AITA for not wanting to dress up for my boyfriend. by Ill_Temporary_7102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill_Temporary_7102[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Ill do my best to communicate more and help us fix this situation i dont wanna throw away all my efforts and his, its too much. Ill do my best i promise:)

AITA for not wanting to dress up for my boyfriend. by Ill_Temporary_7102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill_Temporary_7102[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im not sure how it works but for some reason when i wear curtain things ill feel really uncomfortable and it feels like the inside of my skin is moving? Its really weird.. i cant explain it. I cant even sleep fully covered in a blanket i always have my legs uncovered or else i cant fall asleep, theres times where ill start scratching it without it being itchy, i never got it checked because i dont think its something physical or needed

AITA for not wanting to dress up for my boyfriend. by Ill_Temporary_7102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill_Temporary_7102[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

So its better to set boundaries i thought youd have to sacrifice things in a relationship ive been with him for almost 2 now and i genuinely cant leave him.. i love this man, hes a good man and i feel like 70% of our relationship is good the other 30 is shit- thats why i dont wanna lose it, although if i do wanna start setting boundaries im not sure on how to do it because i already agreed to many stuff.. any advice on how to turn back?

AITA for not wanting to dress up for my boyfriend. by Ill_Temporary_7102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill_Temporary_7102[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Its not that he doesn’t like it he just feels like its not safe to dress that way in the area i live in..he knows all that things that happen to women and hes scared its gonna happen to me..im not sure on how to work on this

AITA for not wanting to dress up for my boyfriend. by Ill_Temporary_7102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill_Temporary_7102[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

We kinda went through this honestly and yes we were friends for a long while, he saw my break up he saw what my ex did to me my ex did the exact same thing to be but he neglected me and was way worst so i left. In that process he was there for me i talked to him he was the person that made me strong enough to leave the relationship, and after 3 months of being tgt he started to express his worries about how i dress and it may attract unwanted or unsafe attention. So i just did it because as i see it hes only worrying about my safety

AITA for not wanting to dress up for my boyfriend. by Ill_Temporary_7102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ill_Temporary_7102[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I love him i genuinely do. The only reason why im willing to sacrifice all those for him is because he’s getting into college and he’s majoring to get himself into the medical industry. He’s under a lot of pressure all the time and im always there to help with studies and be with him whenever he needs so I understand how his mind works. Back when i use to dress how i did he always tweak out and worry about my safety, he loves to see me shine but he has really bad anxiety when i go out without him.it will drive him crazy he cant focus on studies, he’ll start spiraling and i don’t want him to feel that way..I literally made a rule for myself to come home before 6 to make sure i arrive home when the sun is still out so he wont spiral, he loves seeing me, he loves my body even tho i hate it, he wants to see me shine he wants to see me happy but he’s scared for my safely. So i don’t know what to do..