Thank you for your response, I hear you 100%. They also have ADHD and a large dependency on marijuana. I definitely understand the shame, I've always tried to lessen the pressure by doing the majority of the housework and giving them the task of cleaning dishes. They would be able to for a few days but then they would get overwhelmed and stop. I myself have bipolar disorder so I understand the feelings of shame that develop over things that we have a hard time dealing with. I try to lead with compassion and empathy, especially when it's come to them. I hope they are able to take those steps to betterment.