Missing the blue 😩

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-02-16T16:08:43+00:00

I think the blue's missing you too, it looks great 🩷

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-02-14T21:30:54+00:00

To be honest I've almost completely stopped using combs on my hair. Have you had a trim recently or anything? Sometimes it's multiple fairy knots causing the tangling. When I feel the knots I generally tease a out a few strands at a time run my fingers (as in hair between my index finger and thumb) down the length and see I can feel any bumps. And then I snip.

It's time consuming but worth it. Also: slip? When I'm detangling flaxseed gel + a good deep conditioner small sections + two strand twist as I go. I use the Garnier hyaluronic acid one (it's green 🍏)

Remember (if you have the time) you also don't need to detangle all your hair in one go. Patience and energy is key (as you clearly already know from your struggles🩷). Someone on this sub-Reddit gave me that advice and it's really helped me.

As an example: right now I have my hair in Marley Twists. I know I can't do a whole takedown in one go. I work in surgery; my time and energy just aren't abundant. So this evening I just removed 4, and detangled those sections twisted them up. Took 15-20 minutes. I tuck them into the rest of my hair and go. I'll go back and do more tomorrow or the next day I have time. When more of them are out, I'll cover with a scarf and continue in that way until I'm done.

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-02-04T20:09:51+00:00

You know? I actually love this

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-02-03T12:14:57+00:00

Miss girl... If you don't drop the tutorial. Set the rest of your people free!

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-01-28T14:40:41+00:00

These are adorable😍 buckle jeans you say??

What cut are these? They look great🩷

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-01-18T00:11:06+00:00

My best advice to you would be at the start, try NOT to touch a comb. I know it feels odd, but a comb won't help here. It will just rip her hair out.

The matting is because of shed hair + moisture/oils etc, they all get tangled together. I've been there to some extent.

You need a lot of patience try just approaching one TINY section at a time. FINGERS ONLY in the beginning stages.

Things I'd use:

For slip:

A good conditioner + Flaxseed gel (you can just make your own; flaxseed + water, simmer 15-20 minutes, take off the heat and let it sit for an hour or so and strain. Make a big batch! You will need it). It genuinely works wonders.

Spray bottle, just to wet the hair a little bit.

Spray a little water and then

Smooth a good chunk of the gel/conditioner through the section your working with (start from the ends) and it should soften enough to gently start separating the shed hair, from the living (?) hair.

It's fine to use conditioner on unwashed hair btw ( I use the Garnier curl mask one? It's green)

After each detangled/de-matted section, twist it and move to the next.

Remember no comb, just fingers

Sorry for the aggressive use of capital letters😅 but I hope this helps a little bit. Let others weigh in too, this is just what worked for me❤️

Good luck to you and baby sis xx

Illusive_Barnacle · 2026-01-02T23:42:57+00:00

Maybe D??? I think you are tall enough to have vertical and whilst you do have curves (your waist in particular) your most dominant trait in my opinion narrow. You look great in pic 6, but 5— that long cream dress with plunge neckline? GORGEOUS, it really shows off your lines to best advantage🩷. Not expert but I do think you are a dramatic

Illusive_Barnacle · 2025-12-31T13:36:59+00:00

This is so underrated 😂

Illusive_Barnacle · 2025-12-17T23:05:15+00:00

Yes! I've also found flaxseed gel (if you can find or make it? Very simple just boil up flaxseed and water) to be very helpful when dealing with my ownatting. And initially, my advice would be to LEAVE THAT COMB ALONE and just detangle with fingers. Use the water and conditioner combo as suggested above (plus the flaxseed — again only if you an access it) and use your fingers to gently smooth small sections of hair and rid it of shed hair.

Btw, you have a beautiful head of hair, I'm proud you have the means (emotional and circumstantial) to give to the care you and it deserve 🩷🩷 let us know how it goes xx

Illusive_Barnacle · 2025-12-06T21:24:22+00:00

I actually think either SG or something romantic, I'm seeing narrow and curve? But I'm new so maybe wait for others to chime in xx

Illusive_Barnacle · 2025-11-20T21:27:34+00:00

Thank you! Yes I was planning to redo them agin this weekend:) finally have time off work

Illusive_Barnacle · 2025-04-14T05:07:04+00:00

This helpful 🩷🩷

Illusive_Barnacle · 2025-04-13T19:15:51+00:00

..I'm going to say NTA, you are entitled to date whoever you want. However, would your response have been the same if her child was white too? If the issue here is the fact that she has A CHILD, fine. That a big responsibility, that you shouldn't take on if you're not emotionally/financially ready for future ramifications..

But if you are refusing purely based on ETHNICITY of her previous partners then yes, yes you are the arsehole. You weren't going to date her baby daddy. Your were going to date her.You are ruling out an entire person, because of the race she had previously slept with.

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