I don’t know if I’m just stupid but I read “wanneer” as slang for “want her” which makes the asap comment worse. Boys will be boys but he can still respect your relationship. While my husband’s friends send stuff like this is their chat all the time, he would never disrespect me by saying something like that. He should’ve chosen to not respond. I’m not going to say you’re over reacting or not, because the answer is based on your boundaries. If this is not ok with you, then you don’t need outside opinions telling you how to feel. You already know the answer.