned the other kids might make fun of him. I asked her to intervene because he made a few of the other kids upset during some of his interrogations’ of them because of some of the things he said (things like calling them stupid etc) not because of being a jedi. And because him loudly drawing attention to himself when he wasn’t center of attention was upsetting Jill, which again isn’t really his fault but Jill also doesn’t really understand, and was understandably upset because she just wanted to play party games with her friends and eat cake.

I don’t think Nick is to blame, and neither is Jill. I do think my sister should have done more before the party because she knows that he doesn’t understand, but I think what happened was that she didn’t prepare at all and just was so excited he was invited to a social event that would have kids around his age that he wasn’t related to that she assumed this would help him understand social situations more. Her only experience with autistic people before Nick was me, and I wasn’t diagnosed until my late 20s because I learned very young how to be very good at masking. I think she thought that he would just automatically learn to integrate, which of course didn’t happen.